unbelievers in my famliy

Thought · **unbelievers in my famliy -** 12-15-2007

In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore

genki · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 12-15-2007

is he supposed to be a muslim?

muslim1 · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 12-23-2007

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Originally Posted by Thought

In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore

Yes it is hard, BUT remember that the more you are gentle with them, the more they will love Islam. It is not easy BUT it is the BEST way. Remember that our prophet SAWS has been always in trouble with closest people to him, but he has been always the most gentle person lived on earth.

Thought · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 01-06-2008

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Originally Posted by muslim1

Yes it is hard, BUT remember that the more you are gentle with them, the more they will love Islam. It is not easy BUT it is the BEST way. Remember that our prophet SAWS has been always in trouble with closest people to him, but he has been always the most gentle person lived on earth.

Assalamu'Alaykum brother, thank you for your reply. Do you also know some surra's that may inspire him?

i am taking your advice and try to be as gentle as possible.

Thought · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 01-06-2008

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Originally Posted by genki

is he supposed to be a muslim?

yes at least he is getting a full chance to be a good muslim

adeeb · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 01-11-2008

pray to Allah, in your tahajjud (night prayer) and ask Him to open your brother's heart...

do good deeds and be gentle to him,....

pray , pray..pray... as many as you can... coz Allah choose people to be His slave and to enter jannah...

i pray for u and ure brother, May Allah blesses both of u..

guyabano · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 01-11-2008

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Originally Posted by Thought

In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore

Well, the more you're trying to influence them, the more they will be pigheaded.
Smoking is a bad habit, muslim or not.

And please, do me a favor, drop this 'non-believer' thing. At least, be decent, and say 'different-believer' or simply non-mulsims

SomeHowpossible · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 02-01-2008

I think, first of all we should also become a role model for others then say some thing to other. smoking and drinking is habit addiction. be polite. and most of all pray for them, GOD can do what we cant.

(believe is power, have it in Allah)
________
sss

Thought · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 02-15-2008

DjazakAllaah for your kind advices

SomeHowpossible · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 02-16-2008

Dear Pray for him Allah will bless him, i have experience my younger brother was rude person when asked he had never listened to us, but now alhamdulillah Allah has blessed him with his Blessings.

___
sss

ansar.tajudeen · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 02-17-2008

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Originally Posted by Thought

In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore

its very disgrace to hear this brother...inshallah allah will surely guide him right path.....

be kind to him ...try to tell him this is not good habit wen he is in relaxed situation,since he is ur brother u know obiviously wen he will accept advice.. ..."ALCOHOL IS THE MOTHER OF ALL EVILS AND IT IS THE MOST SHAMEFULL OF EVILS"-----In sunan-IBN_MAJAH volume 3,BOOK of INTOXICANTS ,chapter 30 hadith N0.3371

for further things u can find here and u can tell to ur brother by telling all these points ..
http://www.irf.net/irf/dtp/dawah_tech/mcqnm12.htm

may these will help u to support u wen u tell to ur brother...

MAY ALLAH GUIDE US THE RIGHT PATH..

AMEEN!!!!!!!

Thought · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 04-09-2008

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Originally Posted by ansar.tajudeen

its very disgrace to hear this brother...inshallah allah will surely guide him right path.....

be kind to him ...try to tell him this is not good habit wen he is in relaxed situation,since he is ur brother u know obiviously wen he will accept advice.. ..."ALCOHOL IS THE MOTHER OF ALL EVILS AND IT IS THE MOST SHAMEFULL OF EVILS"-----In sunan-IBN_MAJAH volume 3,BOOK of INTOXICANTS ,chapter 30 hadith N0.3371

for further things u can find here and u can tell to ur brother by telling all these points ..
http://www.irf.net/irf/dtp/dawah_tech/mcqnm12.htm

may these will help u to support u wen u tell to ur brother...

MAY ALLAH GUIDE US THE RIGHT PATH..

AMEEN!!!!!!!

i use the site you recommended; at least he is listening now. that is progress.

AvarAllahNoor · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 04-09-2008

If your force your ways upon another they'll reject them. Make it so, that they themselves appraoch you to understand about Islam (in this case) Show how easy it is, and how it isn't life changing (Spirtually it is) he won't have to become a hermit.

Get them invloved with Islamic things. After awhile, it'll all fall into place.

Gur Fateh

noorahmad · **Re: unbelievers in my famliy -** 04-09-2008

All you can do is ask du'aa that Allah opens his heart. the best way for you to try to get your bro on-track is dat u make him understand the greatness of Islam, that u show him proofs frm da Quran, that Islam is the true religion, and insha'Allah, he will revert back

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Thought Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 28 Reputation: 47 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	unbelievers in my famliy - 12-15-2007 In my family some members are non-believers. I found it hard to reason with them as they don't accept Allah (swt). My brother smokes and drinks and when i want to talk to him he says it isn't my business. Should i give him up or do something else? I do not know what to do anymore

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genki LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 133 Reputation: 226 Rep Power: 6 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: japan Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 12-15-2007 is he supposed to be a muslim?

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adeeb Way to paradise Status: Offline Posts: 360 Reputation: 616 Rep Power: 12 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Indonesia Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 01-11-2008 pray to Allah, in your tahajjud (night prayer) and ask Him to open your brother's heart... do good deeds and be gentle to him,.... pray , pray..pray... as many as you can... coz Allah choose people to be His slave and to enter jannah... i pray for u and ure brother, May Allah blesses both of u.. __________________ Everything I Do, I DO for You, Allah! Unable to deny the truth...

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SomeHowpossible Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 30 Reputation: 38 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jun 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 02-01-2008 I think, first of all we should also become a role model for others then say some thing to other. smoking and drinking is habit addiction. be polite. and most of all pray for them, GOD can do what we cant. (believe is power, have it in Allah) ________ sss

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Thought Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 28 Reputation: 47 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 02-15-2008 DjazakAllaah for your kind advices

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SomeHowpossible Limited Member Status: Offline Posts: 30 Reputation: 38 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jun 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 02-16-2008 Dear Pray for him Allah will bless him, i have experience my younger brother was rude person when asked he had never listened to us, but now alhamdulillah Allah has blessed him with his Blessings. ___ sss

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AvarAllahNoor Khalsa Shall Rule! Status: Offline Posts: 2,890 Reputation: 3917 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Sikh	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 04-09-2008 If your force your ways upon another they'll reject them. Make it so, that they themselves appraoch you to understand about Islam (in this case) Show how easy it is, and how it isn't life changing (Spirtually it is) he won't have to become a hermit. Get them invloved with Islamic things. After awhile, it'll all fall into place. Gur Fateh __________________ KIRPAN - The Kirpan is the ceremonial dagger carried by Khalsa (Pure) Sikhs, as a reminder to fight for justice and against oppression!!

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noorahmad LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 111 Reputation: 194 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Mauritius Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: unbelievers in my famliy - 04-09-2008 All you can do is ask du'aa that Allah opens his heart. the best way for you to try to get your bro on-track is dat u make him understand the greatness of Islam, that u show him proofs frm da Quran, that Islam is the true religion, and insha'Allah, he will revert back __________________ Hadith - Bukhari's Book of Manners #313, Ahmad, Ibn Hibban, and Hakim ... 'Abd Allah reported that the Prophet of Allah, upon him be peace, said, "A believer is not a fault-finder and is not abusive, obscene, or course."