I need your advice. Please be honest and tell me what I should do. I feel embarrassed asking as I'm worried I might be being a bit greedy. But I can't help feeling used.

What happened is I told my friend that I'm staring a business making islamic clothing from home. My friend gave me some clothes to sew for her daughter and niece. I made four sets but didn't charge her because it was the first time and she is my friend.


The week after she gave me 50 sari blouses to alter. When I saw 50 blouses I nearly fainted and jokingly said I am going to charge her £5 per blouse. I havent done them yet. Then last week she gave me material to sew 3 jilbaabs for her daughter and niece. When she came to collect them, I expected her to ask how much money she owed me. But she took the clothes and left. I felt too embarrassed to say anything.

I now realise that she expects me to do everything for free. Maybe because I didnt charge her the first time. I feel sad about the whole thing. I feel ashamed too as I think I may be being greedy. But I started this to make money in the first place.

Now I don't know what to do or how to rectify the situation. Am I being greedy or is it justified of me to expect to be paid. Please advise me. I feel so incompetant.

Just tell her straight if she's a friend she'll understand.

But would it make me look like I'm being greedy? Am I?

Nope. You just asking for what is yours..I think..

No,you're not being greedy.

your friend should have the sense to pay you without you having to ask.

Especially since theres 50 of 'em

It seems that your friend is asking for too much sis. I mean, a couple of blouses here and there for free is ok since she's your friend... but 50? Come on now. I wouldn't even ask my sister to do that! Anyway, you can find my answer in the other thread you put up in the sis section.
Hope i helped a little bit.

Aslaam'alaikum

Your friend should know better because that is just being ungreatful on her behalf. If you don't want to confront her about it, just dont do them for her and when she asks why the clothes aren't done just tell her that you are busy with your business and people are 'paying' for their clothes to be sewen so you have to give them priority...

it's abit funny aswell.

Aww MashAllah...you so sweet bl3$$...Ukhty you aint greedy Nah nah nah, just asking for whts right InshAllah, if she a true mate InshAllah she will understand..Peace! and good luck, do whats right sister! x

Oh thank you, thank you for your replies. I was beginning to lose hope lol. May Allah reward you all. Ameen.

I feel better and not so greedy now but how should I say it? Some words would be helpful plzzz

Originally Posted by DaNgErOuS MiNdS

it's abit funny aswell.

bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet

hehe yeh no harm in saying that you charge a fee, that's purely halal business.

Hehe its a bit of a lesson for the future though, personally (and even islamically) you should neverrrr start anything unless you've got a contract written up... coz even if she's ur best friend, misunderstandings and misinterpretations can occur and unease begings to occur and shaytan gets involved.

so in future set things straight from the beginning, write it on paper, do it the Islamic way, trust mee ti saves sooo much hassles and embaresments later on, and it keeps you both really good freinds.

for now, just say you're charging a fee, purely halal, its not being greedy... it's just being a good business person ;)

salam
sis, you are using your time to help your friend, surely your frined will understand that such efforts will need her to pay you, otherwise she will continue to take advantage of you
and you know what people say, time is money
wasalam

Originally Posted by Muslimah_Sis

bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet

i know thats just taking the mick, maybe she'll bring a whole truck-load after the blouses are done.

But this situation is nothing new it happens alot, i've seen it manny times and usually is solved once guidlines are set out.

^^LOL

sis u need to get her 2 pay otherwise she gna take advantage of u big tym! Shes already started to by the sounds of it

I mean my AUNTY sews my clothes and i INSIST on payin her, thats her way of earnin a LIVIN like hello>??? Jus charge her like half the price or sumat so long as u gettin da dosh

Salaam.

Sew one bad patch. Then say it'll cost to fix it. That'll teach her.

LOL^^^

Nah ssi jus be straight wid her