I'll try putting it in throughout the different parts because the only reason i put it there was to make a situation, so you understand where it all starts off from, and how it can end up etc.

Jazak Allaah khayr for the idea, and i'll keep that in mind inshaa'Allaah.

Very nice Mash-Allah... Im waiting for the sequel..LOL

Good tactics!
You got my attention. And I couldn't agree more with some of the points mentioned.

The [Un]Hidden Enemy?



Some days pass by, and you feel that your friend still needs your help. You decide to go to their place. You feel sad that their hurt, but you know that it's better for them.. its for their own good. The people they were with before were harmful for them, and instead of allowing them to fall deeper into the darkness of sin, you have a chance of bringing them closer to Allah's Love and Mercy.



The stage their in right now, is a proper emotional stage and a life changing event. It's like someone’s just pushed them off a plane, they got no parachute, so you gota stand at the bottom with a massive safety net ready to catch em and then quickly divert them towards the hospital for safety.


The hospital is islaam.. because this is a proper critical & emotional time for the person, they can be pushed to one of two extremes [depending on who their friends are]: either towards the guidance and light of islaam, or they can be pushed to the side of evil where they hurt others because of the pain that they experienced them self, which then leads them to the darkness, and once a person falls into that zone - it's really hard to climb back out.



If the person was hurt for the first time, they will get different responses depending on who their friends are. The one who experienced the hurt will be affected by this, because like its been mentioned many times before - you're a baby, and you're going to get affected by everyone around you. These people will affect your future outlook on things, because when you've lost your lover - you feel alone, timid, distressed, weak, and your friends are the one's who will look after you at a social level, which alters the way you think and react.


The same way a mother nurtures her child when it's weak, and the child is affected by the people around it; in the way it thinks, reacts, imagines etc.





Let's look at what would happen if your friend still hung out with the bad boyz or thuggetez:


Your friend would usually go to the person who they felt most comfortable with from the crew. They wouldn't tell everyone in public because that would be a loss of respect infront of the people init? Or maybe something they felt shy about.

Bro, lisen.. remember that gurl i was with a few weeks back?


Yeah? What about her bro?


*the person thinks twice before saying this, their scared - not sure of what the response would be*


...I..m-miss her man..


Nah. no worries bro, this gurlz with some nex man now, y'knw. That's the life init, she thinks she's some pimpress or sutin. You gota get used to it.


..How come she got over it so.. q-quick tho? (the person works hard to control their emotions and their voice becomes quite shakey.)


Bruv, did you really think you two would stik 2geva get married, hav kidz n dat? lol this iz da game man!



- Time Out -

(Deep down inside, thats what your friend felt. He would love it if that could happen, thats what everyone wants. That's the fitrah [natural inclination] Allaah has placed in man, where love and mercy is in the hearts of the people, and this is what keeps them working together, staying together even when hardships come in their way..as a team.)


Your friend knows that you feel this way, but the friend doesn't want to talk about it. They don't want to discuss how you're feeling, because its not kool to do that. This society is surrounded by sin and promotes the idea of a hardened heart, which is the consequence of sins. The friend probably doesn’t even feel sad for the fact that your hurt, rather they would be more happy if you got over it and moved on because you gota be stronger. In other words, have a more harsher, hardened heart, because obviously, the intention is bad.

[خَتَمَ اللَّهُ عَلَى قُلُوبِهِمْ]


(Allah has set a seal on their hearts), "A stamp. It occurs when sin resides in the heart and surrounds it from all sides, and this submersion of the heart in sin constitutes a stamp, meaning a seal.'' Ibn Jurayj also said that the seal is placed on the heart and the hearing.

In addition.. "The stain is not as bad as the stamp, the stamp is not as bad as the lock which is the worst type.''

Al-A`mash said, "Mujahid demonstrated with his hand while saying, `They used to say that the heart is just like this - meaning the open palm. When the servant commits a sin, a part of the heart will be rolled up - and he rolled up his index finger. When the servant commits another sin, a part of the heart will be rolled up' - and he rolled up another finger, until he rolled up all of his fingers.

Then he said, `Then, the heart will be sealed.' Mujahid also said that this is the description of the Ran (refer to 83:14).''


كَلاَّ بَلْ رَانَ عَلَى قُلُوبِهِمْ مَّا كَانُواْ يَكْسِبُونَ

(Nay! But on their hearts is the Ran (stain) which they used to earn)'' (83:14).


[ At-Tirmidhi, An-Nasa'i and Ibn Majah recorded this Hadith, and At-Tirmidhi said that it is Hasan Sahih.]

By the way, I’m not saying that moving on from a previous love is bad – rather, trying to move on from a previously commited sin and not be regretful of it, then go onto other sins is bad. Because the aim of bad friends is to tell you to ‘get over’ the past lover, in order to become a ‘player’ or to become more harsher against others.






Subhan Allaah, surprisingly, females, who are usually known for their emotions even more, give a similar reaction. The irony is that they were also like this at their first time; they were exactly like your friend. In a state of worry, confusion, sadness...


It occurs when your friend might have gone out with a 'player' because he was popular, something which your friends promoted. They pushed you into it, so you went along because you wanted to be accepted, to be known, to be popular. It seemed exciting too, going out with the most popular guy who you could never have imagined to speak to before. Was it because I had started wearing more makeup? because i had removed my hijaab?





Shaytaans clever, he's had more experience than anyone on this earth put together.

Too bad though; because he's inviting us to harm, to sadness and to hell, but for some reason - we chase after it.

Hell's surrounded by desires right?




Your friend probably experienced all that's been mentioned in the previous chapter, love's like getting high without sniffing nothing but the perfume/aftershave your lover wears.

Or is it really love? Love's a two way thing right? Seem's like it wasn't real, or true from the receiving end of the playa or pimpress. Was it just a fake? Why do they do this? Don't they care how people feel?




These are the exact questions your friend asks when you meet them. Why did this happen?


People who have become used to playing others like picking on innocents. Someone who's doing it for his or her first time. You know why? Because they can control and limit their emotions, at least the emotions they have remaining. Whereas the innocent doesn’t know what’s going on, they don’t know the plans – they fall in it more emotionally than using their logic.





Remember we were saying in the earlier chapter that the only one who can't control their emotions are those that are experiencing it for the first time?

That's true, and the players are usually those who can limit their emotions, control them, manipulate them in a way so they don't feel hurt and if they've got bad friends, they will actually promote it and the more they cheat, the more they get rated.

It's a sign of respect infront of the people - yet its a sign of dishonor, and anger in the sight of Allaah.



The playa thinks he/she is getting away with it, they feel proud - yet because their locking their emotions up [in order to not get hurt], they harming themselves and falling deeper down the ladder, the deeper into darkness, and if they don't repent - deeper into the wrath and punishment of Allaah.


Why do these people lock up their emotions? Because they want to have fun and they really don't want to get hurt, so they don't place their emotions in, but use their past experiences and trial and error methods to play the person. To pretend to the other that they love them, while using deceit.

Some gyalz even call themselves 'Gold Diggers' because they use guys for their money, same can be said about some guys doing it to women.


The deeper one falls into this, the further they are turning away from Allaah. They are harming themselves, while feeling proud of who they are - not realising what Allaah has prepared for those who are rebellious.




Hurting someone on purpose is a bad thing. People are so used to it today, where some people say 'once a playa, always a playa' and they feel proud of that. These people don't desire a secure, honest relationship. Their heart becomes darker, their emotions are lost. Because they have no emotions, they don't understand, don't feel a sense of right and wrong. The consequences of this are enjoying, desiring evil and hating/detesting what is good [which is going against the fitrah which Allaah has originally programmed us with.]

Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Messenger of Allah said,


«إِنَّ الْمُؤمِنَ إِذَا أَذْنَبَ ذَنْبًا كَانَتْ نُكْتَةً سَوْدَاءَ فِي قَلْبِهِ، فَإِنْ تَابَ وَنَزَعَ وَاسْتَعْتَبَ صَقِلَ قَلْبُهُ وَإِنْ زَادَ زَادَتْ حَتَّى تَعْلُوَ قَلْبَهُ، فَذلِكَ الرَّانُ الَّذِي قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالى:
[كَلاَّ بَلْ رَانَ عَلَى قُلُوبِهِمْ مَّا كَانُواْ يَكْسِبُونَ

(When the believer commits a sin, a black dot will be engraved on his heart. If he repents, refrains and regrets, his heart will be polished again. If he commits more errors, the dots will increase until they cover his heart. This is the Ran (stain) that Allah described,


كَلاَّ بَلْ رَانَ عَلَى قُلُوبِهِمْ مَّا كَانُواْ يَكْسِبُونَ

(Nay! But on their hearts is the Ran (stain) which they used to earn)'' (83:14).

The ironic thing is that these 'players / pimpresses' were just like your innocent friend once upon a time. They fell into love, and got hurt also. They had two choices; either turn towards Allaah and His guidance, or hurt others because you experienced this hurt.

They chose the wrong path, and this is what lead them to harm their own self, and the others who may have fallen astray in the process.


However, Allaah is so Merciful that He is prepared to forgive us for our wrongdoings, even if these sins cover all of the earth. But we have to turn to Him sincerely in order to earn His forgiveness and reward. To Him we shall be brought back and be judged on all that we did.




May Allaah protect us from falling into evil, and may we all die in the state of Islaam. Ameen.

Excellent post

masha Allah! some really good stuff i enjoyed reading that.

wassalaam

The Moment.



*the phone rings. the latest R n B polyphonic track*


You check the cellphone/mobile screen name, it's him/her!



You got a smile on your face!!



Hey!! wasup?!!


hey sup, Listen.. i need to tell you sutin. i need some space for a while.. i got things on my mind and that.

.....

..w-what..what do you.. mean?


It's not you, it's me.. i got things on my mind, thats all.. i need to sort em out.

....

What is it? What's the problem.. I can try to help you.. remember what we promised each other, we said we could overcome anything together.


Ayt, yeah about that.. but this is sutin else. We gota have a break for a little while, ya'know.


But.. how come? Is.. it someone else? Why..


Don't you trust me!? Look, I just got other things to sort out.

Anyway, listen, we'll chat later. inabit.



- silence -




*a dead tone echoes in your ears*


You dial the number, which you already know off by heart now.


"The number you are calling is busy.."



You call again, again its the same voice.




*your eyes face down towards the ground.*




A feeling overwhelms you... a feeling..


It's the feeling of when the heart beats faster.. a big lump in the throat, it hurts... You can't control the tears, they flood out no matter how hard you try to hold them in. Your head hurts. Whether you're a guy or a gurl, its the same.. if it's your first time - you're going to feel this pain. This is what your friend was experiencing...





The lump in the throat builds up, it hurts, it feels like your hearts actually reached your throat and you can feel it beating like a drum. It's sour, like.. like when you get hit really hard.


The higher area of your cheeks [below your eyes] feel the same hurt as your throat, if you don't close your eyes the pain will increase more..


[like when you've been running for so long and you need to rest, otherwise you get a sour/tangy feeling in your muscles

[if you want to get scientific: due to the lack of oxygen and building up of lactic acid]]





This is why you have to close your eyes (to ease that pain), and when you do this - the muscles push against your tear glands which are already building up on the amount of water being produced,[this is the reason for the pain.] and when you close your eyes [the muscles which are holding the tears relax] which releases the water & your eyes overflow with tears.


"I tried..i swear.. i really tried.. how can people..d-do this..?" they said.


You can't do nothing, all you can do is watch and make them feel that things will get better with time insha'Allaah. You have to reassure them, you're there for them.. You pass them a tissue, come closer to them.. and give them a hug.




This is what shaytan promises you.. deceit, false desires and harm, in this world and the hereafter. He makes it seem fun, we get that feeling of adrenaline, a 'high'.. yet anyone who's experienced this 'high' - can tell you that there is a worser pain which comes after it. Whether this feeling comes through drugs, guys/gurls etc.


Allaah only forbids us from certain things because He knows that they are harmful for us. And he creates these harmful things in order to test us, if we go stay away from them - we may be saved from it, however some even get stuck there for life, while others Allaah saves by bringing them back to the guidance and light. However, this guidance can only come through sincerety and patience.







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You wake up.. oh no! I fell asleep.. you check your phone,

2 new SMS messages Recieved.



I must have overslept, you think to yourself.

- Open -

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SMS1
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hey.. listen, i havn't had no callz since dat day. do u really think their with sum1 els now?
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SMS2
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i cant sleep. i've tried txtin, evn tried callin but they not pickin up. are you still awake?
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You text back telling them you'll come over in a little while.




*Knock knock*


Come in, he/shes in their bedroom.


Oh okay, thanks.


You go upstairs, the doors locked.


It's me! open up!!




Your friend goes back to lie down again, staring at their phone.


*sigh* you go sit next to them.





Why did it have to happen to me for? I wasn't, i never even.. t-they.. came to me first. I never wanted to hurt him/her, thats the only reason i said yeh when they asked me..


Oh.. but you knew it was a sin.


Yeah.. but.. i really felt it would work, then maybe we could get married and be good.


Good can't come from bad though, sin can put a person in a worser position.


I know.. i know that now. I thought that he/she cared for me, we even said to each other that we would be together like bonnie and clyde. It's just that i wish it never had happened, yet at the same time i do.

I tell myself that if it had never happened to me, my life would be so much easier now, but imagining life without him/her kills me inside.

I can't love him/her if he/she isn't there for me, but i can't move on without them either.


Life without him/her makes me feel lost, yet life before that was free.. everything felt so simple, like i had no worries, and remembering how i cried when i fell in the park makes life before this seem so free.

But when i'm with him/her i feel even more special, i feel like someone cares for me, and they want to be by my side, they understand me and they make me smile. Yet whenever i imagine life without them, i feel lost again. It's like a circle, a cycle.. which has no ends.





You could see a tear rolling down your friends eye. Their face wasn't like that fun, baby face that they had when you two were younger.. it was now more serious, focused, it seemed more mature.


You missed your childhood, when you never had to worry about guys/gurlz, and all you had to worry about was who would win in the playground. This was a life changing event, and your friend wasn't who you knew of before, they were a different personality.





You have no choice though, you have to move forward with them.




Your friend was crying now.. it looked like they were having an anxiety attack.

You could see the pain in their eyes.. they were still focused like before, except the tears were flowing out much quicker than before. Sometimes they would whisper the person's name.. then become breathless. They would breathe rapidly, their lips quivering, while their eyes rained tears constantly. They would seek security, warmth by holding onto their pillow.



Imagine a baby crying, and what it does when it loses the one it loves and cares for. If a baby loses the one it loves, it can even die because it needs love, the same way it needs food and water to live.

When it cries, its eyes flood with tears, its breathing becomes rapid, its lips quiver, and if it's old enough it cries out, cries out for its mother and holds onto its pillow for security too.



We are all babies deep down inside, we only change outwardly.. but we desire for someone to care for us, to be there for us and to love us...




To be continued inshaa'Allaah...

im kinda late in this thread but u seriously got my attention bro. i read every post from word to word...can't wait till the next sequel.جزاك الله

I haven't read so much in the last hour ok ok since well a few weeks now
mashaAllah yeh realistic stuff u got up there bro...
Interesting read....waitin for the rest....maybe it could help increase my level of vocabulary

MashaAllah nice post... some1s r so

Aww these posts are really good!

I agree though, really sad too .... makes you think thats for sure!

Cant wait for the next bit

Nyomi

The Beginning..



It was my turn before you!


No! it was mine..


I'm going to tell my daddy over you..


Sooo.. you started it! shall i tell teacher?!? you even hit me.. saddo *sniff*......



.......



Nope, i'm wearing a jubba with a hoody for eid.


Is it?


Yep, we'll wear it for eid salaah.


Kool!


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It's not the beauty that counts, its the inside isn't it?


Yeah sis, anyway i want to wear loads of jewellery on my wedding day.


lol, thats a looong time yet.. remember your mom said you would get married until only after college?


..yeah thats a long time yet. do you want arranged marriage or love marriage?



..........



Shall we join in?


No, don't. They think their kool but we just messing ourselves up if we get involved.


Oh okay...



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Yo, sup! listen, we got sutin goin on? wna join in?


...Oh..Alright.. yeh safe!


respekt! ayt your one of us now..


Kool! what do i have to do?


Fo startaz, talk propa.. yo 1 of uz naw, ayt n 2nd we got a lil dare fo ya.


...Alrigh..aiiight! i'm in then...




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The Truth of this World



Life is a short journey.. you'll be travelling since the day you're born till the day you die. Then you will rest in your temporary home [the grave], which is probably an even longer place of residence than the home of this world. And the one after it will be even longer lasting.. once Allaah has created the soul of a human or jinn, it will last forever, the location of the next life [hellfire or paradise] can only be determined by what was accomplished within the life of this world.. the person lives in this life while facing many difficulties, and these difficulties can have different responses.

1) Some people may become arrogant and harsh because they are facing difficulties, and they feel it's stopping them from accomplishing what they want in this world.

When they are given an easy time, they act proud, but when they face a difficulty - they become angry and impatient. They feel they are self-sufficient, and rely more on the creation than on the One who really provides for them [Allaah Almighty.]


2) The person feels really weak and helpless, they feel that there's a reason for these problems. This person sometimes turns to God for help because he/she feels weak, but they still need to climb that extra step so they can turn to God whole heartedly. Which will be good for them and make this life and the hereafter easier for them, if they only knew.


3) This person has submitted to God/Allaah whole heartedly. The person feels desperate to turn to Allaah for help, because he/she knows that everything is under Allaah's control. The more a person is dependant on the Creator, the less they are dependant on the creation.

The successful ones are those who turn to God/Allaah whole heartedly in total submission [person no.3] because if a person submits to Allaah and is sincere, Allaah will give this person an easy life in this world and the hereafter. Whereas those who become arrogant when Allaah trials them, they go deeper into their arrogance which may distance them even more further away from Allaah. Person number 2 stays in a state of confusion and if they don't turn to Allaah whole heartedly, they are likely to be influenced by the society around them, which is usually something negative.


The only reason Allaah trials us is to see if we will turn back to Him, if we will stay firm on our belief in Him, because these hardships we face, they are given by Allaah; to remove our sins, to raise our ranks in His sight and in paradise, & to make us better people in this life and the hereafter.


Why? Because a person usually only turns to God if they are in need of help, otherwise we prefer our desires and turn away from what Allaah expects off us. These hardships are a way of bringing us back to Allaah for help, which is in of itself a form of worship.


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Truth or Dare? erm.. truth?


lol ayt.. You ever been out with a guy/gurl before?


er.. maybe?


Nah! thats not a proper answer. You gna do a dare instead, i dare you to go ask him/her out. Go on, you can do it!


I.. i'm...


what u mean? its a dare, its a game.


oh.. kay..


*the drum in your chest starts beatin faster*





hey.. lisen erm, this is jus a.. dare, so.. u wna.. go out with.. me? .. it's just a dare sorry.


what u think u r!? do one.


ok, i'm sorry about that..



hahahaaaa! lol that was funny, what did he/she say?


nothin.. it was nothin.



eww! did you see that guy, he thinks hes a thug or sutin. i hate dem wanabez.


lol alow it, he proli part of der crew now init.


yehh.. i thote he waz religios n dat.. weird.




listen bros, i'm out - catch up wit u'z later init.


ayt bruv, chat inabit. make sure u 'dont fall in luv wiv er' shes not your type! haaha.


hm.. ok. inabit.



......




you walk on home, your annoyed at yourself.. still kinda embarrased, but yeah - i'll be more braver from now on.


you need to get popular, but things aren't working out.. you start walking faster, looking at the floor while thinking of what you did wrong.



"oi.."


what was that? must be my imagination..


"over here."


You stop. Look around you, to your right.. someones standing there.


"who is it?" you ask.


you walk forward and near the corner you see two gurlz. Or is it one guy? Depends on your gender init.

Note: Females usually prefer to be in groups. This way, they can discuss the issue, usually with their best friend and explain how they feel emotionally etc.

Being in a group with more than two is social, and they might not get involved as deep into matters as much as if there were only two. If there are two and they are best friends, they are likely to explain how they really feel instead of playing along with the way they are expected to act [by the group they are with.]



Guys usually stick together in gangs, especially if they going to face opposition, or if they want to show their strength.

They don't usually discuss their emotions to each other, however - if two really trust each other, they might discuss how they feel regarding a certain issue. In islamic principles its a good thing to explain how you feel, especially when you know something is wrong. However, in the society we live in it is looked down upon, and this has many evil consequences such as doing something wrong, even though you know its harmful.

"listen, come here.. my mates callin ya"


"yeh?" you look at her then quickly look down..

[this is shocking because when Allah orders us to lower our gaze in the Qur'an 24:30 - we are naturally by default [in our fitrah] embarrased to stare at a person from the opposite gender, however this can be altered if the staring is done continuously and this feeling of hayaa (modesty) dies out.]



"listen, you know what happened today yeh.. i was kinda harsh on ya, jus wanted to say sorry n dat init."



"oh.. its ok."


"go on, say it then."


...


"ayt.. erm..."


"what she's tryna say is that she thinks your cute."


"oi, shurup you lol" *embarrased*


"Nah calm down gurl, so wa u think of her?"


"..."


"Wna go on a date with her then? listen, whats your numba, we'll give you a call later init."


"Ok-kay.."


"Just give us a bell and we'll save your numba"


"ayt.. safe."


*you take your phone out and save the other persons no. then you miscall them so they know what your number is too.*



"ayt, chat later yeh.. she's just quiet cuz shes shocked, thats ma gurl init!"




you rush home.. that funny feeling inside of you, its an exciting feeling. lol you got that smile on your face now init? your boddy feels ticklish.. and you're taking looong breaths [compare this to the short, quick rapid breaths of the person who's been hurt.]



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Love is A Tree


Love can't really be described in one word. It's a tree, and there are loads of branches extending out of it.

These branches include; extreme joy, extreme sadness, grief, anxiety, excitement, looking forward to what may come ahead, sweetness, pain, energy, a feeling of the unability to do anything.


Any word you can describe love with, its always got an opposite extreme to it.




This world has both of these extremes in, where love can end in pain, and pain can turn into love. Where many hard years of earning wealth can be destroyed within a moment, and a large amount of wealth can be earned within a small amount of time.



Allaah has created these factors so that we may see both sides of this world and recognise the reality of the hereafter. If a person submitted to Allaah in this world and through Allaah's Mercy entered paradise, there would be eternal love, joy, peace, tranquility, happiness there.

Yet anyone who disbelieved and turned away from Allaah's signs, they are liable to Allaah's punishment, and the punishment of the fire will be pure regret, hatred, anger, sadness etc.




Anything which Allaah has made haraam [forbidden] for us in this world, it is for our and other peoples benefit. Yet at the same time, like mentioned in an earlier chapter - Allaah has made certain things permissible for us, so instead of adultery/fornication, Allaah has made permissible for us marriage, and instead of doing haraam to fulfill our desires, we have something permissible instead to fulfill our desires and even get rewarded for it.



We all will die, and every soul will taste death. If we have turned to Allaah whole-heartedly, we will be succesful in the hereafter inshaa'Allaah. However, if we have turned away from Allaah and His messenger's commands, we are doing injustice because we are turning away from what Allaah has made permissible for us, inreturn for what is sinful, and harmful for ourselves and others.



We know that even if we love someone fully from our heart in this world, it still won't do good if it is a sinful love, rather it will push us deeper into Allaah's anger. If it's a permissible love, you may even get rewarded for it, that is allowed and if you keep your duty to Allaah your love story can continue in paradise inshaa'Allaah forever...

What Can I do?

How long has it been now?


2 weeks..


oh ok.. listen, try not to think about it too much then.


what can i do though? that's all i got on my mind.


hm.. what did you used to do, like what do you miss?



It's jus..st that we could talk about anything together. We said we wouldn't end it.. i don't, i don't think i can ever move on..


But, it wasn't even for too long.


Yeah, i know.. but my whole life, it feels worthless now..


No, don't say that!


it is though.. seriosly, everything that happened to me, it feels as if the rest of it's irrelevant, except the time when i was with them.


Can't you try to forget about it though?



no.. i think the reason why its so powerful is because usually.. in our lives, we do things which we don't fully focus on. So we don't use all our senses, maybe use hearing, listening while talking to someone. Or maybe tasting when you're eating.. but the difference is that when you're with that person.. you use all the senses you have, and that makes you remember them memories more.

Like, you use your eyes to stare at them, and your eyes pupils become bigger so you can stare into their eyes.. you hear every word they say carefully, trying to remember it; every word they say, and every moment feels special.


What about the others like smell, taste, and feeling?


All the time you got that person on your mind, so whenever you do anything - it reminds you of that person.. whenever you eat something, that taste remains in your mind, the scents you smell, the things you touch. It all gets stored in your memory.. that's why anything you do after makes you feel hopeless, because all your emotions feel limited, whenever you remember the person, you feel lost, because their not there for you no more...



Oh.. do you feel like moving on though? So that way, you can try to forget the past and try to do new things to keep your mind busy?



Move on to what though? I thought he/she was my future.. we could be together and have a family together. But, it looks like.. it was all false promises, it all just ended so quick..

I'm tired now.. tired of this world. I don't know what to do, where to go.. it's like, like...



It's like what?



.. I don't know what to say. You know like when you hold some ice, even though its freezing cold, you still feel it burning you, just like fire. The one that made me feel so special, they were the one who made me feel the lowest.. it's like they didn't even care. They just ended it.



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Patience...



You kept listening, trying to understand what they were going through. They would sometimes get breathless and emotional like before, but they had stopped contacting this person now, they had given up hope in them.. yeah - they desired to be with them again.. but we don't always get what we want in this world. Usually this is a blessing in disguise from Allaah.



Therefore, we can say that the first step for you is is to lookafter the person who's hurt, allow them to explain how they feel, and allow them to let it all out instead of keeping it locked in.


Don't always keep saying to them that 'you will get over it', or 'there are plenty of other fish in the sea' because this hurts the person more. They don't want any other fish apart from the one they were with before.


Every person differs on how long it takes for them to recover, so you will have to be patient.

However, you can tell them to be patient and gradually with time they will be able to move on.



At the same time explain to them that they might feel they can't move on, but Allaah has made us in a way so that we can, but this takes patience. The person will realise this later on in life, and its still worth mentioning because its something positive.

At the same time you can explain that Allaah never overburdens a soul with more than it can bear.

On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns.

(Pray: ) "Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget or fall into error; our Lord! Lay not on us a burden Like that which Thou didst lay on those before us; Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins, and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. Thou art our Protector; Help us against those who stand against faith."

[Qur'an 2:286]

Your friend will still feel sad.. they don't really want to move on, they want to be with this person. But they can't.. we know this world is surrounded by hardships, and even though Allaah may take away something/someone we love away from us, it is only for our own good. Allaah knows what is in the future, while we don't.




This person we were in love with may have given us a worser time in this life in the future, maybe made us live a sinful life, or maybe even lead us into the hellfire because of our sins and wrongdoing [we seek refuge in Allaah from this.]


The reason why its a blessing in disguise is because if it wasn't for this reason that stopped them, they would try to cling on even if they had to hold onto a thread. However, by one person ending it - it's actually the only way the person can try to move on [because their not getting any positive response from their ex anyway.] Other situations which force the relationship to end, such as parents, death, moving away etc are all different ways which may break up a relationship.

But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth, and ye know not.

[Qur'an 2:216]

You have to move forward...


As time passes by, your friend will gradually have to move on, whether they like it or not.




What can you do?



The first thing is, you have to make them lift their head up. If their still thinking about the past, it's going to keep them depressed for even longer.


Do this only after a few weeks, or 2/3 months minimum.. otherwise it's going to be rushed. It's also going to be hard to push them forward if you don't allow them the time for rest, or time to get over it.


You need to bring them to a new group of people. The best thing to do is to bring this person to practising muslims, maybe in a new environment.

This is because the person experiences a new place, and different people.




The new environment is important because your friend will experience new things. Maybe see something new, talk to, and listen to others who have a different mindset, compared to your mates old friends. Your friend will still feel in a daze, however these new people are likely to keep your friends mind more occupied, instead of your friend just staying at home all day [while remaining depressed about everything which occured in their past relationship]






Okay, lets see what we've just said.

1) Allow your friend to feel sad, and explain how they feel for a few weeks. Reassure them that things will get better inshaa'Allaah.

Don't use quotes like 'there are plenty more fish in the sea' or 'get over it' - but show that you feel their pain. And show them that you're a good friend. If you become arrogant and tell them their acting like a baby, their just going to feel more hurt.

Also pray to Allaah for them, because Allaah is the one who changes the hearts.



2) After a few weeks or 2/3months. Bring them to practising muslim friends so these people can benefit them in a good way inshaa'Allaah.



The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said:

"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend."

[Abu Dawood and at-Tirmidhee]



These people will make the person move on from their sad memories and make them think about new things. Your friend will have more contact with different people [instead of the sinning friends they may have had before.]


Keep this constant and make your friend meet them and go to different environments to keep their mind occupied. These environments can include meeting other good friends, reflecting on the creation of Allaah [i.e. scenery], visiting islamic seminars etc. anything which will make the person feel abit more different, a new experience for them. Their in a weak, timid state - so they need to have a calm place, time where they can feel relaxed. This is usually common in places where there is alot of nature.

Gradually as time passes by, your friend will start thinking less about the past and be occupied with the present inshaa'Allaah.

Remember we discussed in an earlier chapter that your friend's just been pushed off a plane? It's really important that you take them to safety with good practising muslim friends. If you don't, their just going to become harsh, or get influenced by society again to do more wrong.. which may make them hard hearted, and push them further into darkness - which we really don't want.



People differ alot; some move on from the past within a few weeks, months, others it might even take a year or more. However, the same method applies, but the timing differs. You know your friend, and you have to help them - its your responsibility. Don't give up on them, if you work hard enough and place your trust in Allaah - He will help youl; dua' (prayer) and patience - these are of the most powerful weapons which we underestimate.




You keep hearing this statement loads right? You're a baby, and you're going to be affected by those around you. You're the friend, it's your responsibility to help them from not falling astray. It's also your responsibility to be with those who are practising islaam, otherwise you could fall astray too.

So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:

Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.

[Qur'an Inshirah 94:5-6]

A man asked the Prophet about the Hour (i.e. Day of Judgment) saying, "When will the Hour be?" The Prophet said, "What have you prepared for it?" The man said, "Nothing, except that I love Allah and His Apostle. " The Prophet said, "You will be with those whom you love." We had never been so glad as we were on hearing that saying of the Prophet (i.e., "You will be with those whom you love.") Therefore, I love the Prophet , Abu Bakr and 'Umar, and I hope that I will be with them because of my love for them though my deeds are not similar to theirs. Anas narrated it.

Who do we really love?

Those who follow the way of the dwellers of paradise, or do we love the way of those who are under the wrath of Allaah?

Which group of people do we really want to be raised up with?

Alhamdulillah, Jazakallah khayran for the posts brother. You know? One day I want to be a wise friend, who cures my heart-breaking buddies...

Originally Posted by peacechaser

Alhamdulillah, Jazakallah khayran for the posts brother. You know? One day I want to be a wise friend, who cures my heart-breaking buddies...

To forget its not easy at all and sometimes there is no will to move one. Patience