Jazaakum Allahu khairan to all.

Passionate love, by definition, is an intense desire that has sexual arousal at its base. Passionate love, after the fulfillment of the sexual desire it was based on, wares off. Therefore passionate love is not enough to attain the security and comfort we as human beings seek in our relationships.

We need passionate love, intimacy, and a sense of commitment to make our relationships work, and actually last.

This is why in our marriages we need to strive to ensure that our relationship fulfills our needs on all levels: psychologically, emotionally, physically, etc. Before all of this of course is the intention we keep behind our marriages--worship to Allah, and striving to maintain a righteous household that is the first step in building a healthy society. Our marital relationships should be based on mutual trust, respect, compassion, empathy and communication.

The images we see in the media are hardly reflective of what it takes to actually keep a relationship going, or how to get one started in the first place.