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    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.



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    Default Re: Question regarding muslim women.

    that is really scary i never heard of it before

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    Default Re: Question regarding muslim women.

    All I see in your post are huge generalizations.


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    Asslamu Alikum.

    Some Muslim couples are getting a divorce over petty reasons. People need to take marriage seriously and understand problems will arise eventually. Though many people have a false perception of marriage to begin with.


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    For the record, Muslim men cheat too. I have heard of a case recently.

    The overwhelming majority of Muslims do NOT commit zina. It is not correct for you to be so worried about it. Brother, have faith in Allah. Marry a righteous Muslim woman and ask Allah to keep you both steadfast and protect you from infidelity.



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    Quote Originally Posted by crayon View Post
    All I see in your post are huge generalizations.

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    HUGE!!

    Brothers and Sisters, we can never know what happens in these cases, and whos fault is it. It not for us to judge these people or even the people we get married to etc. Allah knows what we dont know!!!

    Muslims, men and woman are humans, we all make mistakes and regrets.

    Your trust and faith is with Allah.

    Only recently one of the brothers was asked what would he do if his wife runs away with your money or with another man.

    And he gave the most amazing answer! He said "As long as a husband, i have done my duty to her, i have done everything to uphold the islamic values, and she leaves me, then so be it, cause inshaAllah Allah will not hold me against"

    SubhaanAllah, this should be our attitude in life, in marriage, in everything we do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post


    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.



    I understand your concern but please don't generalize
    I don't thinks it's fair that you see one case and base the same for all others...it's like your saying I would too and that my mom is doing such or all my female cousins, friends, and all the married sisters here
    It's not the case.


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    Bro i think you are living on the wrong side of the world.On my side muslim men cheat their wives a lot.

    So , dont just generalise.Just remember that there are more bad people on this earth than good ones ;)


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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post

    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?
    There is no difference between muslim women and non-muslim women in this case.

    I know, some women cheating on their husbands, request a divorce and want to marry another men, because those another men are richer and they think, those another men are better than their husbands.

    But I found 'many many many' women who always try to be a good wife and they always loyal to their husband although their husbands are poor or even have bad deeds. Don't ever thinking every woman is not loyal to her husband.

    Or try to compare, how many women who cheat their husbands, and how many men who cheat their wives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post


    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.



    As it's already said: you generalize too much, brother, and that's probably the biggest problem with your post.

    Also, whenever a woman cheats her husband, that means she cheats him another man, so on every cheating woman comes a cheating man.

    I personally heard for many stories of men who divorced their wifes for zero reason.


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    Assalamu Alikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu

    You shouldn't be angry, you should feel sorry for them.

    218. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Do you know who is really destitute?" They said, "The destitute among us are those who have no money or property." He said, "The truly destitute person among my community is someone who comes on the Day of Rising with prayer, fasting and zakat, but having insulted this person and slandered that person and consumed the property of this person and shed the blood of that person and beaten that person. He will give this person some of his good deeds and that one some of his good deeds. If his good deeds are wiped out before he has paid what he owes, some of their wrong actions are taken and thrown on him and then he is thrown into the Fire." [Muslim]

    All of their ibadat and efford is void,and for what? to insult and put down others!
    How foolish some people are.

    Tell them that their lucky she left. You don't want a woman like that in the first place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post


    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.

    Mashalah Mashallah you are talking about the muslims women in general is like you catched them all cheating , As a muslim you shouldnt talk like that about muslim women because hamdollah they are the best clean protected respect women in the world they are fear from Allah Subhanahou Wa Taala take the example from your mother and sister and aunty and others from your family im sure they are clean respect women and that mean as there is a bad people there is also good people and most of women cheaters are christians and jewishs but absolutley not muslims women hamdollah

    So dont worry and get married and trust your muslim wife

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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post


    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.

    brother it bothers me also like when i log on to this forum alll i see is bad stories never any good ones lol but seriously the amount of stories i came across has really made me afraid also.. it saddens me and i go through all this mixed emotions of how our next generation of kids will be... there is alot of people leaving there spouse for no reason like once i read somewhere this man left his wife just because she got a bit fat.. he left her for another woman and even encouraged that woman to leave her husband as she was also married and she even had kids.. he also did so as you can see its very sickening altogether! i don't know what to think anymore, i just pray!

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    man left his wife just because she got a bit fat.
    May allah teach lesson to all people like that so that never will again be misuse of marriage.



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    Quote Originally Posted by limitless View Post


    Why is it that I always see muslim women cheating on their husbands when the husband has been good to them in every possible way. I don't understand this at all. Why are muslim women now adays always requesting a divorce over simple problems or saying they don't love their husband anymore and want to marry another men?

    I am just furious about this! I don't know if people have noticed anything lately, but this is just getting out of hand. A friend of mine's mother had cheated on her husband and left everything for some another man, who she "loves a lot". What is this nonsense??????

    It just brings back my old days bad image regarding marriage and women in general. How do I even tell someone who is planning to get married, oh no they won't cheat, their "awesome and great"? When the reality isn't so good..

    I just feel really down about this. Seeing my friend and how the family just fell apart. I don't even want to think about it, I just no longer feel like trusting anyone.

    1. stop forcing women into marring men they cant stand, take care of her and her needs and maybe she wont think of cheating.

    2. take a reality check, get over your ego's becuase are you trying to tell me Muslim men don't cheat on their wives?


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    Assalamu Alikum,

    Just wanted to make a quick note- be careful with generalizations.. not all women or muslim women cheat.

    Also, there could be many factors on why couples divorce.. people seem less willing to work it out.. divorce appears to be more acceptable nowadays.. perhaps they are not in love with their mate and nor do they respect them, etc..

    Is it possible that Allah created all sorts of different characters, (from one end of the spectrum to the other)- People differ in the way they think, speak, how they process information, they way they act, etc. That is, we were born with certain unique traits and each one of us can’t think/act or react in the same exact manner.. Therefore, is it possible that some people are just prone to infidelity while others are monogamous? And that somehow in the larger scheme of things—there’s a balance in the world?

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    ''Why do Muslim men do this...''

    ''Why do Muslim women do that...''

    Don't you think you should reap as many rewards as you can during Ramadan instead of this idle chat that in the end, has no benefit to you nor I? We can talk and talk and talk about why Muslim women cheat on their good husbands, but at the end of the day every marriage is different so it's really pointless.
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    Quote Originally Posted by crayon View Post
    All I see in your post are huge generalizations.
    There no generalization, it was suppose to be some that was the intention but whatever. And, I've seen it, and it happens. If this is all you had to say, then you wasted your time because that is not what I was looking for. Jazakallah for replying.

    Quote Originally Posted by Light of Heaven View Post


    I understand your concern but please don't generalize
    I don't thinks it's fair that you see one case and base the same for all others...it's like your saying I would too and that my mom is doing such or all my female cousins, friends, and all the married sisters here
    It's not the case.
    No, i should've made it some, not all because thats what I had the intention of, not all, emotion got the best of me.

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    As it's already said: you generalize too much, brother, and that's probably the biggest problem with your post.

    Also, whenever a woman cheats her husband, that means she cheats him another man, so on every cheating woman comes a cheating man.

    I personally heard for many stories of men who divorced their wifes for zero reason.

    That isn't the problem. I don't generalize every day of my life or anything. That didn't even answer what I was looking for. Thanks for the reply.

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    All of their ibadat and efford is void,and for what? to insult and put down others!
    How foolish some people are.

    Tell them that their lucky she left. You don't want a woman like that in the first place.
    Thank you for sharing that .

    Quote Originally Posted by Umm ul-Shaheed View Post
    1. stop forcing women into marring men they cant stand, take care of her and her needs and maybe she wont think of cheating.

    2. take a reality check, get over your ego's becuase are you trying to tell me Muslim men don't cheat on their wives?

    For the record sis, you shouldn't reply when you have anger. That defeats the purpose of resolving the issue . I don't have an ego problem, but you certainly seem like you do. I never said men don't cheat. Your going way off topic and attacking me, think before you say something sister.

    I think this is useless thread now, and should be closed because I never got the answer I was looking for, i will look elsewhere. Jazakallah everyone for the replies. Also to another sister, I know this is Ramadan and i know what I have to do and need to do .
    Last edited by limitless; 08-26-2009 at 08:49 PM.


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    What answer are you looking for exactly?

    To be fair, I can't see how this can actually be answered. People do things they shouldn't all the time...and only that person would know why they did it. Do you know both sides of the story or just one? We can't judge based on hearsay. There are loads of reasons why people do what they do, but we don't know them, do you?

    To be quite honest...if you want an answer to your question...you gotta give us more detail because there is nothing else to answer from your post since most of it was based on generalizations, regardless of whether you meant it or not. We replied according to your post and and responded to what we could and what we saw coming out of it.

    So please do give us some credit


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    the bro/sis was obviously very upset at the time he wrote the post so please do forgive him for not wording it exactly to your liking.

    ^ what should she give credit for, all i've read is the word "generalization" over and over, it's like the number 1 word in this thread, it doesn't require 10 people to point out he made a generalization lol.

    The bro/sis obviously just wanted to know what motivates certain people to cheat on their husbands when they have it all, the perfect life.

    people say stuff when they're upset cos they're not thinking clearly so please do try to forgive the mistake lol that the thread starter made.


    "I never got the answer I was looking for, i will look elsewhere"

    ^ I think what the thread starter was refferring to here was, all she could see in the majority of answers was the word "generalization" which isn't really what he/she was looking for,

    may allah have mercy on him/her, how could he/she do such an evil thing, may Allah forgive him/her for this big mistake of making a generalization in his/her depressed mind state. lol
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