How can I solve this issue?

Scents of Jannah · 06:06 PM

I need your advice. Please be honest and tell me what I should do. I feel embarrassed asking as I'm worried I might be being a bit greedy. But I can't help feeling used.

What happened is I told my friend that I'm staring a business making islamic clothing from home. My friend gave me some clothes to sew for her daughter and niece. I made four sets but didn't charge her because it was the first time and she is my friend.

The week after she gave me 50 sari blouses to alter. When I saw 50 blouses I nearly fainted and jokingly said I am going to charge her £5 per blouse. I havent done them yet. Then last week she gave me material to sew 3 jilbaabs for her daughter and niece. When she came to collect them, I expected her to ask how much money she owed me. But she took the clothes and left. I felt too embarrassed to say anything.

I now realise that she expects me to do everything for free. Maybe because I didnt charge her the first time. I feel sad about the whole thing. I feel ashamed too as I think I may be being greedy. But I started this to make money in the first place.

Now I don't know what to do or how to rectify the situation. Am I being greedy or is it justified of me to expect to be paid. Please advise me. I feel so incompetant.

Ghazi · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Just tell her straight if she's a friend she'll understand.

Scents of Jannah · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

But would it make me look like I'm being greedy? Am I?

------ · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Nope. You just asking for what is yours..I think..

SirZubair · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

No,you're not being greedy.

your friend should have the sense to pay you without you having to ask.

Especially since theres 50 of 'em

Faiza. · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

It seems that your friend is asking for too much sis. I mean, a couple of blouses here and there for free is ok since she's your friend... but 50? Come on now. I wouldn't even ask my sister to do that! Anyway, you can find my answer in the other thread you put up in the sis section.
Hope i helped a little bit.

DaNgErOuS MiNdS · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Aslaam'alaikum

Your friend should know better because that is just being ungreatful on her behalf. If you don't want to confront her about it, just dont do them for her and when she asks why the clothes aren't done just tell her that you are busy with your business and people are 'paying' for their clothes to be sewen so you have to give them priority...

it's abit funny aswell.

x Maz x · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Aww MashAllah...you so sweet bl3$$...Ukhty you aint greedy Nah nah nah, just asking for whts right InshAllah, if she a true mate InshAllah she will understand..Peace! and good luck, do whats right sister! x

Scents of Jannah · 11:28 AM

Oh thank you, thank you for your replies. I was beginning to lose hope lol. May Allah reward you all. Ameen.

I feel better and not so greedy now but how should I say it? Some words would be helpful plzzz

Quote:

Originally Posted by DaNgErOuS MiNdS

it's abit funny aswell.

bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet

lolwatever · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

hehe yeh no harm in saying that you charge a fee, that's purely halal business.

Hehe its a bit of a lesson for the future though, personally (and even islamically) you should neverrrr start anything unless you've got a contract written up... coz even if she's ur best friend, misunderstandings and misinterpretations can occur and unease begings to occur and shaytan gets involved.

so in future set things straight from the beginning, write it on paper, do it the Islamic way, trust mee ti saves sooo much hassles and embaresments later on, and it keeps you both really good freinds.

for now, just say you're charging a fee, purely halal, its not being greedy... it's just being a good business person ;)

MetSudaisTwice · **Page Updated: 25/05/2006**

salam
sis, you are using your time to help your friend, surely your frined will understand that such efforts will need her to pay you, otherwise she will continue to take advantage of you
and you know what people say, time is money

wasalam

DaNgErOuS MiNdS · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Quote:

Originally Posted by Muslimah_Sis

bro, I can't even look at the 50 blouses. I've shoved them in the closet

i know

thats just taking the mick, maybe she'll bring a whole truck-load after the blouses are done.

But this situation is nothing new it happens alot, i've seen it manny times and usually is solved once guidlines are set out.

AsIaN_qUeEn · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

^^LOL

sis u need to get her 2 pay otherwise she gna take advantage of u big tym! Shes already started to by the sounds of it

I mean my AUNTY sews my clothes and i INSIST on payin her, thats her way of earnin a LIVIN like hello>??? Jus charge her like half the price or sumat so long as u gettin da dosh

Z · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

Salaam.

Sew one bad patch. Then say it'll cost to fix it. That'll teach her.

AsIaN_qUeEn · **Re: How can I solve this issue? -** 05-18-2006

LOL^^^

Nah ssi jus be straight wid her

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Scents of Jannah I Love Allah Status: Offline Posts: 6,017 Reputation: 37582 Rep Power: 83 Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: La ilaha illAllah - (B'ham) Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 I need your advice. Please be honest and tell me what I should do. I feel embarrassed asking as I'm worried I might be being a bit greedy. But I can't help feeling used. What happened is I told my friend that I'm staring a business making islamic clothing from home. My friend gave me some clothes to sew for her daughter and niece. I made four sets but didn't charge her because it was the first time and she is my friend. The week after she gave me 50 sari blouses to alter. When I saw 50 blouses I nearly fainted and jokingly said I am going to charge her £5 per blouse. I havent done them yet. Then last week she gave me material to sew 3 jilbaabs for her daughter and niece. When she came to collect them, I expected her to ask how much money she owed me. But she took the clothes and left. I felt too embarrassed to say anything. I now realise that she expects me to do everything for free. Maybe because I didnt charge her the first time. I feel sad about the whole thing. I feel ashamed too as I think I may be being greedy. But I started this to make money in the first place. Now I don't know what to do or how to rectify the situation. Am I being greedy or is it justified of me to expect to be paid. Please advise me. I feel so incompetant. __________________ "Truly in the heart there is a void that can not be removed except with the company of Allah. And in it there is a sadness that can not be removed except with the happiness of knowing Allah and being true to Him. And in it there is an emptiness that can not be filled except with love for Him and by turning to Him and always remembering Him. And if a person were given all of the world and what is in it, it would not fill this emptiness." -Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyya Last edited by Scents of Jannah; 05-18-2006 at 06:06 PM..

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Ghazi Shaytan-Buster Status: Offline Posts: 2,724 Reputation: 2065 Rep Power: 31 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Travelling through Dunya Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 Just tell her straight if she's a friend she'll understand.

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Scents of Jannah I Love Allah Status: Offline Posts: 6,017 Reputation: 37582 Rep Power: 83 Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: La ilaha illAllah - (B'ham) Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 But would it make me look like I'm being greedy? Am I? __________________ "Truly in the heart there is a void that can not be removed except with the company of Allah. And in it there is a sadness that can not be removed except with the happiness of knowing Allah and being true to Him. And in it there is an emptiness that can not be filled except with love for Him and by turning to Him and always remembering Him. And if a person were given all of the world and what is in it, it would not fill this emptiness." -Ibn Qayyim al Jawziyya

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------ Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 0 Reputation: 0 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Mar 2006 Way of Life: Undisclosed	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 Nope. You just asking for what is yours..I think..

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SirZubair EliteRationalMinded Status: Offline Posts: 2,732 Reputation: 12343 Rep Power: 41 Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: New Zealand Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 No,you're not being greedy. your friend should have the sense to pay you without you having to ask. Especially since theres 50 of 'em __________________ *Dont Mistake My Harshness* For Strength And Neither Mistake My Kindness For Weakness.**

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Faiza. Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 8,355 Reputation: 37858 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jul 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 It seems that your friend is asking for too much sis. I mean, a couple of blouses here and there for free is ok since she's your friend... but 50? Come on now. I wouldn't even ask my sister to do that! Anyway, you can find my answer in the other thread you put up in the sis section. Hope i helped a little bit.

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DaNgErOuS MiNdS IB Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 1,783 Reputation: 7934 Rep Power: 37 Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: England la la laa Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 Aslaam'alaikum Your friend should know better because that is just being ungreatful on her behalf. If you don't want to confront her about it, just dont do them for her and when she asks why the clothes aren't done just tell her that you are busy with your business and people are 'paying' for their clothes to be sewen so you have to give them priority... it's abit funny aswell. __________________ Take a Visit We'll make you dizzy

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lolwatever stare at stars.. Status: Offline Posts: 4,624 Reputation: 13843 Rep Power: 46 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Solar System Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 hehe yeh no harm in saying that you charge a fee, that's purely halal business. Hehe its a bit of a lesson for the future though, personally (and even islamically) you should neverrrr start anything unless you've got a contract written up... coz even if she's ur best friend, misunderstandings and misinterpretations can occur and unease begings to occur and shaytan gets involved. so in future set things straight from the beginning, write it on paper, do it the Islamic way, trust mee ti saves sooo much hassles and embaresments later on, and it keeps you both really good freinds. for now, just say you're charging a fee, purely halal, its not being greedy... it's just being a good business person ;) __________________ commenthere: www.behold--thepowerofcheese.spaces.msn.com ليس بعلم ما حواه القمطر، ماالعلم إلا ما وعاه الصدر .::.....sabr Ayyoub.....::.

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AsIaN_qUeEn Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 4,464 Reputation: 3945 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: UK Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 ^^LOL sis u need to get her 2 pay otherwise she gna take advantage of u big tym! Shes already started to by the sounds of it I mean my AUNTY sews my clothes and i INSIST on payin her, thats her way of earnin a LIVIN like hello>??? Jus charge her like half the price or sumat so long as u gettin da dosh

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Z IB Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 1,587 Reputation: 1966 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Apr 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 Salaam. Sew one bad patch. Then say it'll cost to fix it. That'll teach her. __________________ Got a question, or got something in general to say or ask me, drop me a line. Peace out! - Z.

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AsIaN_qUeEn Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 4,464 Reputation: 3945 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: UK Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How can I solve this issue? - 05-18-2006 LOL^^^ Nah ssi jus be straight wid her