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Originally Posted by Sister-Ameena*   Well, when you're alone with a sister, and your intentions are not pure then you know the third party is the shaytaan right?
Allaah's hikmah is far beyond ours, so therefore he knows that when we say, ''Oh it's just one look, one time'' you know it's not only one look or time that you're gonna do it. What if someone is really attractive? Then you wanna act upon that look, approach them, and then all of a sudden you can be lead into the haraam, dating.
If you see a sister, who's mashaa Allaah on top of everything -- her studies, household stuff, and taking care of her family and you decide that you want to know more about her then there are other pathways to do so. You can find her brother, or a brother that knows her and ask some questions you'd like to know.
Falling in love is not haraam in Islaam, the Prophet (SAWS) loved his wives very much and celibacy is even forbidden in Islaam. The Prophet (SAWS) used to encourage those who can get married, to do so because it leaves you away the from haraam. We as Muslims believe that love comes after marriage, that when Allaah brings two people together, he puts love in their hearts - in the most halal way possible.
Hope that clarifies things inshaa Allaah. |
So does that mean I can only fall in love after marriage, not before it? What if my love is pure with clear intentions and not evil eye, then what my Sister? If Iīm alone with her and my intentions are not pure then third party is Shaytaan, right. But what if my intentions are pure?
Let me tell you something which I think will help you get clearer image of my point:
Thereīs a Muslim girl in our neighborhood and I have a relationship with her that of just a friend. I admit I used to joke around with her but never looked at her with evil intentions, infact just as a friend of my sisters and thus my friend as well. One day she came to us and I was absolutely alone at home. She came to return something my mother gave her. I was surely afraid of asking her to sit around with me but I still offered her something to drink. She sat and started to drink a glass juice as I continued with my home work further. I donīt know what intentions she had or what she thought of, she embraced me from behind and said, "We are alone here. Why not let ourselves get out of control?" I said, "What are you doing? Sorry but donīt make me slap you hard!" She replied, "Why canīt we? Why canīt you be in love with me?" I said, "Love? Is that what you call love? No! This is just lust!" She started crying and asking to forgive her and she made a mistake etc. She made me promise her that I wonīt tell her parents. She actually said to me, "What can I do? Itīs such age I canīt control."I said, "Just pray to
Allah to let yourself get through this difficult period of time." She totally agreed with me and asked, "I have met many men in this world and have actually committed so many such sins but today I saw purest of men in the world. You have just amazed me! I canīt believe some men in this world can be so good. But why didnīt you agree to it???" She asked politely. My reply was, "Because I love already fallen in love with a girl with my pure intentions and heart. Iīm a Muslim and have believe in Mohammad (P.B.U.H) who asks us to refrain from committing such sins. But ever since I have met her I have truly never committed any such sin or looked at a girl with evil intentions. Just have love for her deep down in my heart." She couldnīt believe it. She said, "I have met many evil eyed men in this world but today I have truly fallen in love with someone who is so pure in his life only because of his love......" I argued a lot with her not to love me as it can only give pain to you.
Believe me Sister, I even never looked at that girl which I love with impure intentions. I infact never used to look at her, I tried my best to avoid seeing her but donīt know why but eyes were not in my control. I never had bad intentions about her - itīs what I believe you can call pure love.
Ever since then I have started to believe love is pure and it surely prevents you from committing sins.
Your thoughts on this now??????