The point I was trying to make is that the sister clearly described to us that the Family she's marrying into is a wonderful Family. I would understand in the case (for eg: if she didnt know the family) etc to tell her to be cautious. She didnt ask you all to give her an account of how hard somalis are to please etc. That has nothing to do with her marrying this brother. She already knows this family quite well and from what we have read it's a beautiful Family. Whom I personally know btw. She was seeking Islamic advice.
No youngsister, I am not planning to move in with them
. I just dont want this thread to turn into a place where somalis share their woes about how difficult Somalis are etc. If thats what you want to do feel free to start another thread.
Cause thats not the point of this thread InshaAllah.
Many have given the sister valuable advice. She's young but shes very mature. I''m sure she'll come back to personally answer u all again, but the sis never said that she's marrying him tomorrow. She plans to keep studying! It would be nice if the accusations stopped.
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Many young people who cannot afford moving in together, get married but live with their families.
Do you think your mother will be ok with this? So you can finish your education until he is fully able to provide.
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? She's not planning to stop studying. Maybe u shud read her posts again!
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| I think the sister who posted this thread wants to get married based on the fact that she believes that she ''loves'' the Somali brother, a love imo which sounds like the ones in movies. Ie. ever-lasting, forever, happily ever after etc. At the end of the day she needs to understand that what makes a marriage work is not just love, but companionship, care, and a lot of give and take etc.
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You are Judging her & even twisting her words. She never said that she's marrying him solely on an emotion! Yes she did say that she loves him, did you also read the rest? "I love him for Allahs sake"? You are desperately trying to belittle the sister, she's very offended so you know hence why she didnt reply. That might not be your intention but thats how you come across. Real love does exist, dont mock it. Marriage does come with alot of responsibility, thats the same for everyone whether your 16 or 20 or 30.
Jazks.