How To Block Out What People Think Of You

AnonymousGender · **How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-05-2009

Do you care what people think of you? I do and its all negative thoughts. It does me more harm then good as my confidence can go from high to low. On most occasions it ruins my day.

Any advice on how to stamp this out?

The Ruler · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-05-2009

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Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

Do you care what people think of you? I do and its all negative thoughts. It does me more harm then good as my confidence can go from high to low. On most occasions it ruins my day.

Any advice on how to stamp this out?

I don't think one can ever completely ignore the thoughts of others. But in your case, find something you're good at. Stand in front of the mirror and tell your reflection all that is good about you; admire yourself. Lie down, look up at the sky/ceiling and think of everything that is good about you. Vaporise all the whispers of your bad qualities.

... And you'll find yourself thinking you're far better than the ones around you.

AnonymousGender · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

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Originally Posted by The Ruler

I don't think one can ever completely ignore the thoughts of others. But in your case, find something you're good at. Stand in front of the mirror and tell your reflection all that is good about you; admire yourself. Lie down, look up at the sky/ceiling and think of everything that is good about you. Vaporise all the whispers of your bad qualities.

... And you'll find yourself thinking you're far better than the ones around you.

I dunno if you are being sarcastic or not

alcurad · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

it's pretty good advice, except don't over do it, rather don't over do anything, if you find yourself worrying too much about what they say then it might be that you consider yuorself inadequate in some regard or other, the best solution then is to work on what you think your not doing correctly,
or it might be that those other people are jealous/angry/simply being inconsiderate idiots, in which case do the mirror thingy

, or just tell them it hurts, and they should stop saying things for the sake of harming and negativity.

AntiKarateKid · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

I'd remember what Allah thinks of you and that its only His opinion that matters. Done.

The Ruler · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

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Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

I dunno if you are being sarcastic or not

I was being serious, actually. I've never tried what I said myself, but I saw it in a movie.

AnonymousGender · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

Thanks for the advice..

The Ruler..This aint a joke. May be to you but it isnt to me

The Ruler · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

Yare yare. -_- I wasn't kidding. I know it's the couselling section and I have my own way of counselling. There's no law stopping me from doing so, right? ^_^

The_Prince · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

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Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

Do you care what people think of you? I do and its all negative thoughts. It does me more harm then good as my confidence can go from high to low. On most occasions it ruins my day.

Any advice on how to stamp this out?

my friend has this same problem, and i will tell you what i tell him, its simple, just ignore it, and move on, yes it might be tough to ignore, but thats the real and only solution, you have to ignore it. OR if these people really have negative thoughts about you, then just go up to them and talk to them about it and settle the issue.

AnonymousGender · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

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Originally Posted by The Ruler

Yare yare. -_- I wasn't kidding. I know it's the couselling section and I have my own way of counselling. There's no law stopping me from doing so, right? ^_^

Taking the mick isnt a form of counselling

Anyway...Moving on

The Ruler · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

I wasn't taking the mick. Serious enough?

Moving on indeed.

AntiKarateKid · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

So fear them not, but fear Me; and that I may complete My favours on you, and ye May (consent to) be guided (Quran 2:150)

Eric H · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender;

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a great mystery, Lord grant me the peace and serenity to live this day and every day, always one day at a time.

Life is a journey always one day at a time, and we face each day always trying to do what is good in the eyes of God, despite all the negative stuff from others.

This may help…..

Mother Teresa
Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centred;
Forgive them anyway

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It never was between you and them anyway.

In the spirit of striving for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding

Eric

Gossamer skye · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

I read a funny adage once, it went like this:

when you are 20 you think everyone is talking about you
when you are 40 you don't give a D*** who is talking about you
when you are 60 you realize no one was talking about you all along

lol.. I rather liked it.. why not have the wisdom of the ages at a young age? it will surely make you better.. people's thoughts and words mean nothing, it is only when they cause you actual physical harm that it counts, and folks who cause harm to others are criminals.. so just live your life with an open heart and pay no mind to chatty people...

people are people are people, so choose wisely the company you keep and leave the rest to their maker..

**Woodrow** · **Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You -** 07-06-2009

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Originally Posted by Gossamer skye

I read a funny adage once, it went like this:

when you are 20 you think everyone is talking about you
when you are 40 you don't give a D*** who is talking about you
when you are 60 you realize no one was talking about you all along

lol.. I rather liked it.. why not have the wisdom of the ages at a young age? it will surely make you better.. people's thoughts and words mean nothing, it is only when they cause you actual physical harm that it counts, and folks who cause harm to others are criminals.. so just live your life with an open heart and pay no mind to chatty people...

people are people are people, so choose wisely the company you keep and leave the rest to their maker..

That is so true. Indeed we are arrogant creatures, that us human's be. We pride ourselves under the concept that others have a lasting opinion of us. Yet the impression we leave on other people is most often the size of the hole we leave in the water when we step out of the bath tub.

The solid fact of life is we do not have to worry aout what other people think, it is doubtful that except for our parents our spouse and our children, no other human on earth will think more than 10 seconds about any of us.

Worry about what we do to serve Allaah(swt) and leave worries of other people for Allaah(swt) to handle, He has been handling the thoughts of people for a long time and has and will always make the right decision and justly judge all.

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AnonymousGender Anonymous Status: Offline Posts: 499 Reputation: 1728 Rep Power: 25 Join Date: May 2006 Way of Life: Undisclosed	How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-05-2009 Do you care what people think of you? I do and its all negative thoughts. It does me more harm then good as my confidence can go from high to low. On most occasions it ruins my day. Any advice on how to stamp this out?

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alcurad IB Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 1,977 Reputation: 26573 Rep Power: 61 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Indiana, US Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 it's pretty good advice, except don't over do it, rather don't over do anything, if you find yourself worrying too much about what they say then it might be that you consider yuorself inadequate in some regard or other, the best solution then is to work on what you think your not doing correctly, or it might be that those other people are jealous/angry/simply being inconsiderate idiots, in which case do the mirror thingy , or just tell them it hurts, and they should stop saying things for the sake of harming and negativity. __________________ ” إن الأمة التي تحسن صناعة الموت توهب لها الحياة” 正直・・・微妙

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AntiKarateKid With purpose. Status: Offline Posts: 1,475 Reputation: 9853 Rep Power: 27 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Behind you! Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 I'd remember what Allah thinks of you and that its only His opinion that matters. Done. __________________ Even Satan believes in Allah.

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AnonymousGender Anonymous Status: Offline Posts: 499 Reputation: 1728 Rep Power: 25 Join Date: May 2006 Way of Life: Undisclosed	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 Thanks for the advice.. The Ruler..This aint a joke. May be to you but it isnt to me

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The Ruler LI's Sole Dominator Status: Offline Posts: 8,843 Reputation: 37732 Rep Power: 85 Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Oubliette. Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 Yare yare. -_- I wasn't kidding. I know it's the couselling section and I have my own way of counselling. There's no law stopping me from doing so, right? ^_^ __________________ Click here Or here Or here Or here And here Here There's no end to promoting one's blog.

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The Ruler LI's Sole Dominator Status: Offline Posts: 8,843 Reputation: 37732 Rep Power: 85 Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Oubliette. Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 I wasn't taking the mick. Serious enough? Moving on indeed. __________________ Click here Or here Or here Or here And here Here There's no end to promoting one's blog.

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AntiKarateKid With purpose. Status: Offline Posts: 1,475 Reputation: 9853 Rep Power: 27 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Behind you! Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 So fear them not, but fear Me; and that I may complete My favours on you, and ye May (consent to) be guided (Quran 2:150) __________________ Even Satan believes in Allah.

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Eric H IB Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 1,615 Reputation: 23290 Rep Power: 60 Join Date: Apr 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Christian	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender; Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a great mystery, Lord grant me the peace and serenity to live this day and every day, always one day at a time. Life is a journey always one day at a time, and we face each day always trying to do what is good in the eyes of God, despite all the negative stuff from others. This may help….. Mother Teresa Anyway People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centred; Forgive them anyway If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It never was between you and them anyway. In the spirit of striving for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding Eric __________________ You will never look into the eyes of anyone who does not matter to God.

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Gossamer skye قُلْ هُوَ الرَّحْمَن Status: Offline Posts: 8,841 Reputation: 118467 Rep Power: 178 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: yes! Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How To Block Out What People Think Of You - 07-06-2009 I read a funny adage once, it went like this: when you are 20 you think everyone is talking about you when you are 40 you don't give a D*** who is talking about you when you are 60 you realize no one was talking about you all along lol.. I rather liked it.. why not have the wisdom of the ages at a young age? it will surely make you better.. people's thoughts and words mean nothing, it is only when they cause you actual physical harm that it counts, and folks who cause harm to others are criminals.. so just live your life with an open heart and pay no mind to chatty people... people are people are people, so choose wisely the company you keep and leave the rest to their maker.. __________________ There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy-- S.