Ashamed young man looking for repentance

yasin · **Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Dear forum users,

I come to you at a time of desperation.

I'm so ashamed at my actions but I feel i should own up. I have on two occassions hit my dog quite badly. I feel so awful and i love my dog so much. I stopped when the dog yelped in pain and I feel so disgusting. I don't know why I did it, i'm not proud. I don't want to blame anything thats happened in my life on my behaviour.

What can i do for repentance on these actions and please how can i seek help from Allah for helping me rid these evil impulses. I'm under so much pressure and stress at the moment i feel like i'm losing my grip.

aminahgorilla · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Wow, poor dog. Well if you think you will hit your dog once more, maybe it's best you give him away because harming animals like that is haram. On the flipside when you are good to them you get a lot of reward. If you think you have self-control I say keep him.

- Serene - · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

The scholars mentioned the conditions of repentance, based on aayahs from the Qur’aan and ahaadeeth. There follows a list of some of them:

1 – Giving up the sin immediately.

2 – Regretting what has happened in the past.

3 – Resolving not to go back to it.

4 – Making amends to those whom you have wronged, or asking for their forgiveness.

You should not forget other important matters connected to sincere repentance, such as:

1 – You should give up the sin for the sake of Allaah and not for any other reason such as not being able to do it or repeat it, or being afraid of what people will say, for example.

The person who gives up a sin because it may affect his standing or reputation among people, or because it may cost him his job, cannot be described as having repented.

The person who gives up sins for the sake of his health and strength cannot be described as having repented, such as a person who gives up zinaa (adultery) and immoral actions for fear of contagious deadly diseases, or for fear that they may weaken his body and his memory.

The person who refrains from taking a bribe for fear that it may be being offered by undercover officers cannot be described as having repented.

The person who gives up drinking alcohol and taking drugs because he has become bankrupt cannot be described as having repented.

Similarly, the person who is unable to commit sin because of something that lies beyond his control cannot be described as having repented, such as a liar who becomes paralyzed and loses the power of speech, or an adulterer who loses the ability to engage in intercourse, or a thief who has an accident and loses his limbs. In such cases, a person has to feel regret and stop wishing to commit sin, or he has to feel sorry for what has happened in the past. To someone like this the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Regret is repentance.”
(narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6802)

> Continue reading here InshaaAllaah <

- Serene - · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...s-actions.html (Young man seeking help and repentance for his vicious actions)

Merged?

Souljette · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

A muslims not even supposed to have a dog in the house unless for specific reasons like guarding the house which is outside the house still ...angels do not come where dogs are

Liberalization · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

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Originally Posted by Souljette

A muslims not even supposed to have a dog in the house unless for specific reasons like guarding the house which is outside the house still ...angels do not come where dogs are

Souljette, while I'm not certain the validity of your allegation that “angels do not come where dogs are,” but there is substantial literature on questions ascertaining to whether or not it is haraam to keep a dog in the house for reasons outside of hunting, farming, & protection. There are a handful of Prophetic hadiths that forewarn Muslims of canine contact, while others necessitate displaying kindness towards animals in general, alongside declaring the admissibility of housing dogs in various contexts. Moreever, it's also commonly accepted that some of the Prophet's companions kept dogs for farming &, in some instances, fun & pleasure.

Furthermore, the question on the permissibility of accommodating dogs whose sole intent is to incite fun & pleasure is answered outright & forthwith by Kamal Badr, a scholar of Islam. “The basic rule in Islam is the permissibility of keeping dogs for hunting and guarding. Still, the exception to the rule is: excessiveness must be avoided as much as possible. The care and concern for human beings should take higher priority over the care of animals, and the reward for that is greater” (Dogs in the House, Reading Islam.com).

With that being said, it warrants housing dogs who're not being kept for purposes other than hunting, farming, protection, &c. if the care given unto them is rationed & prioritized.

Eeman · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

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Originally Posted by Souljette

A muslims not even supposed to have a dog in the house unless for specific reasons like guarding the house which is outside the house still ...angels do not come where dogs are

can i ask something... i have heard so many tmes that if you have photos in the housethen angels dont enter the house if you have a dog in the house then angels dont enter the house...

now what i dont understand is this... who records every action every thought every deed or every word we utter or think? In th Qur'an it states angels and also how they are always with us to record. now so does that mean that if a person is at home who has a dog in the house and photos those angels wont come to record his doings and actions cos they cant come in the house?

Liberalization · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

salam

eeman, i don't think it's fair to subject souljette to the questions you've written up, seeing as how she was either oblivious to or unacquainted with, in large part, the hadiths & qur'anic verses that permit housing dogs for amusement & companionship alone. & with this in mind, her knowledge on angels may be akin to her knowledge of whether or not dog accommodation is haraam. now, knowing this, do you think she'd be able to accurately give satisfying answers to the inquiries you've set forth? while i'm not saying souljette is completely ignorant to the subject matter, i feel your question be best directed towards someone who's established a more complete & islamically sound understanding of all that appertains to angels. i realize i may be exaggerative in my assumption, but i'm only looking out for souljette, basing my opinion off the unwitting nature of her post, but am essentially suggesting you redirect your questions to someone of a more scholarly stature.

wasallam

Eeman · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

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Originally Posted by Liberalization

salam

eeman, i don't think it's fair to subject souljette to the questions you've written up, seeing as how she was either oblivious to or unacquainted with, in large part, the hadiths & qur'anic verses that permit housing dogs for amusement & companionship alone. & with this in mind, her knowledge on angels may be akin to her knowledge of whether or not dog accommodation is haraam. now, knowing this, do you think she'd be able to accurately give satisfying answers to the inquiries you've set forth? while i'm not saying souljette is completely ignorant to the subject matter, i feel your question be best directed towards someone who's established a more complete & islamically sound understanding of all that appertains to angels. i realize i may be exaggerative in my assumption, but i'm only looking out for souljette, basing my opinion off the unwitting nature of her post, but am essentially suggesting you redirect your questions to someone of a more scholarly stature.

wasallam

okaaaaaaaaaay

salam alaikum

my question was not intended for souljette nor was i expecting her to answer it is simply used her qoute to address my question. so there is a misunderstanding there but i understand what your saying so thank you for the little essay,
jazak'Allah khair.

- Serene - · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Please do not take the mick out of the poster. If you have nothing constructive to say then don't post. Jazaak Allaah Khayr.

Liberalization · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

ah, sister eeman, i apologize for my misunderstanding. i read your previous post as being directed towards sister souljette. my mind saw a “you” in between “can i ask” & “something.” now that that's settled, insha'allah someone will address the questions you've propounded.

Liberalization · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Quote:

Originally Posted by - Serene -

Please do not take the mick out of the poster. If you have nothing constructive to say then don't post. Jazaak Allaah Khayr.

who is this intended for?

- Serene - · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Quote:

can i ask something... i have heard so many tmes that if you have photos in the housethen angels dont enter the house if you have a dog in the house then angels dont enter the house...

Correct.

Quote:

Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them, reported:
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or a picture.

Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 3929

Source

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liberalization

who is this intended for?

Generally.

Souljette · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

I think I came a bit too late into seeing the replies in this thread anyways Bro Liberalization thanks for taking the time to write what you have and I have read that Dogs aren't allowed to come into the house as angels do not enter that house. I read the same hadith and others that Sis Serene has posted up and yes I also have read about the kindness that the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) has said to show to animals. I know the hadith about the prostitute whose sins are forgiven because she gives water to a dog and how the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) loved cats mashallah...but I read that dogs aren't allowed unless under certain circumstances which I mentioned in my last post...which is huntin, guarding, farming and they can be kept but outside the house.

Eeman · **Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance -** 07-04-2008

Quote:

Originally Posted by - Serene -

Please do not take the mick out of the poster. If you have nothing constructive to say then don't post. Jazaak Allaah Khayr.

look sister serene just like you asked me not to reply to your posts and i havent til now i would much appreciate if you did the same.

open your eyes use those brain cells inside your brain....
your name was not mentioned nor were you even brough up in the question... if you could answer my question then contribute with knowledge is not then i dont want to hear it, but somehow you always have something to say to someone so use your own advice IF YOU HAVE NOTHING CONSTRUCTIVE TO SAY TO NO ONE then i suggest you zip it.

i cannot and will not tolerate you simple as so you my dear are on ignore!!!!

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yasin LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 137 Reputation: 66 Rep Power: 16 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 Dear forum users, I come to you at a time of desperation. I'm so ashamed at my actions but I feel i should own up. I have on two occassions hit my dog quite badly. I feel so awful and i love my dog so much. I stopped when the dog yelped in pain and I feel so disgusting. I don't know why I did it, i'm not proud. I don't want to blame anything thats happened in my life on my behaviour. What can i do for repentance on these actions and please how can i seek help from Allah for helping me rid these evil impulses. I'm under so much pressure and stress at the moment i feel like i'm losing my grip.

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aminahgorilla Nacho average cheese Status: Offline Posts: 189 Reputation: 841 Rep Power: 6 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: America. Hah, R3PR3$3NT Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 Wow, poor dog. Well if you think you will hit your dog once more, maybe it's best you give him away because harming animals like that is haram. On the flipside when you are good to them you get a lot of reward. If you think you have self-control I say keep him. __________________ Attack life, it's going to kill you anyways

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- Serene - RelyingOnlyOnAllaah~ Status: Offline Posts: 12,735 Reputation: 38856 Rep Power: 76 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Jus restin..as a traveller..in the shade of a tree..until I reach my destination = Jannah (Ameen)... Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 The scholars mentioned the conditions of repentance, based on aayahs from the Qur’aan and ahaadeeth. There follows a list of some of them: 1 – Giving up the sin immediately. 2 – Regretting what has happened in the past. 3 – Resolving not to go back to it. 4 – Making amends to those whom you have wronged, or asking for their forgiveness. You should not forget other important matters connected to sincere repentance, such as: 1 – You should give up the sin for the sake of Allaah and not for any other reason such as not being able to do it or repeat it, or being afraid of what people will say, for example. The person who gives up a sin because it may affect his standing or reputation among people, or because it may cost him his job, cannot be described as having repented. The person who gives up sins for the sake of his health and strength cannot be described as having repented, such as a person who gives up zinaa (adultery) and immoral actions for fear of contagious deadly diseases, or for fear that they may weaken his body and his memory. The person who refrains from taking a bribe for fear that it may be being offered by undercover officers cannot be described as having repented. The person who gives up drinking alcohol and taking drugs because he has become bankrupt cannot be described as having repented. Similarly, the person who is unable to commit sin because of something that lies beyond his control cannot be described as having repented, such as a liar who becomes paralyzed and loses the power of speech, or an adulterer who loses the ability to engage in intercourse, or a thief who has an accident and loses his limbs. In such cases, a person has to feel regret and stop wishing to commit sin, or he has to feel sorry for what has happened in the past. To someone like this the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Regret is repentance.” (narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6802) > Continue reading here InshaaAllaah < __________________ --» Praying Qiyaam Al Layl In Ramadan - The Reward!! (Click Here) «--

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Souljette Souljette Of Allah Status: Offline Posts: 1,800 Reputation: 6354 Rep Power: 13 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: All over the place Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 A muslims not even supposed to have a dog in the house unless for specific reasons like guarding the house which is outside the house still ...angels do not come where dogs are __________________ [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]“The believers in their mutual kindness, compassion and sympathy are just like one body. When one of the limbs is afflicted, the whole body responds to it with sleeplessness and fever”.

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Liberalization Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 15 Reputation: 223 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Way of Life: Undisclosed	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 salam eeman, i don't think it's fair to subject souljette to the questions you've written up, seeing as how she was either oblivious to or unacquainted with, in large part, the hadiths & qur'anic verses that permit housing dogs for amusement & companionship alone. & with this in mind, her knowledge on angels may be akin to her knowledge of whether or not dog accommodation is haraam. now, knowing this, do you think she'd be able to accurately give satisfying answers to the inquiries you've set forth? while i'm not saying souljette is completely ignorant to the subject matter, i feel your question be best directed towards someone who's established a more complete & islamically sound understanding of all that appertains to angels. i realize i may be exaggerative in my assumption, but i'm only looking out for souljette, basing my opinion off the unwitting nature of her post, but am essentially suggesting you redirect your questions to someone of a more scholarly stature. wasallam

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- Serene - RelyingOnlyOnAllaah~ Status: Offline Posts: 12,735 Reputation: 38856 Rep Power: 76 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Jus restin..as a traveller..in the shade of a tree..until I reach my destination = Jannah (Ameen)... Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 Please do not take the mick out of the poster. If you have nothing constructive to say then don't post. Jazaak Allaah Khayr. __________________ --» Praying Qiyaam Al Layl In Ramadan - The Reward!! (Click Here) «--

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Liberalization Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 15 Reputation: 223 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Way of Life: Undisclosed	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 ah, sister eeman, i apologize for my misunderstanding. i read your previous post as being directed towards sister souljette. my mind saw a “you” in between “can i ask” & “something.” now that that's settled, insha'allah someone will address the questions you've propounded.

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Souljette Souljette Of Allah Status: Offline Posts: 1,800 Reputation: 6354 Rep Power: 13 Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: All over the place Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Ashamed young man looking for repentance - 07-04-2008 I think I came a bit too late into seeing the replies in this thread anyways Bro Liberalization thanks for taking the time to write what you have and I have read that Dogs aren't allowed to come into the house as angels do not enter that house. I read the same hadith and others that Sis Serene has posted up and yes I also have read about the kindness that the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) has said to show to animals. I know the hadith about the prostitute whose sins are forgiven because she gives water to a dog and how the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) loved cats mashallah...but I read that dogs aren't allowed unless under certain circumstances which I mentioned in my last post...which is huntin, guarding, farming and they can be kept but outside the house. __________________ [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]“The believers in their mutual kindness, compassion and sympathy are just like one body. When one of the limbs is afflicted, the whole body responds to it with sleeplessness and fever”.