Those are very kind words from you. JazakAllah. But i am not strong believe me there i times when i have wailed like a banshee, ranted and raved, been depressed......... finally found i achieved nothing. So here i am just gtetting on with it........

You are right.......... you try trusting someone that constantly, lies cheats and decieves you.

How many times can you forgive?

How many times are you supposed to accept their "sorry" and find you are ging through the same****** again>>>

What would you do?????

It is easy to talk,talk is just words, actions are what count. Darling when i was 23/24 all i ever dreamed of was a happy marraige, it was only later that i learned that there is no such thing. Life is not a bed of roses.......... Carry on praying and InshAllah Allah willguide you and give you strength, also you must make dua for subur.......... At first i was against you doing Istikhaara for this purpose. I went to work and thought about you the whole day. Sister i now think you should do Istikhaara because it might give you peace of mind InshAllah.........QUOTE=Lonely Gal;1019724]the reason why I would not sit down and actually discuss this, is because I know I will only be fed more lies and be more confused in ma own head. Everytime I pray I jus ask Allah swt to do whats best for me, I dont know if I should be asking for divorce or staying together. All I know is I am not happy and all Ive ever dreamt of if having a marriage where I am so happy and we'd both be good to each other. I ask Allah swt to guide me to what ever is the right and best thing, to give me evidence one way or another of what is going on with my husband and other people.[/quote]

If Istikhaara will help our sis get peace of mind then she should do it........ Allah knows best.........

sister you can always do istikhara for whatever problem you have

also, are you like convinved/sure he is cheatin on you? because its not right to suspect anyone, and we are told to avoid suspicion, but however if he is, then give him the boot or if you can work thins out with him!

i hope Allah (swt) eases your difficulties,

Istikharah salaat is for guidance not to pry as someone else has already mentioned.
Thing is sis, as a muslim you must not be suspicious as this affects only your health.
For all you know, you could go through all this to just find out that nothing was the issue to begin with.
I apologise for sounding harsh and acknowledge that I am not in your situation, but you should leave your trust in Allah.
May Allah make it easier for you.

i dont wana feel like this, but as there has been incidents that have made me question what is going on, I dont know how can I cannot be suspicious.
I pray to Allah swt that show me and guide me to what the truth is so I can put closure on this topic so that if my thoughts are incorrect, I can once and for all get rid of them and live a better life.

:s Men are m,en no matter what race, colour religion. except i suppose you don't relly think that Muslim men are like this but, trust me some are doesn't mean all are just those unfortunate one who have lost their way and deen............

Lonelygirl. I hope you are good. I have been work all day,then various things in evening, busy with my children etc etc. Anyway i do hope that you have prayed istikhaara and feel more at ease. I really did at first feel that this is wrong because Allah will let you know if He wills, i felt your reason for praying Istikharaa was wrong. But as i progressed throughout the day i thought that if you did pray Istikhaara, it might put your mind more at rest, and whatever is between you and Allah is between you and Him alone, so i really shouldn't have been more forcefull with my advice not to pray the istikhaara........... I have felt really angry since i read your e-mail, but you are not alone there are others out there suffering too, but it depends on you how to deal with it/resolve it.......... Just want to share with you what someone said to me once "we could break his legs but it won't take away the begharaati"........... What to do eh???? Just want you to know am thinking of you and you are in my dua.

hey hope your all well.
InshAllah i will pray ishtikhara today. I have no solid proof about him cheatin that is why I want guidance and help into finding out what is going on.This is affecting the way I am with him cos I cant ask him outright, yet I cant behave as everything is hunk dory. I feel this is the only way I can get peace of mind and move in a direction, depending what the outcome is. If its not tru, I pray Allah swt takes these thoughts away from me and guides me more into our relationship, making it strong.

Qur'an 49:12
O ye who believe! avoid suspicion as much (as possible):
for suspicion in some cases is a sin:
and spy not on each other nor speak ill of each other behind their backs.
Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother?
Nay ye would abhor it...but fear Allah:
for Allah is Oft-Returning Most Merciful..

sister pray itsikhara inshallah and allah will help you
just stay strong!

thanks, I know its wrong thats why i pray i find out one way or another asap.
Allah swt knows best.

well you could be a bit more practical and maybe try goin through his phone? Or perhaps look for tell-tale marks on his neck, see if he comes home smelling of perfume maybe? Or I'm pretty sure that a few years ago there was a website where you could track somebodys mobile via a map and see where they are during the day