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Pk_#2 · **Marriage to Relatives / Non Relatives - Which is preffered. -** 08-22-2007

Bismillah-Ir-Rahman-Ir-Raheem

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,
Question:
One of my relatives has come to me for the purpose of marriage but I heard to marry from non-relatives is preferred for the sake of the future of the children and other reasons. What is your opinion on this matter?

Answer:
The principle has been stated by a number of scholars. It points to the fact that genetics and heredity has an effect. There is no doubt that genetics has an effect on the physical and psychological make-up of a person.

This is shown in the hadith where a man came to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) and said,''My wife has given birth to a black child.” ( He was opposing that child as all of his ascendants were of light skin.) .

The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) told him, ''Do you own camels?” He said, '' Yes.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said, '' What colour are they? ” He said, ''Red.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) asked him, ''Is there a dusky one among them ? ” He said, ''Yes.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) then said , ''How has that come about ? ” The man replied , ''It is perhaps due to the strain to which it has reverted .” So the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) told him , ''Perhaps that son of yours is due to the strain to which it is reverted. ” [1]

This is evidence that genetics does have an effect and there is no doubt about it. However, the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) also said,

''A women is married for [any of] four reasons: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her religion. So try to marry one who is religious, may your hands be smeared with dust. ” [2]

Therefore, the most important matter in proposing to a women is her piety. The more religious she is and the more beautiful she is then the better she is, regardless if she be a close relative or distant [non-] relative.

The religious women will protect the man’s wealth, children, and house. Beauty fulfils his needs and lowers his gaze and he will not look to others. And Allah knows best.

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[1] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

[2] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen

Source: Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women - Darussalam Pg.187-188.

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Pk_#2 !"£$%^&()_ Status: Offline Posts: 8,732 Reputation: 37636* Rep Power: 73 Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: UK Way of Life: Undisclosed	Marriage to Relatives / Non Relatives - Which is preffered. - 08-22-2007 Bismillah-Ir-Rahman-Ir-Raheem AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, Question: One of my relatives has come to me for the purpose of marriage but I heard to marry from non-relatives is preferred for the sake of the future of the children and other reasons. What is your opinion on this matter? Answer: The principle has been stated by a number of scholars. It points to the fact that genetics and heredity has an effect. There is no doubt that genetics has an effect on the physical and psychological make-up of a person. This is shown in the hadith where a man came to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) and said,''My wife has given birth to a black child.” ( He was opposing that child as all of his ascendants were of light skin.) . The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) told him, ''Do you own camels?” He said, '' Yes.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said, '' What colour are they? ” He said, ''Red.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) asked him, ''Is there a dusky one among them ? ” He said, ''Yes.” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) then said , ''How has that come about ? ” The man replied , ''It is perhaps due to the strain to which it has reverted .” So the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) told him , ''Perhaps that son of yours is due to the strain to which it is reverted. ” [1] This is evidence that genetics does have an effect and there is no doubt about it. However, the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) also said, ''A women is married for [any of] four reasons: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her religion. So try to marry one who is religious, may your hands be smeared with dust. ” [2] Therefore, the most important matter in proposing to a women is her piety. The more religious she is and the more beautiful she is then the better she is, regardless if she be a close relative or distant [non-] relative. The religious women will protect the man’s wealth, children, and house. Beauty fulfils his needs and lowers his gaze and he will not look to others. And Allah knows best. ________________________ [1] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim. [2] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim. Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen Source: Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women - Darussalam Pg.187-188. __________________ Allaahumma Inni Muqallib-Al-Quloob, thabbit quloobanaa 'alaa deenIk Lord, I stand in dire need of any good which You (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala) may bestow upon me (28:24)