As to who the second wife of the prophet (saw) was it was sawda (ra)
as to when they were married i think it was when she returned from abyssinia correct me if I'm wrong
the prophet's (saw) wife before Sawda(ra) was Khadijah (ra)
My question to get you thinking:
Which sahabiyaat had her hand chopped off defending the prophet of Allah (saw)??? and which main battle did this happen in??? 