How NOT to be TOO emotional

Takumi · **How NOT to be TOO emotional -** 01-20-2006

I've come across posts that have smileys, multiple question marks, all caps and multiple exclamation marks. This clearly shows that some of us really put our emotions in our posts.

While others can be so stoic and not show their true emotions by smileys, they show it with sarcasm and words that subconsciously scratch fellow members' hearts to bits. [like someone I KNOW.

If you have any tips (I mean tips, not psychobabble like Allah is watching you, the hadeeth says this and that) please post them here. Those are information. We know that already, if you have to post the Quran/hadeeth, please try your best to also write how to apply them.

Honestly, I've seen some seasoned members' posts that did not escape outburts of emotions.

Thanks.

Takumi · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

Well, let me be the first one.

I try to make a sense of humor out of it. Well, sometimes members write some really straight forward posts, for example words like STOP WHINING.

This, if you look at it in real life, you can either say it in a soft melodic way or stern fatherlike-figure way. Since, it appears on your computer screen, YOU have to choose how it's said.

Peace.

swanlake · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

Nothing is wrong with being emotional. After all we are not made of stones. Keep in mind also that there are few young teenagers on this board.

Takumi · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

Perfect! Let see the example above.^

The post was written without any smileys (that's good, because assuming that she's responding to me, and I'm a guy, we don't want to be smiling to each other in real life, now, would we?).

Read the post and tell me, how many ways can you read it?

(1) I can take it as a diss to this thread.
(2) I can take it as an opinion, which she has all the rights to voice.

If I take it as (1), I'd probably say:

"If you don't have any tips, just get out!!!!!!! I know we're not made of stone, but having emotional diarrhea and not thinking while posting usually leads to unnecessary squabble!!!"

If I take it as (2), I'd say:

"Thank you.Your opinion is duly noted."

I'm actually responding to her opinion not the POSSIBILITY of how she wrote it. That, we gotta leave it to Allah and her intentions.

oh ya, Thank you.

zAk · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

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The post was written without any smileys

so tht in some way means u need some smileys to make ur tone CLEAR.

P.s : i hope i am allowed to smile at u

[btw m a bro too, u know ;)]

**Khaldun** · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

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If you have any tips (I mean tips, not psychobabble like Allah is watching you, the hadeeth says this and that) please post them here. Those are information. We know that already,

And why not? What is wrong with that? Isnt this an Islamic Forum? I am far away from knowing it all, I am here to learn aswell (as long as its based upon solid evidence)

Takumi · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

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Originally Posted by Khaldun

And why not? What is wrong with that? Isnt this an Islamic Forum? I am far away from knowing it all, I am here to learn aswell (as long as its based upon solid evidence)

Perfect! Thanks.

There's nothing wrong with it. Just give us the Quranic verses and you can, tell/show us how to practise it.

**Muezzin** · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

I use these smileys so people know I'm joking. The one or two times I've told a 'joke' here without a smiley, people get all offended and start calling me kafir and stuff. Hence:

You're right though, Brother Takumi, it is often difficult to gauge the emotion of a member just by reading the words of their post. In that respect, smileys and exclamation marks help to communicate the spirit in which the message is being given.

That said, there are some really silly smileys. Take the 'Offended' one for example.

I mean, what the heck is that? It looks like a burnt tomato.

Sahabiyaat · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

oh so thats what this is about

Musaafir · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

i personally thought that emoticon looked like a bomb thing..

so does that mean i'm not allowed to look confuzzled?

Takumi · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

Next tip.

Do you have text to speech program in your computer?

If you do, close your eyes and let the computer read the post for you. Computers don't put emotions in their reading. It'll simply read the post as monotonous as ever. So, your judgment won't be cloudy.

**Muezzin** · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

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Originally Posted by Hijabi_19

i personally thought that emoticon looked like a bomb thing..

So, when you're offended, you look like a bomb? You're Muslim too? That's racial profiling!

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so does that mean i'm not allowed to look confuzzled?

I think that one looks more like the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz, but then, I'm strange.

sapphire · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

burnt tomato...ah i dnt use smileys much but have strated to..n yeah see the point....just am lazy....

**Muezzin** · **Re: How NOT To Be Emotional -** 01-20-2006

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Originally Posted by Takumi

Next tip.

Do you have text to speech program in your computer?

If you do, close your eyes and let the computer read the post for you. Computers don't put emotions in their reading. It'll simply read the post as monotonous as ever. So, your judgment won't be cloudy.

Microsoft Sam is the computer's default voice, as well as my homey.

Iqram · 05:28 PM

When some1 says something 2 u wich is true, u just gotta accept it, like Bro Takumi said

"stop whining" (which he actually said to me)

I just took the bullet and said to him

"true"

But some people wud have called him all sorts of names, cos they're too sensitive!

Stop being so emotional, if u go 2 any forum, u will have to be prepared to get oppsed and being said stuff straight, So if u cant take this then please leave, u will have a lot of trobles being here

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Takumi Je m'aime tujours! Status: Offline Posts: 673 Reputation: 1617 Rep Power: 21 Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Luxurious loft with my Macintosh Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	How NOT to be TOO emotional - 01-20-2006 I've come across posts that have smileys, multiple question marks, all caps and multiple exclamation marks. This clearly shows that some of us really put our emotions in our posts. While others can be so stoic and not show their true emotions by smileys, they show it with sarcasm and words that subconsciously scratch fellow members' hearts to bits. [like someone I KNOW. If you have any tips (I mean tips, not psychobabble like Allah is watching you, the hadeeth says this and that) please post them here. Those are information. We know that already, if you have to post the Quran/hadeeth, please try your best to also write how to apply them. Honestly, I've seen some seasoned members' posts that did not escape outburts of emotions. Thanks. __________________ Takumi Nakashima WattaquLlah(a) wa yu'allimukumuLlah(u) (Be Mindful of Allah and He will teach you)

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Takumi Je m'aime tujours! Status: Offline Posts: 673 Reputation: 1617 Rep Power: 21 Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Luxurious loft with my Macintosh Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 Well, let me be the first one. I try to make a sense of humor out of it. Well, sometimes members write some really straight forward posts, for example words like STOP WHINING. This, if you look at it in real life, you can either say it in a soft melodic way or stern fatherlike-figure way. Since, it appears on your computer screen, YOU have to choose how it's said. Peace. __________________ Takumi Nakashima WattaquLlah(a) wa yu'allimukumuLlah(u) (Be Mindful of Allah and He will teach you)

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swanlake Allah's slave Status: Offline Posts: 389 Reputation: 470 Rep Power: 22 Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 Nothing is wrong with being emotional. After all we are not made of stones. Keep in mind also that there are few young teenagers on this board.

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Takumi Je m'aime tujours! Status: Offline Posts: 673 Reputation: 1617 Rep Power: 21 Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Luxurious loft with my Macintosh Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 Perfect! Let see the example above.^ The post was written without any smileys (that's good, because assuming that she's responding to me, and I'm a guy, we don't want to be smiling to each other in real life, now, would we?). Read the post and tell me, how many ways can you read it? (1) I can take it as a diss to this thread. (2) I can take it as an opinion, which she has all the rights to voice. If I take it as (1), I'd probably say: "If you don't have any tips, just get out!!!!!!! I know we're not made of stone, but having emotional diarrhea and not thinking while posting usually leads to unnecessary squabble!!!" If I take it as (2), I'd say: "Thank you.Your opinion is duly noted." I'm actually responding to her opinion not the POSSIBILITY of how she wrote it. That, we gotta leave it to Allah and her intentions. oh ya, Thank you. __________________ Takumi Nakashima WattaquLlah(a) wa yu'allimukumuLlah(u) (Be Mindful of Allah and He will teach you)

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Muezzin Why so serious? Status: Offline Posts: 8,785 Reputation: 23315 Rep Power: 57 Join Date: Jun 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 I use these smileys so people know I'm joking. The one or two times I've told a 'joke' here without a smiley, people get all offended and start calling me kafir and stuff. Hence: You're right though, Brother Takumi, it is often difficult to gauge the emotion of a member just by reading the words of their post. In that respect, smileys and exclamation marks help to communicate the spirit in which the message is being given. That said, there are some really silly smileys. Take the 'Offended' one for example. I mean, what the heck is that? It looks like a burnt tomato. __________________ Pay a visit to the masters of might, magic and Monday mornings Fedora-sporting userpage

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Sahabiyaat AllpraiseistoAllah Status: Offline Posts: 1,015 Reputation: 2410 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: in a universe..in a galaxy...on a planet in a country in a state in AN area in a house in a room:) Gender: Way of Life: Undisclosed	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 oh so thats what this is about __________________ Its sunny and i want to go out, but im going to have to stay inside for the next 6 months doing my stoopid dissertation , i need a life tyms supply of rocket lollies and sweets , donate generously for my seige

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Musaafir Umm..CHOCOLATE! Status: Offline Posts: 880 Reputation: 1721 Rep Power: 18 Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Chocolate factory ;p Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 i personally thought that emoticon looked like a bomb thing.. so does that mean i'm not allowed to look confuzzled?

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Takumi Je m'aime tujours! Status: Offline Posts: 673 Reputation: 1617 Rep Power: 21 Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Luxurious loft with my Macintosh Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 Next tip. Do you have text to speech program in your computer? If you do, close your eyes and let the computer read the post for you. Computers don't put emotions in their reading. It'll simply read the post as monotonous as ever. So, your judgment won't be cloudy. __________________ Takumi Nakashima WattaquLlah(a) wa yu'allimukumuLlah(u) (Be Mindful of Allah and He will teach you)

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sapphire LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 3,257 Reputation: 9441 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Jul 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 burnt tomato...ah i dnt use smileys much but have strated to..n yeah see the point....just am lazy.... __________________

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Iqram LI Oldskool Status: Offline Posts: 11,612 Reputation: 26435 Rep Power: 61 Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: How NOT To Be Emotional - 01-20-2006 When some1 says something 2 u wich is true, u just gotta accept it, like Bro Takumi said "stop whining" (which he actually said to me) I just took the bullet and said to him "true" But some people wud have called him all sorts of names, cos they're too sensitive! Stop being so emotional, if u go 2 any forum, u will have to be prepared to get oppsed and being said stuff straight, So if u cant take this then please leave, u will have a lot of trobles being here Last edited by Iqram; 01-20-2006 at 05:28 PM.