Salaamz,

sorry for not replying to messages, been so busy at uni, thot id quickly just reply, before i have to hit my bed, ive got work in the morning !!!!!!

Thank you for all the information, much appreciated.

when someone suffers from depression, there are different types, and different levels, sometimes we can help them, but sometimes we cant.
Its a shame these things happen, and it hits us harder when we learn its a muslim brother or sister. with society changing and adjusting to life, more problems are around compared to when our parents were younger, or grandparents. All we can do is help them, and encourage those who stray along the path of islam.

In summer , the young boy aged 26, was married with a wife, and living in there house, because he was a heavy drug abuser, his wife left him taking there daughter with her, and in that year he was trying his best to get better, he stopped his drugs, but unfortunatly, had major side effects, and resulted in him, being admitted to hospital, and on medication.He also suffered from paranoia. His parents, especially his mum, helped him as much as they could, but to look after a 26 yr old man, who is stubborn and wont accept his illness, is hard. you cant control what they do, 24/7, 7 days a week. u cant control, where they go, young lads will do as they please. go see there mates, maybe do a few stuff which they shouldnt.

but when someone is suffering from depression, but in and out of his phases, etc u cant tell or know that he/she is going to do something stupid. Just as he was on the road to recovery, he was looking forward to seeing his daughter, even if he knew that things would never be the same between him n his wife. She rung him and told him , that shes leaving and going to pakistan with the kid, and that he will never see them again. News like that is going to hit him hard, and when he was acting normal, everyone thought he was getting better, but he was actually, getting ready to end his life. As he walked up to the nearest railway line, he just stepped in front of an on coming train.

People, say, it is the parents responsibility, etc , or carers who should look after there sons/daughters etc. but it is hard, to keep an eye on someone 24/7, especially someone who is 26 years old, living a seperate life, and gave the impression that he is all well.
Because his dad was my dads best friend, my mum n dad agreed to help out for the janaza, but i noticed that, my dad found it hard to hold his janaza in a mosque, if you told them what happend. why? does a mosque not carry out a janaza for someone who has committed suicide?

We did get a mosque eventually, but it was after a few attempts.

W'salaamz
shorty xx