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      Would you let your husband take another wife(s)?




      Before I got married, my friends used to keep saying that I should have the polygyny questions done as soon as possible. Most of the times, it was brought up as a joke between us friends, but when I actually got married, I gave it a thought and asked my wife about it last Ramadaan. She instantly said no. I didn't insist anything, but I added that she shouldn't give the answer away as an impulse as what I'm asking is not something haraam, but something which Allah has permitted. She thought about it for a while, and then she said that she WOULD LET me take a second wife if I want to in the future. Although she also mentioned a couple of conditions which I found to be completely fair (but mighty expensive).

      I don't want to take a second wife, but I wanted to know what my wife thought about it. Alhamdulillah, the discussion I had with her over it educated me so much more about what kind of polygyny is allowed in Islam. One of the conditions include that I should build her a house. That condition itself taught me that it is best that only the affluent class goes for multiple wives as they have the resources to maintain more than one household.

      Along with that my wife added that she agreed to it because she feels that as Allah has allowed it then inshaAllah He will also provide her with the patience for dealing with it. MashaAllah I was very pleased to hear such pious words from my wife. In fact, after a few days I came to know about a hadeeth which says that when women are exposed to situations that make them jealous, and they hold fast to patience in such situations then those women are rewarded like the martyrs. I'm not sure about the authenticity of it, although I've read somewhere that it is da'eef.

      As I have the green signal from my wife, I actually considered another wife, only to realize that another wife meant maintaining another household. That was enough to shoo me away as maintaining one household itself is pretty difficult in today's economy.

      Sometimes, I also think that my wife would worry if I start making more money, because then I'll be able to afford another wife.

      There are also situations when a fellow Muslim sister is in need, and there's no one to take care of her. Helping a helpless Muslimah opens a door of rewards, and that's another motivation behind my wife's consent. Here and there, my wife has told me that if I take a second wife, I should use that opportunity to support someone in need.

      So dear sisters, would you allow your husband to take another wife?
      Last edited by Ali_008; 01-23-2013 at 05:07 PM.
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      Would you let your husband take another wife(s)?

      If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their trust.
      Surah Ale Imran : 160

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      Re: Would you let your husband take another wife(s)?


      Quote Originally Posted by islamica View Post
      I would not trust suahib webb as i would not trust hamza yusuf. They are sufi and such a deviant sect has no place in Islam, nor should we take knowledge from such deviant sects. You're aqeedah and akhira is on the line here.

      Suhaib Webb admits he is a Sufi/Ashari at the 57 mark;

      http://youtu.be/M6cy8LjxHZU

      http://youtu.be/dNo2ZWwZwl0

      Different aqeedah.

      http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/10693/ash'ari
      http://www.asharis.com/creed/


      *backs away quietly*
      Would you let your husband take another wife(s)?



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      Re: Would you let your husband take another wife(s)?




      Pretty much what needed to be said has been said. My advice to all: study this topic in great detail, get married and then discuss this issue with your spouse. The unmarried brothers and sisters should think about just getting that one spouse first. Once you do get married you will be in a position to apply the theoretical knowledge.

      Those who are married (or have been at least once) have proven my point. For those who are not or have not been married before can be given advice all day long, they can swim in the sea of knowledge but still come out pretty dry. And the last few posts have proven this point.

      Last edited by 'Abd-al Latif; 02-05-2013 at 10:03 AM.
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      And verily for everything that a slave loses there is a substitute, but the one who loses Allah will never find anything to replace Him.”
      [Related by Ibn al-Qayyim in ad-Dâ' wad-Dawâ Fasl 49]



     

     
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