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"And live with them (ie your wives) honourably"
[an-Nisa 4:19]

al-Haafidh Ibn Kathir, explained that living with them honourably included "using soft speech to them (i.e. not speaking to them harshly) and ameliorating your deeds and appearances as much as you can". He then said, "As you would like that FROM her, so do the same FOR her".

هَلْ جَزَاء الْإِحْسَانِ إِلَّا الْإِحْسَانُ؟
Is there any reward for good other than good?
[ar-Rahman: 60]

"However, keep in mind that you must instruct the people with kindness and mercy. Don’t take this answer and shove it in their faces. Be kind, gentle and patient." - Imam Suhaib Webb, advising after giving an answer.

O Allah, Lord of Jibril, Mika'il and Israfil, Creator of the heavens and the earth, Knower of the unseen and the seen, You will judge between Your servants concerning that wherein they differ. Guide me with regard to that wherein there is dispute concerning the truth by Your leave, for You guide whomsoever You will to the straight path.
Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You lest I misguide others, or I am misguided by others, lest I cause others to err or I am caused to err, lest I abuse others or be abused, and lest I behave foolishly or meet with the foolishness of others.

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Abu Sayyad *iwannagetmarried.com* Status: Offline Posts: 6,833 Reputation: 50271 Rep Power: 91 Join Date: Mar 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ar-Riqaq - The Heart Softeners - 02-10-2007 "And live with them (ie your wives) honourably" [an-Nisa 4:19] al-Haafidh Ibn Kathir, explained that living with them honourably included "using soft speech to them (i.e. not speaking to them harshly) and ameliorating your deeds and appearances as much as you can". He then said, "As you would like that FROM her, so do the same FOR her". __________________ هَلْ جَزَاء الْإِحْسَانِ إِلَّا الْإِحْسَانُ؟ Is there any reward for good other than good? [ar-Rahman: 60] "However, keep in mind that you must instruct the people with kindness and mercy. Don’t take this answer and shove it in their faces.* Be kind, gentle and patient.*" - Imam Suhaib Webb, advising after giving an answer. O Allah, Lord of Jibril, Mika'il and Israfil, Creator of the heavens and the earth, Knower of the unseen and the seen, You will judge between Your servants concerning that wherein they differ. Guide me with regard to that wherein there is dispute concerning the truth by Your leave, for You guide whomsoever You will to the straight path. Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You lest I misguide others, or I am misguided by others, lest I cause others to err or I am caused to err, lest I abuse others or be abused, and lest I behave foolishly or meet with the foolishness of others.