been through phone and theres numbers i do not recognise, that are only dialled and received during his work hours.. he always had his phone on him but on the odd occasion forgot abt it and i ceased the opportunity.. recently, he has started leavein phone around but all call are deleted, the last calls are shown from days ago, which makes me think he is now deleting the history cos if the calls were innocent before.. why would they stop??
When i ring the numbers.. no answer what so ever.
The person I also suspect it with, i have walked in on them on many occasions where they suddenly go quiet and one wonders off secs after i arrive..

the other option open to you is a bit of the old reverse physcology but you've got to be a strong minded individual to carry it off. Give him a slight taste of his own medicine. Although you're prob burning inside you can act as though you're not bothered by anything he does and make out that it doesn't affect you at all. Believe me, he'll soon show a change of behaviour.

he so badly has not got a clue that im tinkin wat im tinkin

he must know that you suspect him othrwise he wouldn't be deleting his call history and walking out of the room everytime you turn up and catch him and 'her' together.

You obviously know this woman you suspect, is she related to you?

he's becoming smart thats all it is..
yes shes related which is the hardest thing to cope with.

Well before you take up anybodys advice from this website are there any children to be considered in this marriage? If there are then it's a whole different situation

nope thankfully.. just me and him..

I wont just up and take up on advise cos no1 ov nos the situation as clearly as i do, but the I am glad for all ur advise and help. Allah swt is the only one who can truly help me so please make dua for me.. i will be forever thankful

well that's a diifferent ball game then! There's so much that you can do to drop hints that you know somethng's up... starting to leaving books or DVDs about physotic female killers around the house is a good starting point...then maybe start watching Desperate Housewives and tell him that it's your fave program on TV - he'll start to worry!

he's from Pakistan - those hints wont sink in!

Is he permanent in the country or is his passport still green? Tell him he's on the next plane back if he doesn't buck up his ideas. Men really are stupid creatures, we all want our cake and to eat it - then we want to eat somebody elses cake too

its green... I cant say anything to him as if im wrong then him being a typical guy will not help things, this wayif i find out on me own and suffer on me own its ok..

My advice to you then would be to try and plan something. You know you can get spy stuff at good prices nowadays. you could plant a listening bug in a certain room in the house where they talk and be listening from the garden for example. He's obviously not gonna slip up on his mobile so you need to move beyond that.

thought of that jus havent got round to doin it.. i feel guilty as well.. i mean if hes cheatin then i shudnt feel lik that but maybe i just hope he isnt .. i dont know.. kasam never thort marriage could come to this..

no no no spyin is haram bro, go the halal way not haram.

Why can't u talk to him about it?

nd wow relatives i guess are goin extreme>??????? HOW can she be related ????????