Originally Posted by Ameena*

I don't think she should shield you from it, you should know your tribe and be aware of it but that doesn't mean you should divulge your tribe to any person that asks you.

At the end of the day, tribe is not the problem, but how people use it to hurt and demean others is.



I'm sorry sis but even Somali people that come from different variations of tribes can still be very tribalist, it doesn't matter. And I don't think I'm generalising when I say that Somali families are very hard to please, as I stated before I was in the same situation and I am a Somali sister whereas you are a Afghan sister. Surely the situations are different, but your situation would be much more harder on you since you're from different cultural backgrounds and therefore it will be harder to communicate between families.

Trust me when I say this, Somalis are in general a very warm, loving and gentle people but like Arabs we're very isolated and like to keep to ourselves. InshaaAllaah if you're really serious about it have lots of meetings with his parents, extended family, and close family members so as to get a bit of a better understanding of them.

I think you're just being a bit far-fetched by saying that you want to marry him at the age of 16, just look at the options inshaaAllaah and if your intentions are pure and you want to marry him so as to have a halal relationship for the sake of Allaah SWT then inshaaAllaah go for it. Make du'a and pray istikhara as well.

May Allaah make matters easy on you inshaaAllaah.