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assalamualeykum,
I'm 29 years old, and although I've worked for some years in the past, lately decided to get a degree and I'm now applying for a post as judge assistant. The fact is that, despite my age, I have no economic resources and have to depend on my parents which are two lovely persons... most of the time. When it comes to my conversion to islam they are all but sympathetic. They dislike the five daily prayers routine and they think the mosque is a place full of fanatics that want to wash your mind.
I try to comply with their orders since they do not command me to disbelieve in Allah and his Prophet (sas), but I resorted to combining prayers so they don't see me praying too many times a day and reduced salat to the fard minimum.
I also have problems in attending mosque, especially for Friday Prayer, and lastly declined to go until I get their permission.
I don't know if I'm acting correctly. Any advice would be welcomed.
Mahasalama,
Habil
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Waalikumussalam brother Habil
I suppose you can explain to your parents that all your good qualities i.e you respecting them, obeying them etc are due to Islam. You can quote them the verse that
017.023 وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلا تَعْبُدُوا إِلا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاهُمَا فَلا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلا كَرِيمًا
017.023 Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.
Al-Qur'an, 017.023 (Al-Isra [Isra, The Night Journey, Children of Israel])
If your parents still think that Muslims are fanatics then tell them that you are a muslim but not a fanatic. But you cannot change your parents' thinking in a day. Give them time and may be after a while, they will understand you and they will understand Islam. It is a good idea to ask them to read Quran and then point out how it is a book of fanatics.
May Allah guide us all to the right path
ALI