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**Umu 'Isa** · **Re: Advice -** 11-19-2007

Jazak Allaah khayr for opening this thread brother.

I've noticed this quite a lot too. From what has already been mentioned. When they are saying their shahada its like 387846 people are there for you but the next day its like no one even cares? no one bothers to check up on you? Its like you are left all alone to face the big bad world as a muslim, a whole new way of life you don't know anything about!

Its hard to find friends that will stick by you through thick and thin, i've been muslim for 2 and a half years now alhamdulillah, and for one and half of those years i had no friends!! only about one yr ago I met a wonderful sister

who I consider to be my only real friend! alhamdulillah.. The rest are all acquaintances, people I bump into every now and then. Its like assalaamu alaykum and wa alaykum salaam everytime i see them.

The community is seriously lacking for support for new muslims. There needs to be emotional support, financial support, accomodation... for those who have been kicked out of home, or those who cant practise their islaam there. Financial support for those who have to sacrifice their deen just to support themselves etc. too many times i've seen new sisters in islaam struggling to support themselves, whilst struggling to pray and struggling to wear hijaab all at the same time. It is very hard in the west and there is not enough support from the ummah!

For the sisters that are looking to get married, its very hard to do that when their wali who is usually a well known sheikh agrees to being her wali but tells her she has to FIND the guy herself!! how in the world is she meant to do that. subhanAllaah. Its ridiculous really. The ummah is in such a sick state.

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Umu 'Isa Say: 'He is One' Status: Offline Posts: 2,141 Reputation: 16382 Rep Power: 40 Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Australia Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Advice - 11-19-2007 Jazak Allaah khayr for opening this thread brother. I've noticed this quite a lot too. From what has already been mentioned. When they are saying their shahada its like 387846 people are there for you but the next day its like no one even cares? no one bothers to check up on you? Its like you are left all alone to face the big bad world as a muslim, a whole new way of life you don't know anything about! Its hard to find friends that will stick by you through thick and thin, i've been muslim for 2 and a half years now alhamdulillah, and for one and half of those years i had no friends!! only about one yr ago I met a wonderful sister who I consider to be my only real friend! alhamdulillah.. The rest are all acquaintances, people I bump into every now and then. Its like assalaamu alaykum and wa alaykum salaam everytime i see them. The community is seriously lacking for support for new muslims. There needs to be emotional support, financial support, accomodation... for those who have been kicked out of home, or those who cant practise their islaam there. Financial support for those who have to sacrifice their deen just to support themselves etc. too many times i've seen new sisters in islaam struggling to support themselves, whilst struggling to pray and struggling to wear hijaab all at the same time. It is very hard in the west and there is not enough support from the ummah! For the sisters that are looking to get married, its very hard to do that when their wali who is usually a well known sheikh agrees to being her wali but tells her she has to FIND the guy herself!! how in the world is she meant to do that. subhanAllaah. Its ridiculous really. The ummah is in such a sick state.