Mufti Menk says Allah tests us and tests us, none more than the Prophets and none more than Rasulullah, pbuh. i never had to eat the bark off trees to stay alive. i never had 3 sons die in infancy. i didn't have 2 daughters pass before me. the love of my life didn't die. i was never personally boycotted. i was never stoned [OK, i was, but that was more of a hobby ] i've never fought in battle, time after time. no-one has ever tried to kill me [not counting my first wife ]
i've been fortunate that Allah doesn't deal me stuff that would really freak me out. the 2 times i nearly died were actually kind of funny [not to my mom, though ], but would i be able to cope with someone else's problems? NO WAY! i got it easy!
everyday i look at someone else and say, "Alhamdulillah, Allah didn't test me like that!" it doesn't mean there isn't stuff in store for me that i can't handle.
Sabr, sabr, sabr. in fact, that's the name of the lecture, maybe it can help you:
here's another one: