Asalammu Alaikum Dear Sista Wecome To Islam I'm African American Name Is Tayyib 22 Years old Born Detroit Michgan Live Minneapolis And Are You American To So How Is Bein Muslim AJustin For You When First Came Into It

With respect to all, I just can't accept this 'arranged marriages' concept...

As a non-muslim, i see it as going into a shop and picking up an order someone else had made.

Isn't it better to be able to choose whom we want to marry/have our children and spend our life with?
Than to be presented with a woman and told "this will be your wife and she will have your children..."

no thankyou very much..i'm the one that has to live with this person, so i will be the one to make that choice.

respectfully....phill

Hi Phill,

What you have just described is more akin to a forced marriage than an arranged marriage. Nobody reasonable thinks that forced marriage is a good idea. In an arranged marriage both parties have a choice.

For a muslim marriage to be valid - there must be consent from both the girl and the guy. To coerce people into marriage is not what we agree with.

Peace