As many of you may know, I am a non-muslim woman married to a muslim man. This is the first Ramadhan that I have been invited to any family dinners to break the fast. Well, Saturday I went to one and it was........disappointing to say the least. My husbands family was wonderful! It was other guests that ruined the night for me. Some of the women were blatantly talking about me in arabic and saw nothing wrong with it. They laughed in my face at the way I pronounce the very few arabic words that I know. I was told that I should not pay attention to them and not let it get to me. They said that a lot of arabic women act this way. Sorry if I offend anyone, but this is simply NOT RIGHT!


I am not telling you all of this because I want a pity party. I am telling my story to serve as a simple reminder. This is a holy month that even I, as a non-muslim, can appreciate. Please remember that as you go throughout your days. You may feel that you are better because you are muslim and the person beside you is not. But there is no need to let that person know you feel that way. Consider how you make people feel in the way you act around them. Just because I may not understand the words, the intent is very clear. And if I know the intent, so does God.

And he is always watching.

Don't want to spam but just saw that my thread got approved so..........BUMP!

salamualikum.
OMG get used to it.. happens to me aswel sis.. im a revert and muslims tend to laugh infront ma face and chat about me but i don't care coz they cn't stop me being a muslim now!!
Ma'assalama

I don't think I should get used to it. I don't think you should have to either sis. Acceptance of ignorance does nothing but help it spread.

Well im used to it sis ... i see people near my end looking at me as if they never seen a revert in life or more like a christain wearing scarf *not that i wear always, but me trying to*.. gave salam to them they turn face around as if they never heard it!.
Speaking in there own language is the worse thing which really gets me vexed because it's rude talking in a different language if there's another who doesn't understand!

oh this is so sad! are you sure they were saying bad stuff? maybe they were complimenting yo. like 'aww...shes trying'....

Yes I am sure. I understand more arabic than they think I do.

all I can say is there seems to be people in all faiths, cultures and nationalities that fail to have any concept of how much words can hurt. I am sorry to hear you were treated in that manner.

They should have felt honored that you had the desire to even attempt to speak some Arabic.

...well they sure are horrible people. not horrible muslims. lets just blame their personality and character. not their religion, as islam certainly doesnt teach them that!

well...let me tell you something...atleast you know ur the better person. your trying to mix with them, not being rude to them & to top it all up....(from wat ive seen on LI) your a very lovely person! this isnt something u'l do is it? - if u wer in their boat. and nor would a muslim.

ello ello

the best thing you should say is, dont backbite me and that should shut them up


because then they will realise they wrong hopefully, if they dont, then keep walking past them and say loudly "ughh whats that smell?"

....lol....better say "shame on you"....forgot how u say it in arabic....i learnt it on my holiday in Morroco!.......................OH YEAH i remember....say "shamah!"....(am i right people? )

LOL I don't think she is that childish.

Yes sis you are right. I just wanted to serve a reminder to everyone here to keep in mind how they are supposed to act.

You might want to remind your husband of this verse from the Quran, that he may mention it to the ladies of leisure...


[Pickthal 49:11] O ye who believe! Let not a folk deride a folk who may be better than they (are), not let women (deride) women who may be better than they are; neither defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. Bad is the name of lewdness after faith. And whoso turneth not in repentance, such are evil-doers.


I am Muslim and Arabic, I assure you, it isn't common, advised nor normal to backbite or deride, even for two parties to engage in conversation and exclude the third...

peace!