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I need some help, i feel so ugly, i dont want to feel like this,
i hate it, it always kills me inside,

When i see someone attractive, i do lower my gaze, but the arrow hits my heart , and i feel envy towards that person, i feel so in adequate with my self.

I honestly dont know how i will get married, i know there are poor people out there who have nothing to eat , i do care , thats why i am angry with my self,


I cant control these thoughts, the only time i have of peace is when i am asleep
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Default Re: feel ugly - 10-06-2008

aw sis ur not ugly, every girl feels ugly , but thats coz she beautiful...nd the ones that see themselves beautiful (on the outside) are them show offy lifeless ones..

Girls are like apples on trees.
The best ones are at the top of the
tree. The boys don't want to reach
for the good ones because they are
afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead, they just get the rotten
apples from the ground that aren't
as good, but easy.So the apples at the
top think something is wrong with
them, when in reality, they're amazing.
They just have to wait for the right
boy to come along, the one who's brave
enough to climb all the way to the top
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Hmm you must understand that every person has beauty in them. Its a matter of who will appreciate that beauty in u. Sometimes people do undervalue themselves, everyone does it at times. Being 'pretty' is not everything in this world! I always think of it this way, if u look less attractive u will be less likely to get into zina nd all that dirty business. Am not saying that u are bad looking, am pretty sure u arent, its just that u undervalue ur self!

Trust me beauty is not the only thing that a man/women thinks of when they want to get married. I for one, would rather have a well behaved nd religious women than a pretty one who is over the moon with her looks nd is arrogant! So get that idea out of ur head, that u cnt get married because u think u dnt look as nice as others. If a man/women merely judges u on that, then he aint worth it! AM pretty sure u are a nice person full of good qualities! So inshAllah from now on, stop undervalueing ur self nd b confident about ur self!

InshAllah ur path will be an easy one! Am glad u asked for help

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I need some help, i feel so ugly, i dont want to feel like this,
i hate it, it always kills me inside,

When i see someone attractive, i do lower my gaze, but the arrow hits my heart , and i feel envy towards that person, i feel so in adequate with my self.

I honestly dont know how i will get married, i know there are poor people out there who have nothing to eat , i do care , thats why i am angry with my self,


I cant control these thoughts, the only time i have of peace is when i am asleep
Everyone gets married, everyone is bootiful in wan wai or anuva, yu may not know it, but sum1 out der is destined to be wiv yu, inshaAllaah, all yu have to do is be patient and wait for that spesh sum1 to jump in2 yr life,

n de jealousy thang, tsk tsk tsk,

Wen u see sum1 coote like ya mates, juz sey mashaAllaah, u dun wna jinx em innay,

n dun sleep loads like me, nearly died today, go out for ages have niyc breeze wen u depressed, go drivin or sutin,

and erm... mek dua, is real coolio,

u be ari dun wory

tkr.
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
wher u jak dis quote frm

No plagiarism, ma teacha sed iz haraam Lol

So erm..wats beholder

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you are probably paranoid. Stop looking in the mirror. Youre not ugly, you only feel ugly.
   
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No one is perfect. Allah created u, ru saying that ALlah made a mistake? He DOESNT so say Alhamdulilah.

You shudnt want to be anything but what u are. Because if we all looked the same we wud be soo weird, ur unique so embrace urself girl! why u tripping.;)
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sister/brother

i beg you, i beg you, ask your parents about your looks, they will give you the right answer, no one is ugly, Allah (Swt) dont create ugly things, everythin he made is bootiful, and im sure there is millions of people out there who think your gods gift to men/women, so dont worry about marriage, everyone has their own choices! so smile in the mirror and check your smile, everyone who smiles looks nice! also remember looks are just from the outside, the real looks are from inside! so like i said sister, ask your parents about your looks then you will the real answer!

keep smilin!!!
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aww you shouldnt ever think that, you are you and you are unique and thats wut matters most....just be yourself and love yourself and i;m telling you you'll start feeling better...beauty is only skin deep but wuts inside you is who you are.... if you compare yourself to others, you will never be happy....just learn to love yourself eh.... SMILE and remember looks dont last forever....
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when u get these thoughts that you are ugly ju sthink that you are insulting ALLAH (SWA)'S creation..maybe that'll help

anywho..al girls feel this way at some point..some more often then others but we al get it so dont worry

when i think im ugly or i complain about something,little or big,i jus think how selfish im being..theres plp out there that have no limbs..that r in war..that have no home..that dnt hav ethe oppurtunities we do so we have no room to complain

your beautiful sis cuz your a Muslim!

so smile and be greatful
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im sure someone on this huge universe is thinking of you
great advices tho ( the best one is from bro Ibnabdulhakim )
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Abu Hurayra Radhiallahu Anhu said: "Do not say (to any man), 'May Allah make your face and any face like your face ugly.' Allah, the Mighty and Exalted, created Adam, peace be upon him, in his form* (that He ordained),"
*This means that the face of your father and all human beings is like the face of Adam, peace be upon him. So if you abuse anyone in this way you are actually abusing your ancestors which include Adam, peace be upon him. So when you abuse someone like this it means that you are abusing your forefathers.



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no one is physically ugly like the

Abu Hurayra Radhiallahu Anhu said: "Do not say (to any man), 'May Allah make your face and any face like your face ugly.' Allah, the Mighty and Exalted, created Adam, peace be upon him, in his form* (that He ordained),"

*This means that the face of your father and all human beings is like the face of Adam, peace be upon him. So if you abuse anyone in this way you are actually abusing your ancestors which include Adam, peace be upon him. So when you abuse someone like this it means that you are abusing your forefathers.


bush is ugly in his own ways

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Please keep it on topic (helpin the thread opener with his/her dilemma)
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