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Al-Zaara · **Re: Very hurt and need advice...Friends... -** 10-13-2008

You haven't studied psychology are taken any courses/lessons in psychology I assume? It's actually quite random that a person goes disliking a lifestyle and then ends up living that lifestyle they disliked, later on themselves. Some call it karma. She spoke bad about the things her sisters did, hated them and judged them, was unfair and hateful... Now she's herself the person she so disliked. Or did she really dislike it? Who knows.

She's in a very confusing state right now, probably torn between practicing Islam, seeing no sisters of her own do it, feeling worthless or something else and then the lifestyles around her are so tempting or different, be it Western or Eastern, at least against the Islamic teachings, makin' things even harder.

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Also, something else I wanted to know, staying friends with her - its not haram, because the hadith of the Prophet of choosing your friends carefully...so is it still ok I be friends with her, even though she still talks to boys etc. (but has no boyfriend?)

No, it's not haram to stay friends with her. Even though she has a boyfriend or a dozen others, it is not haram for you and her to be friends.

Her sin is not your burden in the end, right now I can understand how it is hard to deal with and such, but haram to be with her 'cause she sins, isn't, otherwise it would be funny how Muslims can even live in non-Muslim societies or have relatives that do not practice their religion.