Backbiting

Tiara B · **Backbiting -** 11-07-2009

Assalamu alaikum

I've been having a doubt during the past few months and I didn't have a chance to clarify it till now, Alahamdulillah...(thanks to the Islamic Board)
Backbiting is a great sin, and the only way to repent is by first, asking forgiveness from the person whom you backbited about. Only then will Allah forgive you. As narrated in a hadeeth:

“Abu Huraira narrated: the prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم ) said: “ let who has unjust his brother to purify himself from this sin by asking the forgiveness of that person before he dies. If he did not do so then in Judgment day whereas no Dinar nor Dirham exist, If he has good deeds ( Hasanat) then whom he unjust will take from and if he has no good deeds (Hasanat) then whom he unjust will give him from his bad deeds ( Say’aat). [ Sahih Bukhari: 2317]

But, my question is, how are we ever going to ask forgiveness from those whom we have never met or even spoken to? What about those who live miles and miles away? What about actors, presidents, celebrities. etc, etc..???

I just can't imagine HOW???!!!!! Is asking forgiveness from Allah alone, enough?

It would be a great burden lifted off my shoulders if anyone can please reply and clarify it for me. (This question may have an obvious answer, but I just need to be sure about it)

**Uthmān** · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-07-2009

Sheikh Yasir Qadhi was asked this question and he responded that, in such an instance, you should mention something good about the person you backbited in the presence of the person/people in front of whom you backbited them.

He answered it in his talk called The Power of Repentance - Be Courageous. It's on YouTube:

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5

I think you will probably find the answer in the fifth video but why don't you just watch all of them anyway! It's a brilliant, inspiring talk.

Tiara B · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-08-2009

great....thanks a lot!

**Uthmān** · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-08-2009

No problem. I hope you watched all of the videos!

**Uthmān** · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-08-2009

My mistake sister, I don't think it shows the Q&A session in the videos. Still, that is the answer he gave to to the question.

Tiara B · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-09-2009

I did watch the videos anyway and it's great! Allah is indeed the Most Merciful.

You said :
"you should mention something good about the person you backbited in the presence of the person/people in front of whom you backbited them"
But I didn't exactly understand it. should I mention it to the person I backbited, or the person to whom I was talking to when backbiting?

**Uthmān** · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-09-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aathiqah M.

But I didn't exactly understand it. should I mention it to the person I backbited, or the person to whom I was talking to when backbiting?

You should mention it to the person to whom you were talking when backbiting, he said.

Tiara B · **Re: Backbiting -** 11-10-2009

ok, thanks, i got it...

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Tiara B Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 17 Reputation: 37 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Backbiting - 11-07-2009 Assalamu alaikum I've been having a doubt during the past few months and I didn't have a chance to clarify it till now, Alahamdulillah...(thanks to the Islamic Board) Backbiting is a great sin, and the only way to repent is by first, asking forgiveness from the person whom you backbited about. Only then will Allah forgive you. As narrated in a hadeeth: “Abu Huraira narrated: the prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم ) said: “ let who has unjust his brother to purify himself from this sin by asking the forgiveness of that person before he dies. If he did not do so then in Judgment day whereas no Dinar nor Dirham exist, If he has good deeds ( Hasanat) then whom he unjust will take from and if he has no good deeds (Hasanat) then whom he unjust will give him from his bad deeds ( Say’aat). [ Sahih Bukhari: 2317] But, my question is, how are we ever going to ask forgiveness from those whom we have never met or even spoken to? What about those who live miles and miles away? What about actors, presidents, celebrities. etc, etc..??? I just can't imagine HOW???!!!!! Is asking forgiveness from Allah alone, enough? It would be a great burden lifted off my shoulders if anyone can please reply and clarify it for me. (This question may have an obvious answer, but I just need to be sure about it)

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Uthmān LI News Service Status: Online Posts: 5,575 Reputation: 45584 Rep Power: 93 Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Warrington, England Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-07-2009 Sheikh Yasir Qadhi was asked this question and he responded that, in such an instance, you should mention something good about the person you backbited in the presence of the person/people in front of whom you backbited them. He answered it in his talk called The Power of Repentance - Be Courageous. It's on YouTube: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 I think you will probably find the answer in the fifth video but why don't you just watch all of them anyway! It's a brilliant, inspiring talk. __________________ Imaam al-Shaafi'ee (rahimahullah) said: I never argued with anyone with the intention to win; rather, my intention was to seek the truth. Can you say the same thing? Think about it. Then think again.

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Tiara B Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 17 Reputation: 37 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-08-2009 great....thanks a lot!

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Uthmān LI News Service Status: Online Posts: 5,575 Reputation: 45584 Rep Power: 93 Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Warrington, England Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-08-2009 No problem. I hope you watched all of the videos! __________________ Imaam al-Shaafi'ee (rahimahullah) said: I never argued with anyone with the intention to win; rather, my intention was to seek the truth. Can you say the same thing? Think about it. Then think again.

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Uthmān LI News Service Status: Online Posts: 5,575 Reputation: 45584 Rep Power: 93 Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Warrington, England Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-08-2009 My mistake sister, I don't think it shows the Q&A session in the videos. Still, that is the answer he gave to to the question. __________________ Imaam al-Shaafi'ee (rahimahullah) said: I never argued with anyone with the intention to win; rather, my intention was to seek the truth. Can you say the same thing? Think about it. Then think again.

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Tiara B Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 17 Reputation: 37 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-09-2009 I did watch the videos anyway and it's great! Allah is indeed the Most Merciful. You said : "you should mention something good about the person you backbited in the presence of the person/people in front of whom you backbited them" But I didn't exactly understand it. should I mention it to the person I backbited, or the person to whom I was talking to when backbiting?

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Tiara B Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 17 Reputation: 37 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Nov 2009 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Backbiting - 11-10-2009 ok, thanks, i got it...