Hi CamillaRose, hope you're well!
There is a verse in the Quran that says: "Allah is enough for me". I think it was the Prophet Ibrahim A.S (Abraham) who said this.
To me, that says it all. If you become muslim, you would find acceptance from
Allah, the lord of all the worlds. This acceptance would would be worth infinitely more than any kind of (non-muslim or even muslim) acceptance you could possibly find in this world.
That's all I can think to say right now.
But yeah, it's nice to see you taking an interest in Islam, I hope you will find what you are looking for, inshaAllah (God willing)!
Oh, and before I forget, the following is some advice given by a revert brother to another revert about his experiences. Although some of it is not directly relevant to you, I think you might find some good tips.
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i wont really speak about what has happened much, you're most keenly aware of what has happened, how it happened and how you feel it effects you and nothing that you say can really convey the extent of the matter to the other people on the forum. As a person who embraced Islam what seems a long time ago now, I am keenly aware of what you're going through... thankfully in my family life i was spared a lot of what you are going through and are about to go through (things usually get worse before they're better, but alhamdulilah Allah s.w.t says in the quran that after every hardship there is ease - dont forget that), although i recieved a lot of similar comments from people that i know, friends, workmates and i actually broke up with a girl to become muslim so you can only imagine how well that went down (its rather hilarious now, 5 or so years on, but was a lot less funny then)
The best advice that i can give you is to do what i did with my parents that really seemed to work.
1. dont be OVERTLY muslim.. - i.e, dont start calling adhan and praying in the lounge room etc.... you can get around these kinds of things and practice your religion without shoving it in their faces - this might be a good thing to do if they're particularly touchy, and or ignorant.
2. begin to systematically implement as much islam in your life as you can. Start with what you know and dont try and do everything at once, but once you get used to doing what you know, then learn more and implement that.
Believe me, when your parents recognise that you're not out drinking and going to clubs or parties, you're not fooling around with girls, you're attempting to treat them with the utmost respect and to serve them as best you can, you're devoting yourself to learning and bettering yourself - they will love these qualities about you. They cant NOT love these qualities because its what every parent wants of their child. First show them these things and be consistent and then slowly introduce "islam" as a topic, talking point, etc so they slowly begin to associate islam with those awesome righteous actions.
3. make dua and pray for you parents and family to Allah s.w.t. The prophet s.a.w has informed us that the strongest weapon of the believer is prayer to Allah s.w.t and he's also informed us that Allah answers the prayers of the believers. never underestimate the power of prayer.
4. in carrying on with the topic of bettering yourself... focus a lot on your manners and focus upon growing the quality of patience within yourself. It is obligatory on a muslim to always treat his parents with kindness, compassion, respect and obedience in ALL matters - except those which are against God.
5. whilest you're working on implementing what you know, focus on learning and memorising as much deen as you can. learn the wonderful hadith of the prophet s.a.w that enjoin kindness, compassion, respect, justice and love. Learn the ayat of quran that deal with such things. This will help you no end when you do finally start introducing islam as a topic of conversation later on.
6. find some good muslim friends, perhaps even some reverts you can relate to. It is a very hard emotional thing to go through. If you do not surround yourself with those who are practicing and knowledgable in religion then the stress of such hardship could lead you to leave islam or commit disbelief in Allah s.w.t. In the long run, everything will pan out ok, once your family realise that you dont believe in terrorism, islam doesnt advocate terrorism, you're not going to marry tomorrow and beat your wife the day after etc etc etc. The reason why i suggested learning patience is not only because you're going to have to put up with ignorance and offensive remarks from people, .. this issue is not going to dissappear tomorrow. It will be some time before things are "idealic", and if you dont have patience and steadfastness, you will find things a lot harder.
theres other things you should also consider as a new muslim, however they're not really related to the subject of your family and are worthy of a different thread.
good luck and may Allah bless and reward you and continue to guide you along the straight path.
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