It is an authentic hadith. Now does that mean it is scientifically accurate? That is a very debatable matter.

But, we must keep in mind that the hadith are the writings of man and not clear as to what may have been intended to be a scientific fact or a metaphor. It is an accurate statement, but we have yet to prove it as a fact.

From a genetic view point, it does not seem to be scientifically accurate, but could be a metaphor, analogy, probability etc. or possibly regarding something we do not understand.

There may also be other factors involved that are not yet proven, that can show it to be scientificaly correct. Some of the workable practices that can help a couple predetermine the gender of a child prior to concept could exist under the natural conditions of the mother to be, based on the increase or decrease of hormones resulting in either alkaline or acidic conditions in the woman's body during conception.

At the moment it would be best to simply acknowledge that the hadith is authentic, has a high degree of reliability, but we do not know if it is intended to be a scientific fact and that to date it has yet to be scientifically proven. However, some unproven studies seem to indicate it could be scientifically correct.

Without going into graphic detail:


Source: http://www.parents.com/getting-pregn...e-baby-gender/

thank you brother, I was searching the internet for some hadiths and a bunch of em came up and I didnt know what to make of them. If you don't mind, I read this other one and was confused about it.

"The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot while we were Junub.During the menses, he used to order me to put on an Izar (dress worn below thewaist) and used to fondle me. While in Itikaf, he used to bring his head nearme and I would wash it while I used to be in my periods (menses)."

Bukhari (7.030) narrated Abdullah bin Umar:

Allah's Apostle said, "Evil omen is in the woman, the house and the horse."

This has been used in alot of anti islamic websites, I was just wondering what to make of it. Sorry if this offends anyone. I am just confused as to what these hadiths mean.

I am far from being a scholar and am fairly new at studying hadith. One thing about the hadith is how they relate many very intimate moments of the Prophet's(PBUH) life and his actions and words relating to very personal matters.

Again that is an authentic hadith of high reliability. we can be certain Aisha did say that and that did happen. Now the question is how does that relate to us today. In my opinion I believe that it shows very few things that happen in privacy between a husband and wife would be seen as sinful. to me it says that a married couple need not feel shame, guilt or offense over natural body functions that both men and women experience and will share as married couples. When I first read that hadith, I thought it was a bit personal to be related and was somewhat embarrassed, shocked etc. that such would be written and preserved. But, as I became more aware of what is being said, I now find it to be a very beautiful hadith and does show the degree of closeness and care a married couple should have towards each other. In marriage there no longer is separation or need of separation for each others most intimate body functions.

Another authentic hadith. But, sadly I have yet to do any in depth study on this one and have yet to read enough scholarly views to claim I understand it. However, in my opinion I feel it relates to being an example of how the things we consider to be of the highest value can also be used as a means to lead us into sinful temptations.

Brother, I thank you very much for those explanations. I am sorry if the thing shocked you. We both are not scholars of hadith. Our lack of knowledge in these particular areas might lead us to develope incorrect thoughts?

Perhaps I should stay away from reading hadith from random websites? Many of them are contorted against Islam. I am just confused as to what I should avoid and what I shouldnt avoid. Any advice?

That being said your explanations make perfect sense, you seem to be well on your way

to be honest I have a very low opinion of online scholars and those who claim to be scholars online. I am certain there are valid reliable ones, however most of us will stand a higher risk of coming across erroneous ones.

The best choice is to seek out a learned scholar or Imam in your immediate area and even then always seek to verify what you read or hear from any person. In the final plans of life each of us will be accountable for our actions and the excuse that somebody mislead us, may not be an acceptable excuse.

Read, learn, question, verify all things. Do not accept anything a living person tells you, without seeking more opinions. Islam is a lifetime journey of learning and validating.

Most anti-Islamic sites become obvious after a few seconds. The most dangerous are those that appear to be supportive of Islam, have a very high degree of accuracy, but introduce subtle unexpected errors.

Avoid all site you know are anti-Islamic. Immediately get off any you find to be after reading for awhile and always stand ready to question and seek verification of what you read on the others.

There was an extensive thread about the genetics hadith, however most of it got deleted due to forum migration.

These methods may work or they may not. So far there's no evidence tehy do. The article mentions one family who happened to use them and got a baby girl.
The Talmud says exactly the opposite as the hadith claims. Although the resemblence of a child to its parents is not limited to the child's gender only.

Personally, I doubt the timing of the orgasm has any effect on the gender or the resemblence of a child to its parents.

The hadith is authentic, here is a little piece on it:

Turning our attention to the child resembling one of its parents, this is also confirmed by the prophetic hadîth. The child may sometimes resemble his father, his mother, one of his uncles, his grandparents, or he may closely resemble none of them.

Dr. Muhammad al-Bârr, in the same book (page 164) writes:

In brief, the factors governing the child’s resembling one parent, grandparent, or even coming with new attributes that do not belong to any of his relatives – like what happened at the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him) when al-Farâzî’s wife gave birth to a black baby while none of their relatives were black – is a very complicated matter. Genetics plays a very complicated role. Some of these genes follow the Mendelian model with respect to dominant and recessive genes and others do not.

Even those genes that submit to such laws might at times not act in accordance with those laws. The gene may or may not be fully expressed.

Modern medicine is still ignorant of many of the determining factors that bring about how much a child will resemble either of its parents. Until now, we do not know the role that may be played by the release of one fluid before the other in how the child will resemble one of his parents. Until and unless this is decisively determined in the future, we have no other choice but to simply believe what our Prophet (peace be upon him) said. He does not say anything except the truth.

In fact, this should encourage medical scholars to investigate these matters and discover new things.

I have given you the answer of Dr. Muhammad al-Bârr, because this is an important issue and I found his answer to be sufficient.

We have to believe in what Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) tell us. We are certain of the fact that Allah says: “Of knowledge it is only a little that is communicated to you.” [Sûrah al-Isrâ’: 85]

And Allah knows best.

http://islamtoday.com/show_detail_se...main_cat_id=31

if you are to be the new "Deedat or something", grab a Ibn Kathir Tafsir and Ma'ariful Qur'an and read them both, that's about 15 volumes. read them all and listen to some online tafsir, i highly recommend Mufti Ismail Menk:

http://www.muftimenk.co.za/Downloads.html

listen to 3. Tafseer - Ramadaan 1426 (2005) Klerksdorp (Reasons of Revelation of verses of the noble Qur'an) first! then listen to it again. you should be amazed.

keep in mind when "refuting" "crap" about our Deen, that the reason that people hate Islam is because "they don't get it". YOU have to "get it" first in order to explain it. listening to Mufti Menk, who frequently quotes ibn Kathir as well as the Ma'ariful Qur'an, you will, In Sha'a Allah, recognize 2 points:

A) Islam is the most beautiful creation of Allah {Subhannahu Wa Ta' Aala}; it sings of righteousness and justice and guidance.

and

B) because A is true, you will learn that EVERYTHING IN ISLAM MAKES PERFECT RATIONAL SENSE! there may be a few things that only Allah {Subhannahu Wa Ta' Aala} and His Messenger{Salla Allahu Alayhe Wa Salaam} know for sure, but you will see, In Sha'a Allah, that common sense for the most part will become your best weapon!

and all of that reading and listening should keep you off of those sites for a while. "doubt" is NOT a good part of Islam, don't bite off more than you can chew at once!

I'm sure these ahadith are already refuted in details before but here are my two cents

In the name of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala), the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.

To be honest, you do not even need long explanations to understand this hadith, but let's do it for the heck of it. We learn three things from this hadith.

1- Prophet (Peace be upon him) and 'Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her)
used to take shower together.

Lesson: there is nothing wrong with a husband taking shower with her wife and if they look at each other while naked.

2- Prophet (Peace be upon him) and 'Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) used to intimate (excluding sexual intercourse) during her menses.

Lesson: In Jahliya, the Mushrikeen (Poly Atheists) and People of the book (Jews and Christians) would separate themselves from their wives during their menses and would not go near them and touch them. So the Sunnah of Prophet (Peace be upon him) broke the Jahliya custom. In addition, in Islam, a husband and wife can intimate with each other during her menses as long as they do not have sexual intercourse.

3- Our mother, 'Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) used to wash Prophet's (Peace be upon him) hair during her menses when he (Peace be upon him) was in Itkaf.

Comments: The masjid and house of Prophet (Peace be upon him) were attached and it is forbidden for women to enter Masjid wile they are in menses.

Now, what is wrong with this hadith? Do haters have problem with a husband and wife taking shower together or looking at each other when naked? Or do they have problem with a husband and wife enjoying each other when the wife is having her period? Or do that have problem with a wife washing her husband's hair while she is in menses? They have problems with a husband and wife's relationship! Come on! If this was about themselves, their friends, celebrities etc. they will say "wow, this is so romantic" but due to the name Muhammad, suddenly it has become the worst thing on this planet! They have no problem with their own people doing this illegally and illegitimately but they have problem when Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) or his followers do it legally and legitimately with their wives!

this hadith is incomplete, Shaykh Albani (May Allah have mercy on him) says:

Luckily I happen to come across an article in Islamtoday.com by Sheikh Muhammad b. `Abd Allah al-Qannâs which explains that there is no such thing as evil omen. There are bad qualities in things, and evil omen (as referred to in the hadith), are explained as consequences of these bad qualities. A man might get sorrow from bad wife, bad house or bad horse, but these are all qualities and not due to some superstition. The shaykh also explains, similarly, a man might get his happiness from a good wife, a good house and a good horse.

You can read the rest of the article for better understanding.


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I THINK I GOT THE ASNWER for my original problem.

In the hadith where it talks about the man discharging before the woman,

the word which was translated as first also means dominate or overpower,

thus again, it seems to be a translational problem that caused controversy.

The man's discharge necessarily implies the genes and such that are present

in the sperm. Thus if his genes overpower the woman's genes, the child will

look like him. This is basic genetics. The word is dominate NOT first. Also, the hadith describes what

the man and women have as seeds. There were no words such as semen or eggs back then so this

is in laymans terms again.


If anyone wants to verify this themselves they can but I read an article on it when I looked for explainations, i cant find it right now though but this is the gist of it.

unsolicited advice from a non-muslim: yes!
you are wasting your time and energy going to sites like that. you could use that energy to learn about your religion from reliable sources instead.

It seems Dr. Muhammad al-Bârr, which to me sounds like an arabic name, thinks the hadith speaks of the time the mother or the father reaches orgasm not dominance and recessiveness..

Others would disagree about what it is saying. Keep in mind, he may have tried to make sense of the translation and not the arabic. My statement still stands and a differing opinion on it does not negate the truth of mine.