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Originally Posted by Belief_is_Power  Salam alaikum brothers and sisters
As many of you know I am a muslim convert. I have a good job, good place to live and good deen. However when it comes to marriage, I dont want to marry a muslim. yes thats right!! But why you ask? Because in the Ummah their is to much racism and you have to be a rich person to get married. Let me explain.......................... before you jump on my back.
I went to this brother and asked him that I was interested in his daughter. I had just graduated from college, had and still have a good job. however this brother said NO! I asked him why and he said that I was not arab and that I did not fit the qualtfications for his daughter. you have to make $100,000 a year he said, and that I was not Egyptian.
Well I thanked him and went off on my way. I tried about 9 other brothers and the answer was the same. No no no no no!!! you are not arab, pakistani, Indian etc, and you do not make $80,000 and up.So thats it I have had enough, forget marrying a muslim!!!!!! To much racism and high expictations. I make a good living to provide for a family, but because of my race I was denied by "so called muslims". And this is the view of the majority of muslims around the world unfortunatly.
I have decided to look for a Christian or a Jew to marry. It is not forbidden for me, and the intermarriage racism that once existed in the christian/jewish majority is now almost gone. not totally, but better then 40 years ago.
Todays muslims are more worried about preseving their racial blood or nationality, then letting a good muslim marry his/her daughter. This disgusts me, but it is the truth....... please post your views and anything else that you want to share. |
salam bro,
Ok,I'll admit when I read the beggining of your post I was a bit shocked,but I kind of understand where you're coming from...your point of view comes from experiences..*sighs*,very bad experience.
Im arab myself,let me assure you NOT ALL FAMILY ARE LIKE THIS..my family wouldn't really mind if I married a turk/italian/greek/arab/egyptian/ etc. as long as their religious and that I like them.That's what it should ideally be for anyone who calls himself a muslim,but,as I believe it had been said before
we don't live in a perfect world.
You're going to have to keep on looking,any rejection you receive for an absolutly worthless reason,you need to shrug it off and move on,remember that this isn't your "naseeb" and that when you do find "her",nothing will stop you from marrying her.(Insh'allah).I do hope she's a muslim though,people have been mentioning how difficult it would be marrying someone from a different background(although I disagree with that,I believe it would be more
challenging,but also more cultivating and refreshing...anyway,that's another subject)imagine someone from another religion...
Im not saying it wouldn't work out,it might work out perfectly,but then there's the issue of raising the children muslims...and so on.What im getting at is that it would be more "secure" marrying a muslim girl(who has a strong iman).
Wish you the best of luck!
