ASALAMUC CALEKUM I am new to this forum my dear friend adviced me to post here for help. i am in need of dua. i am 18 and sick and tired of life everyday is the same routine eat, be sick eat again starve the next day. my family is always on my case when i loose weight as arabs all they do is shout they dont understand what i am going through. I had an eating disorder for a year now and i truly dont see a way out. i am very embaressed to go to a doctor because he will look at me and laugh because i am fat. fat people dont get anorexia.
i am practising and i cant pray i cant think i all think about is food ..food..calories..food again i hate this cycle is ruining my life. i believe i am a lost cause. but if u have time you know and your nothing much then just plzz make dua a miracle might happen.WACALEKUMSALAM

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Well, for starters, alhamdulillah you realize that you do have a problem and you're willing to seek a solution. You need to go to a doctor, because eating and then starving yourself like that for a year has had to have had a negative impact on your body. A doctor would not look at you and laugh, and if he/she did, they would be in the wrong. I don't know what your definition of fat is, but somehow I don't think you are fat...cuz anorexics do call themselves fat when they are at a normal weight or even underweight.

Small people go thru just as much fuss in getting bigger as big people do in getting smaller,

Seriously to break it down,

WE AS HUMANS ARE NEVER SATISFIED,

If we have nice eye colour we complain about our hair colour,

If we are a nice build we complain about our height,

We are never happy,


There is nothing wrong with you, you are not lost at all,

Why doesn't your doctor introduce you to a personal dietician, I have one because I lose alot of weight thru throwing up (Im not anorexic but just ill) so he gives me info on how to gain weight, if you had one they can help you, without giving up on food they can tell you what to keep eating out of what you like the most,


Don't feel down because of being different, feel special.

May Allaah make matters easy on you inshaaAllaah.

Eating a lot of food and then starving yourself for a whole day actually causes you to gain weight, because your body assumes that you're in starvation mode and then subsequently stores all of the fat in your body.

InshaaAllaah see a dietitian or a nutritionist, they can help you with losing the weight in a healthy way. They can also help you keep it off and by following a very healthy routine, you can also become a more healthier person.

ASALAMUCALEKUM jawrah i am not underweight i wish i was thin i used to be thin and then i tried eating healthy and putted on weight. anon i dont want to gain loosing weight healthy means i have to be stuck with my body for a long time. as it takes time. i hate that. but thanx. ameena i know i hate it is a vicious cycle. i havent prayed for a long time because this is all i can think about twentyfour 7. i have nobody to talk to. WALEKUMSALAM

Are you a sister? yu can talk 2 me

well go to a dr or answer some questions for us

1 - how old are you, and 2 what is your weight and height...

most people who think they are fat, are not fat, and its just summin in their head, thats why im askin about your weight and stuff!

also, you have realised there is a problem which is the 1st step towards fixin somethin, like dont starve one day and then eat another, you put on more weight like that, believe it or not!

i know how to restrict isha`allah i shouldnt put on weight in the past i was weak and gave in because my family was worried but i am different now.
i am 5ft3 and i am 8.6 stones for my height i should be 7.5 max.
anon thank you is just complicated. i suck .

yeah exactly. and if ur gonna mess up ur diet for a year and mess up ur health with it then u may as well do it properly and don't go givin up on praying cos that'll make the problem worse by makin u feel bad. Allah doesn't care about outward appearance. why not try fasting? that helps loads and gives u an excuse not to eat

ASALAMUCALEKUM if i fast i know it be for weightloss not religion reasons, sis i dont think you get this..no offense, i know i shoudlnt stop praying this is something i need to go back to. i know allahswt doesnt care about my looks but my eating problem hasnt got a lot to do with food ahh forget it not many people wil get this.

Weight dysfunction is either the result of over/under eating. That is choice and may even be a sin if it leads to poor health.

However, most weight problems are not by choice but are either a metabolic disorder or an eating disorder. both are a medical and not A morality issue.

See a doctor, there is hope and both are treatable.

My Du3as are for you dear Ukhti, may Allah(swt) grant you the strength and ability to seek the help you need.

thank you

Your Body Mass Index (BMI) is in the normal range. For someone 5feet 3 inches, 120 pounds (=8.6 stones), your BMI is 21.3. Normal weight = 18.5-24.9 BMI. You're overweight if your BMI is over 25.0 and obese if over 30.0. You're no where near those numbers.

See here: http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

I think your stressing too much. Let it go, eat normally, exercise regularly, and you should be fine

hey i understand u want to be beautiful. There's nothing wrong with that. But you could fast instead of just starving cos it's healthier and don't let the 'it's not for Allah' put u off cos it's good training and it's doing a good deed that you chose fasting the islamic way to lose weight than by just not eating. Besides it is for Allah cos u'll have to fulfill ur other obligations too like praying and that will please Him Insha'Allah


Huuuuuuuuuu whaaa...!?!?!?!?

sorry im slow i just read those two posts...
is that ur weight?
who are you kidding? lol!

ur not fat at all!!!!

gosh! If u feel fat you just need excercise to tone up-dont go losing weight u'll become skin and bone!!!!
right u just need a good smack lol! i'm kiddin. ur fine the way u r. and YOU ARE NOT FAT! Gettit?

^your right sis i will do so IshA`allah.