No human is ugly. But some do have ugly thoughts and attitudes, that is the only ugly any human can be. We are creations of Allaah(swt) and we must all try to live up to our potential beauty. Control the mental aspects of our beauty and the external will fall into place.

On a personal note I am probably as plain/homely looking a man could possibly be. But, in my lifetime 3 wonderfull women saw someting of beauty in me and I was blessed by having had 3 wonderful wives. If any woman was able to find beauty in me, I have no doubt all people will be seen as beautiful to somebody.

Seek to build your inner beauty, it is the only beauty that lasts and the only beauty that matters. Physical attraction is of little importance, once you allow your inner truth to grow and show.

outer beauty is insignificant if it is not matched with inner beauty


the only thing that can make you ugly really, is an ugly charachter simple as that, and since you started practising 3 years ago, i'd say if youve worked hard enough, you shud be pretty beautiful by now ( your charachter akhee which like i said beautifies you entirely as a person)

so chin up and smile, a smile lights up any face

Therefore, it is obligatory for us to accept the creation of Allah as it is, not making any alterations to it. More importantly though, it is also obligatory for us to believe that all of Allah's creation is beautiful, because Allah, the Khaaliq (Creator) does not create anything except with beauty and perfection, which is why He says to mankind: You can see no fault in the creation of Ar-Rahmaan [the Most Merciful]. Then look again: Can you see any rifts? Then look - again and yet again, your sight will return to you in a state of humiliation and worn out. [Al-MuIk (67): 3-4].

In Islam, beauty is not just in the eye of the beholder. Beauty is in the whole of creation, because Allah - the One free of all imperfections - is the one responsible for it. And as Allah says: Your Lord creates whatsoever He wills and chooses: no choice have they. SubhaanAllah! And far removed is He from the partners they ascribe [to Him]! [Al-Qasas 28:68].

So it is from the wisdom of Allah that He has chosen to create some of us short, others tall, some fat, some thin, some dark-colored, some light - all are beautiful and perfect in their own right. That is why we are taught from the Sunnah, the beautiful du'aa (supplication) that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam would say: 'O Allah, as You have made my appearance beautiful, likewise make my character beautiful.

its not what people think of you.....dont care about them
its just what you think of yourself....be satisfied on your own looks that allah grant you with, and you will be the happiest in the world....its the sanctification nothing else
do you think that those how care about their looks to death and go to every beauty center, spending money to have great looks and be attracted to the others from the first look are happy
heck no
they dont live their life as it is, and keep thinking about how to be more attractive in the eyes of the others, worried, think day and night about what they can do in the future when they get old.....actually those to me are lacking the confidence, because they care about the others opinions more than caring about what they think of themselves

Some very heart warming answers on here.

I have to admit, I have a problem with self-esteem. I don't feel pretty so I end up wearing a lot of make-up to feel good inside.

well feeling ugly can also be caused by being with the wrong crowd. I dont mean by being with people more beautiful then you, i mean by being with those who make you feel like you should do things to become more attractive thus implying your current state isnt good. Now if these suggestions are halaal such as grooming properly and staying clean/eating sunnah thus losing weight then mashaAllaah, if these suggestions are to attract and change our physique such as nail polish, tons of make up, plucking and other acts which just demean what Allahs blessed us with then astagfirullaah.

being with the right crowd can change our whole outlook on life


just a few thoughts inshaAllaah

Im 26 , the thing is i have worn a baeball cap, since i was 16,

so there are many people in my life , family, friends, even my own mum who even get to see my hair, now my forehead is so white. i have a cap line indented i to my forehead, i dislike my head shape, i have a sqaure forehead, and my hair grows down the middle of my head.


So the problem is my hair, i just wana look normal, and wish i never put that cap on ever, thats why im always staring at other guys hair styles and that and feel envy toward them, its just if i ever get my hat off, people will i know look at me weird, i dont want a fancy hairtyle, just to look normal, whatever that is. To be accepted by society i guess.

When i accidently get my cap off, and my nieces are there, i know their only kids, but they say things like you got ugly hair, but those words do hurt me.

so you see it is this fear inside of me, feeling rejected, but it come to the point now where i will always have to cover my hair, now i wear a topi any way , so this does not bother me,

its just things like , attending weddings , interviews, may be seeing a bride, that freak me out , mums always on my back to make a passport, but i dont wanna take my pics.


Brothers and sisters you are welcome to have a go at me, i deserve it for being so silly.

I made this thread because , i know feelings of jealousy, being ungrateul to Allah swt , are all wrong, and i wana be a grateful servant.

so its just like 5% of my body that causes me worry, people always say i have a good body, which i dislike,

Thank you again everyone for your replies,i wil re read all of them again, and change my attitude inshallah

There is nothing wrong with wearing make up to be very honest. I'm not exactly a pro when it comes to women (being a man and all lol ) but from my experience I've never really liked women that wear make up. People tend appreciate each other when they see their faces 'naturally' for what they are.

Next time you look in the mirror, just smile at yourself and feel good about it. Perhaps you'll realise make-up can never replace a proper smile

Define 'normal' ? Seriously I don't think there is such a thing with human beings, we're all so very different in terms of caste/culture/religion and physical looks. One persons beautiful could be another persons ugly. Me for example, I know it's ignorant of me, but I find dark hair attractive (black) and not blonde, brown or anything else. It's simply a matter of taste. Believe it !

I think what's going on here is that you're using certain individuals as a benchmark for what 'good-looking' is. This is wrong and not only are you hurting yourself, but you may very well be hurting the people important to you as well. Personally I would be VERY hurt if my sister felt she was ugly becuase she was simply hanging around the wrong crowd. See where I'm coming from ?

Square forehead ? Hmm, again it's a matter of perspective. I could probably think of a few celebrity women that have such a feature and are considered beautiful..

There are so many things you could (I don't know myself) do with your hair as well as the rest of your body/looks. Exercise, Facials, Wearing Nice clothes (not revealing!) etc. I hear doing these kinds of things gives a huge boost to confidence. I myself go for jogs weekly and weight train every second/third day. It does a lot for my own confidence.

Trust me there are so many things you could do! Please don't be disheartened, you remind of my self three years ago

Cheer up !

talk about the topic of Feel ugly and get ugly?....have u seen the show "Betty la fia" or ugly betty? she look ugly and later she look gorgeous...because of what she is kind and helpful...and later she transform herself into a beauty Queen...and anyone don't recognize her...is the matter how you feel..but people dont think at all...u have lotsa doubt about yourself...eventhough i am not that handsome or superb handsome like Prophet Yusuf(joseph)....but only i think i am handsome..and i can show my beauty and talents..so people think i am handsome..anyone likes me...and show our good deeds is better it make us beautiful and handsome....nobody's perfect..appreciate ourselves.....hope u can make the change.

Im 26 , the thing is i have worn a baeball cap, since i was 16,

so there are many people in my life , family, friends, even my own mum who even get to see my hair, now my forehead is so white. i have a cap line indented i to my forehead, i dislike my head shape, i have a sqaure forehead, and my hair grows down the middle of my head.


So the problem is my hair, i just wana look normal, and wish i never put that cap on ever, thats why im always staring at other guys hair styles and that and feel envy toward them, its just if i ever get my hat off, people will i know look at me weird, i dont want a fancy hairtyle, just to look normal, whatever that is. To be accepted by society i guess.

When i accidently get my cap off, and my nieces are there, i know their only kids, but they say things like you got ugly hair, but those words do hurt me.

so you see it is this fear inside of me, feeling rejected, but it come to the point now where i will always have to cover my hair, now i wear a topi any way , so this does not bother me,

its just things like , attending weddings , interviews, may be seeing a bride, that freak me out , mums always on my back to make a passport, but i dont wanna take my pics.


Brothers and sisters you are welcome to have a go at me, i deserve it for being so silly.

I made this thread because , i know feelings of jealousy, being ungrateul to Allah swt , are all wrong, and i wana be a grateful servant.

so its just like 5% of my body that causes me worry, people always say i have a good body, which i dislike,

Thank you again everyone for your replies,i wil re read all of them again, and change my attitude inshallah




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there a lotsa product you can make use of it....like hair tonic,hair conditioner and etc....face cream,cleanser and toner,scrub and etc...to enhance your beauty and take some food supplement for beauty.....you are not alone,search for some expertise... and dermatologist...u able to fine your answer.

salam i feel like that sometimes i think it s naturally every 1 has something they r not happy with but we must thank allah for what we got after all he did creat us,inshallah u feel better soon

i suppose everyone has low self esteem sometimes. this doesnt mean that you are ugly or that you are not good enough. instead of looking at how others are more prettier than you (because there are always models and celebrities that somehow always look perfect), you should admire your own good qualities. everyone has good qualities and also dont worry about societys perception of beauty, it is very narrow anyways. i am sure you will find a spouse that will love you for who you are, and not just for your looks because i have heard of husbands that cheat on their wives and these women are really pretty but they are unsatisfied with them still somehow. you will find the perfect someone for you someday i am sure