How do you define 'spirit of love'? A mother smacking the hand of her child who is constantly reaching for the fire, is not love because it involved a form of punishment? To show a certain act is abhorrent to islam it needs to be met with punishment as a lesson to the offender as well as a deterrent to others. This does not mean the offender should be ostracized thereon. Neither should one consider himself superior to the offender and harbour hatred in his heart. He should be treated like any other. That is the 'spirit of love' that is the islamic concept of hating the sin - not the sinner. Hating the sinner would lead to more evil if this principle is neglected.