Peace my dear.....
when you love someone you will bear all the sufferings my dear ???
Allah loves to test his servants to see that true servant refuge to him asking him for his mercy to give that servant more and more than mercy...
you won`t take with out giving and Allah doing this to his servants to make them give more and more then he will reward them with something more than the suffering he put them in...see Allah is The Most Compassionate The Most Mercifull my dear...
he won`t give you if you did not do the good deeds or left the bad deeds so,Allah is pushing his servants to turn to him to give them more and more....
I wish you will understand what I meant my dear....
may Allah guide you and reward you with paradise....
Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen
peace...
your sister with all my respect:
Amat Allah

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