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| Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 414 Reputation: 169 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: USA Gender: Way of Life: Christian | I would call them hypocrites. I would say, "Listen, you have no right to voice your idiotic opinions in regards to my lifestyle when you obviously fail to adhere to all the laws of Islam". |
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| Practicing Sunnah Status: Offline Posts: 318 Reputation: 500 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Feb 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | I could be wrong, but where I live, they talk about the brothers no because they marry more than one wife, but because the cannot afford it and do not give the sisters all of their rights and that is wrong. You must be able to take care of them and spend time with them equally. That is the main problem that I see going on.
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 441 Reputation: 259 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
One, some people marry two or more wives even if they are unable to maintain them all. It seems you are inclined to accuse for this the plural marriage law ordained by Allah for the benefit of His slaves. But a man cannot marry a woman at his sweet will; it requires mutual consent. If a man and one or more women tie themselves in marriage, why should it be others' headache? Besides, Allah has ordained in the Quran for those men who are unable to maintain a wife to exercise patience until He gives them the ability to maintain a family. Again the definition of maintenance is a matter which is different to different people. However, if a man marries a woman concealing his inability to maintain her and thereby afflicts her, it will be, in my opinion, a personal fault of that vey person like the fault of those engaged in adultery, bribery, dacoity, usury, theft, lying and so on. Two, as regards spending time equally between the wives, I believe it is an invention of some misconceived scholars; for it is practically impossible for a man to share time equally. Besides, Allah wants ease for His slaves and He says:"It is not possible for you to treat equally between your wives even if you wish to do so; therefore, in order to comply with Divine Law, do not lean towards one wife to the extent that you leave the other hanging in air. If you work out a friendly understanding and fear Allah, Allah is Forgiving, Merciful."[4:129] This signifies that there may be discrimination between the wives; but the degree of discrimination should not be so great as to do everything for one and neglect another altogether, that is, one should love and maintain his all wives and spent time with them, as is ordinarily desired for a husband, though at varying degrees. And set not up with Allah any other god, lest thou be cast into hell, reproved, abandoned.[17:39] | |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 207 Reputation: 186 Rep Power: 16 Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Malden, MA, USA Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Alas, I've seen even more serious abuses of polgyny, and some wonderful examples of where it's worked beautifully. If the man lives in the West, his wives may not have equal status under local law, which causes problem if a man dies without a will or is hospitalized, in acrimonious divorce cases, etc. If the man's wives live in seperate countries, then the man's ability to treat them equally can be compromised by travel time, immigration issues, local laws, etc. If they all live in a country that recognizes plural marriage, abuses sometimes occur on a more personal level- threat of plural marriage can be a form of abuse. Plural marriage, just like monogamous marriage, can be used well, or poorly. It does depend upon the individuals involved, and the willingness to work out a mutually agreeable way of life. As far as insulting a man simply for having more than one wife (assuming no injustice or ill-treatment), why not insult the man's hairstyle, or bad breath? It holds more opportunities for friendly ribbing, and is ultimately just as pointless. |
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| Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 79 Reputation: 25 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Michigan Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 441 Reputation: 259 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Could you elaborate your sayings?
__________________ And set not up with Allah any other god, lest thou be cast into hell, reproved, abandoned.[17:39] |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 441 Reputation: 259 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | CASTING ASPERSION T0 POLYGYNY is an act of agression in that Allah says: "O you who believe, do not prohibit good things that are made lawful by God, and do not aggress; God dislikes the aggressors." [5:87]
__________________ And set not up with Allah any other god, lest thou be cast into hell, reproved, abandoned.[17:39] |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 441 Reputation: 259 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Is polygyny is a profession to be practised ? Polygyny is a divinely ordained system of marriage; and speaking the truth is a believer's paramount duty. It is obligatory for believers to tell others to do good things and shun bad ones. Slandering polygyny or a polygenous man is surely a bad thing and such slander goes against Allah. And set not up with Allah any other god, lest thou be cast into hell, reproved, abandoned.[17:39] |
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