salam bro!
i just read ur thread...and i (kinda sorta) understand what you r saying..but you need to keep in mind that the number one reason u should love a person is for their islam and their faith...
and you can't be "alone" with her..you might not have wrong attentions but she might does. and ****aan has its way of making people sin..he's not gonna come right out at you and tell you that you should do something bad..he;s gonna do it step by step and one thing might lead to another... and he might be able to convince you to do something that you would later regret....
i would say find more about herself, as in her personality... you can't "love" someone for their looks...you have to look at the both ends... it might just be affections...and you might think you "love" her now and all that stuff but later you find out that you don't...
that's just my way of looking at it..you have to make the ultimate choice..don't let ****aan win