how would you explain 2 a teeenager...?

Protected_Diamond · **how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

asalamualykum brothers and sisters, hope you all in good health along with your families ameen!!

well basically i was walking home 2day and this girl in our class called aglea was curious abt me wearing a burka and covering maself....and she asked me why would you want to cover yoself? dont you want to show the men yo figure and yo beauty?..etc...i tried my best explaining to her that islam teaches us to dress modestly and that we should have some self-respect so that men recognise that yo is a practising sister and they'll respect u 2!...she ddint seem 2 fully understand that and then we had to go our seperate ways...erm well i juss wana ask you brothers and sisters that if any1 else does ask me like how shall i explain 2 dem so that they get intrested in Islam? ;)

jazahka Allah khayr in advance!! :sister:

walakumasalaam

baby_muslimah15 · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

As-salaamu Alaikum, I had some people come up 2 me and ask me the same thing, or say they couldn't do it....But I just told them what I knew about hijab and why we do it...So maybe you should tell her about the religion and why we cover...But try not to scare her by telling her if she dont do it she well go to hell...A couple of my friends did that and lets just say it wasnt pretty......Hope this helps

Protected_Diamond · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

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Originally Posted by baby_muslimah15

As-salaamu Alaikum, I had some people come up 2 me and ask me the same thing, or say they couldn't do it....But I just told them what I knew about hijab and why we do it...So maybe you should tell her about the religion and why we cover...But try not to scare her by telling her if she dont do it she well go to hell...A couple of my friends did that and lets just say it wasnt pretty......Hope this helps

walakumasalaam sis!!

datz one thing which i probably would have said...all u guys r guna end up in hell...lol...

nah im messing, yeah cool lets hope she doesnt feel scared asking me again

it's true some peeps are ded scared of me they think im a sucide bomber

azim · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

I find it usually hard to explain to non-muslims the wisdom behind the hijab/burkha etc... Since attention from the opposite sex is usually considered a good thing to them, the whole argument is lost. It's better to convince them the attention is bad, since it leads to bad things. But again, the bad thing it leads to is usually considered quite good in this society...just tell them they're going to hell if they dont wear it.

baby_muslimah15 · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

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Originally Posted by ~baby girl~

walakumasalaam sis!!

datz one thing which i probably would have said...all u guys r guna end up in hell...lol...

nah im messing, yeah cool lets hope she doesnt feel scared asking me again

it's true some peeps are ded scared of me they think im a sucide bomber

LOOL

gotta go.......just playin, sometimes I get like that, I just wanna say(WELL I COULDNT DISOBEY MY LORD) or go out and show my body......But if the girl really wanna know and not just playin...BRING OUT THE QUR'AN looool

Protected_Diamond · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

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Originally Posted by azim

I find it usually hard to explain to non-muslims the wisdom behind the hijab/burkha etc... Since attention from the opposite sex is usually considered a good thing to them, the whole argument is lost. It's better to convince them the attention is bad, since it leads to bad things. But again, the bad thing it leads to is usually considered quite good in this society...just tell them they're going to hell if they dont wear it.

yeah is juss fiqh init..whn peeps think wots rong is right and wots right is wrong...o well lets hope they convert in2 muslims b4 iss 2 late ameen!

^^lol..i dont think a non-muslim is allowed to hold a quran sharif

amani · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

ive been asked quite a few times and one thing i notice women always understand is talking about women have fallen victim of being molasted by man due to the lack of clothes. and how islam tries to prevent us women by having us cover. and that it really is to our benifit
also, mention that a womans body is her right to show who she wants. those she feels safe with

Protected_Diamond · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

^^very true jazahka allah 4 replying back sister

- Qatada - · 08:50 PM

Asalamu-Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
all praise is due to Allah. we praise him, and seek his help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah, most high from the evils of our own selves and from our wicked deeds. Whomever Allah guides can not be misguided, and whomever he leads astray can not be guided. I testify that there is no true God worthy of being worshipped except Allah, alone, without partner or associate. I further testify that Muhammad is his slave and messenger, may Allah’s salaah and salamm also be granted to the prophet’s pure family and to all of his noble companions.

i know wa u mean sis.. its really tough explainin this to peeps especially when they been bought up to think that you gota look good to impress other people and thats all life is about. and tryin to explain to them is really hard cz they dont understand why you do it..

the better way to do it - is to put them under a situation that they used to. for example tell her to imagine a time like for example if she went out with a boy.. and how he treated her - and how all along - he could have been playin her and she wouldn't know about it. after this - he could dump her whenever he wanted and no1 could stop him and no1 would care if she got hurt and ery1 would just tell her to 'get over it.' the same would happen if she was married too (later in the future) - cz theyz nothin a person can do in this country if a persons husband has a affair - imagine how a gyalz life would be.. imagine a life without no1 carin how u feel..

you can even mention situations such as rape and how america has the highest number of rapes every year. this is cz most women dress up so men get tempted and if they do go jail - its only for a few years and they can come back out and can easily do it again.. ask her 'is that really fair on women?' and has she ever noticed that this country is run mainly by men and they decide what the laws are goin to be.. so why dont they have strong laws which protect women? thats why in islam men and women are equal in the eyes of Allah (swt) and if a man rapes a woman in islam - he could even get death for it.. and in islamic countries - the rape rate is alot lower than that of america and england etc. this is Allah (swt)'s law and not just any man made one (cz most man made laws are made by the men and not the women which makes it unfair on the women.) whereas the islamic law is equal for women and men. tell her this is the reason you wear all this hijab +niqab etc. - so you get protected from guyz 'pervin' and insha Allah its a less likely chance that they will rape someone who wearz full hijab + niqab etc. cz they wont be tempted in the first place + they dont know how good lookin or not so good lookin the person in the hijab + niqab iz.

this will get her thinking insha Allah.. and then tell her that islam stops all that and the reason for it iz - so people dont play each other, so people dont hav affairs, so people dont get raped - so people dont get hurt and their life doesn't get destroyed.

people hear what a person says but they dont normally take it in - unless they have some sort of feeling/emotion towards it. so after this start explaining to her how islam protects a person from all this. get quotes from the holy qur'an and the hadith to prove your points. (you can even take the notes as a printout). there was another post already which is regarding womens rights in islam and how both are equal.

http://www.islamicboard.com/showpost...6&postcount=65
(you can read more info. on how women should be treated in Islam on the above link insha Allah.)

sorry for the essay..

Allah (swt) knows best.

Protected_Diamond · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

asalamualykum bro!!

hey ders no need 2 appologise...anyways alhamdulillah that was very useful...and insha Allah if she or anyone else does ask i'll know staright away what to say jazahka Allah ever so much brothers n sisters

you've all bin a great help may Allah s.w.a be pleased with u ameen!!

pious_hijabi · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

Dawud Wharnsby, the veil:
They say, "Oh, poor girl, you're so beautiful you know
It's a shame that you cover up your beauty so."
She just smiles and graciously responds reassuringly,
"This beauty that I have is just one simple part of me.
This body that I have, no stranger has the right to see.
These long clothes, this shawl I wear, ensure my modesty.
Faith is more essential than fashion, wouldn't you agree?

This hijab,
This mark of piety,
Is an act of faith, a symbol,
For all the world to see.
A simple cloth, to protect her dignity.
So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity.

They tell her, "Girl, don't you know this is the West and you are free?
You don't need to be opressed, ashamed of your femininity."
She just shakes her head and she speaks so assuredly,

"See the bill-boards and the magazines that line the check-out isles, with their phony painted faces and their air-brushed smiles?
Well their sheer clothes and low cut gowns are really not for me.
You call it freedom, I call it anarchy."

This hijab,
This mark of piety,
Is an act of faith, a symbol,
For all the world to see.
A simple cloth, to protect her dignity.
So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity.
Lift the veil from your heart and seek the heart of purity.

Here is a song from Dawud Wharnsby, it helped me explain a little better the reason why I wear a hijab, I hope you like it.

pious_hijabi · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

The veil by Dawud Wharnsby
They say, "Oh, poor girl, you're so beautiful you know
It's a shame that you cover up your beauty so."
She just smiles and graciously responds reassuringly,
"This beauty that I have is just one simple part of me.
This body that I have, no stranger has the right to see.
These long clothes, this shawl I wear, ensure my modesty.
Faith is more essential than fashion, wouldn't you agree?

This hijab,
This mark of piety,
Is an act of faith, a symbol,
For all the world to see.
A simple cloth, to protect her dignity.
So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity.

They tell her, "Girl, don't you know this is the West and you are free?
You don't need to be opressed, ashamed of your femininity."
She just shakes her head and she speaks so assuredly,

"See the bill-boards and the magazines that line the check-out isles, with their phony painted faces and their air-brushed smiles?
Well their sheer clothes and low cut gowns are really not for me.
You call it freedom, I call it anarchy."

This hijab,
This mark of piety,
Is an act of faith, a symbol,
For all the world to see.
A simple cloth, to protect her dignity.
So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity.
Lift the veil from your heart and seek the heart of purity.

Hope you enjoy it.

Protected_Diamond · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 09-29-2005

lol..yeah heard that but jazahka Allah anywhere sister

btw is a wiked nasheed..... may Allah s.w.a be pleased with u ameen!

saidaharther · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 05-19-2006

salam alaikum sister
dont worry i think your explanation was very good masha allah, they will only understand and the idea will settle after a while, and if they do research
guidance is upto Allah our job is to tell them

i think what you said was great masha allah
salam alaikum
saidah

Rose_Ice · **Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? -** 05-19-2006

i'd probably just explain to them my reasons of not wanting to be 'cheap' and selling myself.:okay: but in a nice way of course.

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Protected_Diamond LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 1,812 Reputation: 2460 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Dunya Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 asalamualykum brothers and sisters, hope you all in good health along with your families ameen!! well basically i was walking home 2day and this girl in our class called aglea was curious abt me wearing a burka and covering maself....and she asked me why would you want to cover yoself? dont you want to show the men yo figure and yo beauty?..etc...i tried my best explaining to her that islam teaches us to dress modestly and that we should have some self-respect so that men recognise that yo is a practising sister and they'll respect u 2!...she ddint seem 2 fully understand that and then we had to go our seperate ways...erm well i juss wana ask you brothers and sisters that if any1 else does ask me like how shall i explain 2 dem so that they get intrested in Islam? ;) jazahka Allah khayr in advance!! :sister: walakumasalaam __________________ “Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.” I never saw anyone as just as the world. As long as you pursue the world it will pursue you, but when you turn away from it and seek God, it will leave you alone and its glamour shall no longer fascinate you.

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baby_muslimah15 LI Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 697 Reputation: 308 Rep Power: 20 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: ~~~Trying to Find my Way in Life~~~ Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 As-salaamu Alaikum, I had some people come up 2 me and ask me the same thing, or say they couldn't do it....But I just told them what I knew about hijab and why we do it...So maybe you should tell her about the religion and why we cover...But try not to scare her by telling her if she dont do it she well go to hell...A couple of my friends did that and lets just say it wasnt pretty......Hope this helps __________________ :love: $$baby_muslimah15 :love:$$:happy1: "If you want to know what your status is with Allah, then look at what His status is with you. If you want to know what Allah has prepared for you, then look at what you have prepared for Him"

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azim LI Oldtimer Status: Offline Posts: 700 Reputation: 987 Rep Power: 22 Join Date: Aug 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 I find it usually hard to explain to non-muslims the wisdom behind the hijab/burkha etc... Since attention from the opposite sex is usually considered a good thing to them, the whole argument is lost. It's better to convince them the attention is bad, since it leads to bad things. But again, the bad thing it leads to is usually considered quite good in this society...just tell them they're going to hell if they dont wear it.

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amani :) for my piXie Status: Offline Posts: 7,229 Reputation: 26877 Rep Power: 63 Join Date: Mar 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 ive been asked quite a few times and one thing i notice women always understand is talking about women have fallen victim of being molasted by man due to the lack of clothes. and how islam tries to prevent us women by having us cover. and that it really is to our benifit also, mention that a womans body is her right to show who she wants. those she feels safe with

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Protected_Diamond LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 1,812 Reputation: 2460 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Dunya Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 ^^very true jazahka allah 4 replying back sister __________________ “Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.” I never saw anyone as just as the world. As long as you pursue the world it will pursue you, but when you turn away from it and seek God, it will leave you alone and its glamour shall no longer fascinate you.

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- Qatada - Ummah Under 1 Banner Status: Offline Posts: 10,379 Reputation: 41985 Rep Power: 84 Join Date: May 2005 Location: ...travelling to the hereafter.. Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 Asalamu-Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu all praise is due to Allah. we praise him, and seek his help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah, most high from the evils of our own selves and from our wicked deeds. Whomever Allah guides can not be misguided, and whomever he leads astray can not be guided. I testify that there is no true God worthy of being worshipped except Allah, alone, without partner or associate. I further testify that Muhammad is his slave and messenger, may Allah’s salaah and salamm also be granted to the prophet’s pure family and to all of his noble companions. i know wa u mean sis.. its really tough explainin this to peeps especially when they been bought up to think that you gota look good to impress other people and thats all life is about. and tryin to explain to them is really hard cz they dont understand why you do it.. the better way to do it - is to put them under a situation that they used to. for example tell her to imagine a time like for example if she went out with a boy.. and how he treated her - and how all along - he could have been playin her and she wouldn't know about it. after this - he could dump her whenever he wanted and no1 could stop him and no1 would care if she got hurt and ery1 would just tell her to 'get over it.' the same would happen if she was married too (later in the future) - cz theyz nothin a person can do in this country if a persons husband has a affair - imagine how a gyalz life would be.. imagine a life without no1 carin how u feel.. you can even mention situations such as rape and how america has the highest number of rapes every year. this is cz most women dress up so men get tempted and if they do go jail - its only for a few years and they can come back out and can easily do it again.. ask her 'is that really fair on women?' and has she ever noticed that this country is run mainly by men and they decide what the laws are goin to be.. so why dont they have strong laws which protect women? thats why in islam men and women are equal in the eyes of Allah (swt) and if a man rapes a woman in islam - he could even get death for it.. and in islamic countries - the rape rate is alot lower than that of america and england etc. this is Allah (swt)'s law and not just any man made one (cz most man made laws are made by the men and not the women which makes it unfair on the women.) whereas the islamic law is equal for women and men. tell her this is the reason you wear all this hijab +niqab etc. - so you get protected from guyz 'pervin' and insha Allah its a less likely chance that they will rape someone who wearz full hijab + niqab etc. cz they wont be tempted in the first place + they dont know how good lookin or not so good lookin the person in the hijab + niqab iz. this will get her thinking insha Allah.. and then tell her that islam stops all that and the reason for it iz - so people dont play each other, so people dont hav affairs, so people dont get raped - so people dont get hurt and their life doesn't get destroyed. people hear what a person says but they dont normally take it in - unless they have some sort of feeling/emotion towards it. so after this start explaining to her how islam protects a person from all this. get quotes from the holy qur'an and the hadith to prove your points. (you can even take the notes as a printout). there was another post already which is regarding womens rights in islam and how both are equal. http://www.islamicboard.com/showpost...6&postcount=65 (you can read more info. on how women should be treated in Islam on the above link insha Allah.) sorry for the essay.. Allah (swt) knows best. __________________ iDawah.com Bringing Dawah back..to the future! http://salaf-stories.blogspot.com Last edited by - Qatada -; 09-29-2005 at 08:50 PM..

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Protected_Diamond LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 1,812 Reputation: 2460 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Dunya Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 asalamualykum bro!! hey ders no need 2 appologise...anyways alhamdulillah that was very useful...and insha Allah if she or anyone else does ask i'll know staright away what to say jazahka Allah ever so much brothers n sisters you've all bin a great help may Allah s.w.a be pleased with u ameen!! __________________ “Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.” I never saw anyone as just as the world. As long as you pursue the world it will pursue you, but when you turn away from it and seek God, it will leave you alone and its glamour shall no longer fascinate you.

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pious_hijabi Member Status: Offline Posts: 41 Reputation: 31 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Toronto Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 Dawud Wharnsby, the veil: They say, "Oh, poor girl, you're so beautiful you know It's a shame that you cover up your beauty so." She just smiles and graciously responds reassuringly, "This beauty that I have is just one simple part of me. This body that I have, no stranger has the right to see. These long clothes, this shawl I wear, ensure my modesty. Faith is more essential than fashion, wouldn't you agree? This hijab, This mark of piety, Is an act of faith, a symbol, For all the world to see. A simple cloth, to protect her dignity. So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity. They tell her, "Girl, don't you know this is the West and you are free? You don't need to be opressed, ashamed of your femininity." She just shakes her head and she speaks so assuredly, "See the bill-boards and the magazines that line the check-out isles, with their phony painted faces and their air-brushed smiles? Well their sheer clothes and low cut gowns are really not for me. You call it freedom, I call it anarchy." This hijab, This mark of piety, Is an act of faith, a symbol, For all the world to see. A simple cloth, to protect her dignity. So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity. Lift the veil from your heart and seek the heart of purity. Here is a song from Dawud Wharnsby, it helped me explain a little better the reason why I wear a hijab, I hope you like it.

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pious_hijabi Member Status: Offline Posts: 41 Reputation: 31 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Toronto Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 The veil by Dawud Wharnsby They say, "Oh, poor girl, you're so beautiful you know It's a shame that you cover up your beauty so." She just smiles and graciously responds reassuringly, "This beauty that I have is just one simple part of me. This body that I have, no stranger has the right to see. These long clothes, this shawl I wear, ensure my modesty. Faith is more essential than fashion, wouldn't you agree? This hijab, This mark of piety, Is an act of faith, a symbol, For all the world to see. A simple cloth, to protect her dignity. So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity. They tell her, "Girl, don't you know this is the West and you are free? You don't need to be opressed, ashamed of your femininity." She just shakes her head and she speaks so assuredly, "See the bill-boards and the magazines that line the check-out isles, with their phony painted faces and their air-brushed smiles? Well their sheer clothes and low cut gowns are really not for me. You call it freedom, I call it anarchy." This hijab, This mark of piety, Is an act of faith, a symbol, For all the world to see. A simple cloth, to protect her dignity. So lift the veil from your heart to see the heart of purity. Lift the veil from your heart and seek the heart of purity. Hope you enjoy it.

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Protected_Diamond LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 1,812 Reputation: 2460 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Dunya Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 09-29-2005 lol..yeah heard that but jazahka Allah anywhere sister btw is a wiked nasheed..... may Allah s.w.a be pleased with u ameen! __________________ “Whoever puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is Allah for him.” I never saw anyone as just as the world. As long as you pursue the world it will pursue you, but when you turn away from it and seek God, it will leave you alone and its glamour shall no longer fascinate you.

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saidaharther Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 90 Reputation: 18 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 05-19-2006 salam alaikum sister dont worry i think your explanation was very good masha allah, they will only understand and the idea will settle after a while, and if they do research guidance is upto Allah our job is to tell them i think what you said was great masha allah salam alaikum saidah

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Rose_Ice ...sheep...S Status: Offline Posts: 2,831 Reputation: 10562 Rep Power: 32 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: how would you explain 2 a teeenager...? - 05-19-2006 i'd probably just explain to them my reasons of not wanting to be 'cheap' and selling myself.:okay: but in a nice way of course.