| "Heretic" i reckon..
Status: Offline Posts: 576 Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Tukwila, WA Gender:  Way of Life: Muslim |  Re: Marry a muslim? heck no!!!! -
12-14-2007
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Originally Posted by Belief_is_Power  I am American, and as you know their are more muslim male converts than sisters. My chances of finding another convert to marry are about the same as me winning $80,000,000 dollars. Same backgrounds put up barriers and make Islam look racist. I guess black people should only marry other black people, same for whites. |  actually Akhi, the numbers that i hear are that by 3 to 1 women outnumber men as reverts in the US. don't know the color margin though...
i married a Somali woman and an ENTIRE Masjid of people told her not to marry me! of course it IS a Somali Masjid, but they told my wife things like: a)Americans kill their wives, b) he's a revert so he'll leave the religion c) you won't understand each other because of cultural differences; on the bright side, one person said, "well, as long as he isn't African American, go for it!" i'm going to go out on a limb a AGREE with you that folks have a poor view of African Americans. however, i don't fault Muslims 100% for that! the best thing that you can do is have Sabr and show yourself to be a better person.
let me ask, do you attend all 5 prayers at the Masjid? do you have a beard and non-western clothes?
Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala is testing you. concentrate on your deen and thank Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala for the chance to engage in the act of worship known as Sabr! start shopping at different "Muslim" venues and attend as many lectures as you can in your area. keep an eye on the Brothers at Fajr and Esha as alot fewer hypocrites attend these prayers. meet and greet as many as you can and get to know them, for the sake of Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala, NOT for any other reason. Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala will take care of the rest.
ALSO, check with your Imam as he may know some sisters looking... you DO have a few strikes against you, but take it as an honor and show Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala that you are grateful for the chance to earn extra rank!
DO NOT marry a Christian or a Jew! there's a catch, catch 22. you really CAN'T marry one! why? because you will have to "get to know" or "hang around" non Muslims in order to get the chance! that is NOT good for your deen!
May Allah, Subhannahu Wa Ta'Aala make it easy on you and may He assist you! 
Islam is the ONLY RELIGION that prepares you for the Day of Reckoning!
The Qur'an, with it's Tafseer, is the BEST TEXTBOOK on how to prepare for it!
The Messenger of Allah(pbuh), with his Sunnah, is the BEST TUTOR for it!
ALL THREE are a BLESSING & MERCY from Allah(SWT)! |
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