Making friends at the Masjid

soulsociety · **Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

I was just wondering if any brothers or sisters make efforts to befriend people who appear to be lonely at a gathering, masjid etc.? Quite a few people write in and say that they have no friends or find it difficult, can lead to depression especially for sisters.

I'm quite shy, but if I see a brother by themselves I do try and make conversation. (Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

IbnAbdulHakim · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

naa i go to the masjid on my own coz most brothers in my area seem to hav sumthin against us bengali's, none really converse with us, most of them are turkish/somali

in east london and north got plenty of friends in masjids tho

Dahir · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

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(Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

amirah_87 · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

ass salaamu alaykum,

i don't mingle with any sisters when i go to the masjid..the handful of freinds i have is enough for me alhamdulillah...
i just can't be bothered to mingle with ppl , it just causes too much fitnah..and i know the outcome of that

so when i enter i just pass my salaams ...and quit the small talk...ppl might say i'm stuck up, but.........

i just go to do my stuff and leave!!...

don't worry yourself too much inshaAllah!!..

wa alaykum ass salaam

IbnAbdulHakim · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

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Originally Posted by amirah_87

don't worry yourself too much inshaAllah!!..

lol this is the key, silence is a virtue! and we are told to choose our close companions wisely.

amirah_87 · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

ass salaamu alaykum

yep

wa alaykum ass salaam

Helena · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

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Originally Posted by Dahir

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

yeah i kinda feel that aswell..am like that too...reaching out to ppl.....am a nice person..alhamdulilah..ppl easily can take advantage of me...da prob wid me....i easily accept/agree wid da person even thou somehow i disagree............but am a kinda person who'll never try to make smeone upset or hurt in anyway....ppl easily hurt me...but dnt wana hurt them back...its not me......

during mosque...performing salaah during jummah prayer or teraweeh, mainly go wid my mum, cousins or invite friends ova...

Dahir · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-07-2006

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performing salaah during jummah prayer or teraweeh, mainly go wid my mum, cousins or invite friends ova...

None of my close friends are Muslim as I live in a part of town where Muslims come and go as often as cars fly.

searcheroftruth · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

to be honest i don't talk to people in the Masjid because iam not there to make friends iam there to prey a

Abdullah4ever · 02:50 AM

Good point brother searcher of the truth.

I am at the Masjid for 10hours ( I do fulltime quran there and islamicstudies) so yah i no every single person there in the brothers section alhumdillah, astagfurillah unfortunatly im really talkitive at some times

AbdulHaq · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

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Originally Posted by soulsociety

(Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

lol, i swear, that is me, exactly. Those voices keep me company too, lol. And whats wrong with a little Isolation, gives me time to think, right?

Anonymous.92 · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

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Originally Posted by Dahir

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

Ahhhhhhh Finally someone that understands. I am in the exact same position. It is soo annoying.

muslim_friend · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

It's the usual "salaam alaykum, how are you?".. i know almost everyone in my masjid. Most of them are sweet old people or middle-aged men. I jus' sit down with them and see some smiles before the prayer.. That gives me a lot of happiness.. I love my masjid and its atmosphere!

Anonymous.92 · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

^^^ Mashallah

shudnt_have · **Re: Making friends at the Masjid -** 07-08-2006

Intersting q.

Well to be honest here...'those individuals who make full attempts to islolate themselves from others and stick close to the wall at the masjid...intrigues me nmore.....

i am usually friends with these type of ppl...who earn the price of remaining silent which is gold...so I approach them.b.c these ppl seem to be wiser then the regular chatterbox myself...

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soulsociety Full Member Status: Offline Posts: 232 Reputation: 61 Rep Power: 22 Join Date: Jul 2006 Way of Life: Undisclosed	Making friends at the Masjid - 07-07-2006 I was just wondering if any brothers or sisters make efforts to befriend people who appear to be lonely at a gathering, masjid etc.? Quite a few people write in and say that they have no friends or find it difficult, can lead to depression especially for sisters. I'm quite shy, but if I see a brother by themselves I do try and make conversation. (Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

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IbnAbdulHakim Fighting4Emaan Status: Online Posts: 17,378 Reputation: 65471 Rep Power: 123 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Fighting4Emaan Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-07-2006 naa i go to the masjid on my own coz most brothers in my area seem to hav sumthin against us bengali's, none really converse with us, most of them are turkish/somali in east london and north got plenty of friends in masjids tho __________________ - My tears testify that i have a heart yet i feel me and shaytan never part -

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amirah_87 Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 7,292 Reputation: 18127 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: 16°53'39.06"N 43°48'5.35"E Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-07-2006 ass salaamu alaykum, i don't mingle with any sisters when i go to the masjid..the handful of freinds i have is enough for me alhamdulillah... i just can't be bothered to mingle with ppl , it just causes too much fitnah..and i know the outcome of that so when i enter i just pass my salaams ...and quit the small talk...ppl might say i'm stuck up, but......... i just go to do my stuff and leave!!... don't worry yourself too much inshaAllah!!.. wa alaykum ass salaam

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amirah_87 Account Disabled Status: Offline Posts: 7,292 Reputation: 18127 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: 16°53'39.06"N 43°48'5.35"E Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-07-2006 ass salaamu alaykum yep wa alaykum ass salaam

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searcheroftruth Junior Member Status: Offline Posts: 48 Reputation: 15 Rep Power: 0 Join Date: Jun 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-08-2006 to be honest i don't talk to people in the Masjid because iam not there to make friends iam there to prey a

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Abdullah4ever IB Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 531 Reputation: 271 Rep Power: 24 Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Toronto Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-08-2006 Good point brother searcher of the truth. I am at the Masjid for 10hours ( I do fulltime quran there and islamicstudies) so yah i no every single person there in the brothers section alhumdillah, astagfurillah unfortunatly im really talkitive at some times __________________ As there is no darkness in the moonlight. So is Mustafa (Muhammad), the well wisher, bright. - Abu Bakr as-Sideeq (radiAllahu anhu) Last edited by Abdullah4ever; 07-08-2006 at 02:50 AM..

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muslim_friend Muslim, and Proud! Status: Offline Posts: 463 Reputation: 125 Rep Power: 23 Join Date: May 2006 Location: In the Heart of a Green Bird, insha'Allah. Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-08-2006 It's the usual "salaam alaykum, how are you?".. i know almost everyone in my masjid. Most of them are sweet old people or middle-aged men. I jus' sit down with them and see some smiles before the prayer.. That gives me a lot of happiness.. I love my masjid and its atmosphere! __________________ :coolbro:

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Anonymous.92 Full Member Status: Offline Posts: 274 Reputation: 141 Rep Power: 24 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-08-2006 ^^^ Mashallah

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shudnt_have Full Member Status: Offline Posts: 367 Reputation: 316 Rep Power: 26 Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: nomad by lineage Gender: Way of Life: Muslim	Re: Making friends at the Masjid - 07-08-2006 Intersting q. Well to be honest here...'those individuals who make full attempts to islolate themselves from others and stick close to the wall at the masjid...intrigues me nmore..... i am usually friends with these type of ppl...who earn the price of remaining silent which is gold...so I approach them.b.c these ppl seem to be wiser then the regular chatterbox myself... __________________ Ramadan Kareem.