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    Asalam alaikum,
    I am a revert and I am inshallah getting married soon, that is when I find the right person.
    my question comes about after nikkah is done, then on the wedding night what is supposed to happen? I won't know this person alot, so Is expected to be intimate that first night or can you wait until your ready and know them more? I'm to nervous to ask this in person
    JazakAllah

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    First Mabrook! May ALlah bless ur marriage ameen n make u one another the coolness of each others eyes ameen.

    Ofcourse u can wait n take it slow. There is nothing wrong wit that. I assume ur a sister so the way u feel is normal, as I have heard similar stories from sisters who felt this way n I don't blame them.

    I think wat happens on the wedding night, is wat the husband n wife want, u don't have to follow any rules. Wen Allah makes u husband n wife, u can share anything, incl: letting him know how u feel. InshaAllah he'll understand.



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    I have heard that if you are a virgin you can take it slow


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    Well i reckon the first thing that would happen would be that you finally realised your married, your stuck for life! AAH then you go smash your head on the wall... lol nah...

    Anything can happen on the wedding night akhi/ukthi... theres nothing that your suppose to do.. just go with the flow... fly like a buttefly sting like a bee

    wish i could get married yet people make the halal so hard for me and the haraam incredibly easy to get..!

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    What happens on the wedding night?
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.

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    You you could just peacefully go to sleep. I mean, a wedding day is tiring regardless of how little time you spend on the actual ceremony.




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    salam !!!
    mashalla its good to see muslims espc. reverts eager to learn and seek every detail of life according to islamic teachings may Allah give u a pious perfect husband who fears Allah and fulfils his duties to his Lord and the people ameen!
    anyway there is nothing which is fard or obligatory on that night not to my knowledge but there are aadabs and ettiqutes from sunnah which can be found easily.
    there r arabic books out there which have been written on this topic i.e. the road to marriage! but as i said in arabic however english i have not read myslef but im sure u can find one inshallah!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Muezzin View Post
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
    haha :P ur a joka bro


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    You could just stay up talking properly one-to-one instead of will Mahrem and Wali


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    Some Advice & Etiquettes for the Wedding Night| Sheikh Sm al-Mjid|



    The first wedding night is like no other. It is the night where two people embark upon life in a whole new world with its own unique qualities and experiences.

    It is a doorway that is being crossed for the first time. The two people are able for the first time to enjoy what has always before been forbidden to them. This new permissibility applies to only one person. For the husband, this person is his wife, his life-partner, the woman who is going to be the mother of his children. Should not this woman deserve to be treated with the utmost care, consideration, and sensitivity from the very first moment?

    True, this is not the first experience that this young man will have had in dealing with women. He will have grown up surrounded by his mother, his sisters, and other female relatives. However, though he will have been interacting with these people for many years, that interaction will have had limits placed upon it. There will remain secrets, a world hidden from view.

    However, the meeting of a husband and a wife for the first time changes all of that. It is the beginning of a whole new kind of relationship, in many ways deeper and more personal than any other relationship that he will ever have, bringing with it a deluge of unique experiences and considerations. Between the husband and wife, nothing remains hidden. There are no veils and no barriers, and no shameful parts. How could there be, since the husband is a garment for his wife and she is a garment for him. They are to seek comfort and tranquility in one another.

    What does the wedding night mean for the husband? It signifies the end of one important stage in life and the beginning of another, one that will assume for the rest of his time on Earth. This means that he should take care to start off this new life correctly, taking every step with the utmost care, deliberation, and patience, and knowing full well the direction in which he wishes to proceed.

    The wedding night should be a night filled with tenderness, intimacy, affection, and joy. In that night, the husband should be seeking to establish ties of love and affection with his wife and placate her worries and her fears about the new life she has just embarked upon, so that she feels secure and at peace with him.

    There are some etiquettes that have been related to us regarding the wedding night that we wish to remind every newlywed about, that perhaps he will benefit from them:

    1. The husband should place his hand upon his wife's head and offer a supplication for her.

    He should place his hand upon the front part of her head at the time when he first starts to approach her or after that. He should mention the name of Allah Almighty and then pray for blessings, and then say the supplication that was taught to us by the Prophet (peace be upon him): O Allah! I ask of you the good of her and the good of what you have placed in her nature, and I seek refuge with you from the bad in her and the bad that you have placed in her nature. [ Sunan Ab Dwd (2160) Sunan Ibn Mjah (1918) Mustadrak al-Hkim (2811) and Sunan al-Bayhaq (7/148)]

    The hadith speaks about taking hold of her forelock upon reciting this supplication. However, there is nothing wrong if the husband abandons some Sunnah practice like that one if he feels it could bring about some negative consequence, like angering his wife or causing her to feel an aversion to him. Such feelings might come about if the woman is unaware of this Sunnah and she misunderstands its intended meaning.

    It is not a condition for this supplication that his wife should hear it. There is nothing wrong if the husband recites the supplication in such a manner that it is only audible to him. There is nothing mentioned in the hadth to indicate that it is preferable to say it loudly.

    2. The husband and wife should offer two units of prayer together. This is an established practice of the pious predecessors, as related in the following narrations:

    Ab Sa`d, the freedman of Ab Usayd, said:


    I got married while I was a slave, so I invited a number of the Prophet's Companions, including Ibn Mas`d, Ab Dharr, and Hudhayfah. We started to offer prayers and Ab Dharr went forward. They said to him: Hold up.

    He said: Is this so?

    They said: Yes, whereupon I went forward to lead the prayers, though I was a slave and possession.

    They taught me, saying: When your wife enters upon you, pray two units of prayer, then ask Allah for the good of what has entered upon you and seek his refuge from the bad of it. Then the matter is for you and your wife. [ Musannaf Ibn Ab Shaybah (17147) and Musannaf `Abd al-Razzq (3822)]

    Shaqq said:

    A man called Ab Jarr came and said: I have just married a young lady and I fear that she shall dislike me.

    `Abd Allah b. Mas`d said: Affection is from Allah and dislike is from Satan who wishes to make you dislike what Allah has made lawful to you. So, when she comes to you, bid her pray with you two units of prayer. Then say: O Allah, bless me in my family and bless them in me. O Allah! Bring us together in what you bring together in goodness. And cause us to part, when we part, towards goodness. [ Musannaf `Abd al-Razzq (10460-10461), Mu`jam al-Tabarn al-Awsat (4018) and Mu`jam al-Tabarn al-Kabr (9/204) all of these with authentic chains of transmission]

    It is important for us to take heed of the fact that this practice of offering two units of prayer together is not established on the authority of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Consequently, it is not something that we should become stern about putting into practice. Likewise, we should not think to blame anyone who does not do so, as if it was an established and indisputable Sunnah that was being neglected.

    The issue is an easy one. If the husband and wife wish to postpone the two units of prayer until later, they may do so. They may wish to spend time together first, speaking, relaxing, and getting to know one another, so she may overcome the fear and shyness that she is likely to feel.


    taken from http://www.islamtoday.com/showme2.cf...sub_cat_id=696
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    "The husband and wife should offer two units of prayer together."

    That is so beautiful.

    To the thread starter-
    What happens on the wedding night is whatever you want to happen; simple as that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Muezzin View Post
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.

    Bwahahahaha ! Genius !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Muezzin View Post
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
    HAH!

    Street fighter? I'd rather play Assasin's Creed....coz Altar Ibn La-Ahad is bloody gorgeous.

    Maybe then my kids would look like him.


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    Assalamu Alaikum

    its all halal so go with the flow.


    personally i would never want to rush things, and make sure everyones happy


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    first night of marriage.....erm tell sweety to stay at home and hook up with your mates and chill,when you come back food should be on the table,if there's nothing then she has failed the first test

    im kidding.........just take it slow,stay with her,perhaps helping each other cook dinner and then go outside into the garden and watch the stars while talking and stuff

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    Quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender View Post
    Asalam alaikum,
    I am a revert and I am inshallah getting married soon, that is when I find the right person.
    my question comes about after nikkah is done, then on the wedding night what is supposed to happen? I won't know this person alot, so Is expected to be intimate that first night or can you wait until your ready and know them more? I'm to nervous to ask this in person
    JazakAllah
    its not necessary to be intimate, but that IS what generally happens...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Muezzin View Post
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
    I was about to write, rent a movie from netflix and butter up some popcorn but playstation works too...




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    You could be funny and... right when you're feeling REALLY sleepy act intimate... Then fall asleep on her! Preferably with loud snoring.

    Joking of course, because I assume you want to STAY married to her
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    lol @ all the replies

    I think following the sunnah of the dua and the salah, to begin with is great.Because i mean, your both sitting there....like....er..hi, how r u , blah blah and its so nerve wrecking! atleast this way u have sum guidelines to busy yourself with. And ofcourse a gift should be given to the wife, which i think is a traditon anway.

    I think the best thing to to do is NOT to consumate the marriage on the first night..Rather I think you should relax, talk, watch a movie, or even go for a walk! (without the knowledge of the sleeping household ofcourse, otherwise they will find this very strange!).


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    Quote Originally Posted by Muezzin View Post
    Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
    Lol! It seems so obvious now you think about it!


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