Originally Posted by peacechaser

Alhamdulillah, Jazakallah khayran for the posts brother. You know? One day I want to be a wise friend, who cures my heart-breaking buddies...

Maasha'Allaah, may Allaah set our intentions right and allow us to do good for His sake. Remember that you should do your bit as a friend, a listener etc. but you're friend can only be cured by the will of Allaah, this comes through patience like tania said, and also prayer.

salam
wow! i'm hooked to your story, bro! one day you will become a successful author!
can't wait for the next bit...
wslm

Re-union



why is life like this..? i thought it would be more special .. why did it have to end so soon.. i should have been more patient.. should have stayed away..


But if i never, i wouldn't ever meet up with him/her.. and I wouldn't feel hurt that way though?


..i miss those times... *sigh* .. lifes so messed up...




*Beep Beep* 1 New SMS Recieved.



Your heart skips a beat. You rush to open it.

- Open -

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Hey, sup. listen, wna hook up?


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who is it? reply bak.


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Who could it be? is it them? i wish it is... go on, reply back quick please!

1 NEW SMS

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its me, i changed my number.

sorry about before, i had to sort some things out.


anyway, u ayt n dat?


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hey! yeh, its ok. i 4giv u. i missed u sooo much.
:D

where u wna meet up?


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erm.. whereva init. cinemaz? be there at 7.


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okay! i'll meet u there outside at 7. i missed u. mwah x


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What? is this a dream!? you've got all that energy inside of you again.. you wipe your eyes and start searching for your best clothes.




Where you going? It's getting late.


Oh, just to a friends house.


It's gettin late now, whats with all the makeup?


Don't worry, she's got a party. Girls only, i'll be back by 10. Don't tell dad init, he'll flip.


Alright, don't mess about. This is cuz u backed me up last time, safe?

Alright, ayt.. anyway am out.


Wonder wats up with her? hm...



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Have i got my phone? *checks pocket*



Hey, listen. Can you drop me off to pictures?


yeh, k.. wa time?


dno.. bwt half 6ish?


k, u owe me..


thx! yeh, i owe ya.




Beeep beeeeep! "get in you idiot!"



So who izi? wats hiz name?


lol, he ma hero init.


ayt ayt.. make sho hez na playin ya lol.


..shurup.


yeh, we ere. take a bus home init? i'll be at wrk. need sum cash?


nah, got sum from home. kk inabit!





Looks quite busy.. wonder where he's at? Oh, its not 7 yet.


hm this is takin a while.. i'll text him.



Yo! wag1.. how long u been waitin for?


Hey! na dat long.. i missed ya.


Nah, am here now init. so wa u wna watch den?


Dno, u pik. I'm happy with woreva u wna watch..


Ayt.. safe. We'll watch an action movie. u okay wit dat?


If you're happy, i'm happy...


Anyway, we'll decide later init. What u been upto? Been starin at any new guys lately?



W-what? what you mean..?


Oh, nothin. What's new anyway?


Nothin really.. i'm jus really happy that you're ere now...


Listen, anyway. I think i left my cash at home, let me check my wallet.

*opens up wallet, and looks through it.*

I'm skint. You got any money?



Yeah, i got some from home.. how much u need?


hm.. sorry about this yeah, nah we just need enough to see the movie together init.


Yeh.. don't worry. I'll pay.


Good one, thanks. C'mon, lets go now. Their about to start, let's get the tickets.




The seats are at the back i think.


Yeah, should have come earlier.


I did, but yeah.. maybe next time.


It's about to start..


....



Hey listen, do you think you could get some popcorn? We could share and that init?


Sure, that's okay.




You walk away to get the popcorn.


*Beep Beep* uh oh, i should have kept it on silent.

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Hey, where are you! listen, you need to get home.


Why what is it? *you whispered back*


I heard you said that you was at my house.


Oh, how did you find out?


Your bro rang my house, he asked, and we never had no party...


Do my parents know?


I'm not sure, but get home quick okay?



..okay.. i'll try.


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You walk back towards your seat.




Who were you on the phone with?


Oh, it was just my friend..


Where's the popcorn?


I forgot to get that, sorry.. listen, i'm really really sorry about this but i have to go.. my friend just called me, and i have to go home.



Who's this friend you keep talking about? You sure you not messing about with me?


No, honest. I'd love to stay with you, but i can't init..


Why not? Is this friend more special than me?


It's not that...


Look - i can't be bothered with this, just do one.


I'm really sorry.. seriosly.


Nah, you can go. I'll stay here.


Ok..kay. i'm sorry. Bye.



he wasn't interested, just kept staring at the screen.

You went outside, it was dark now. The street lamps had a glow to them, it was becoming colder.

Your heart sank.. a lonely feeling. You worked hard to control your tears again. Something covered your heart this time.. like an extra layer.. like a cloak.


You waited at the bus stop, everything became blurry.. you wiped your eyes.

The skin underneath them had become soar now, it hurt.

*Knock Knock*



Listen, come inside quick.


*You walked in, and rushed upstairs.*


"I think they know where you've been..."

I am waiting for the next post... impatiently..:-)

The Good Friend



What took you so long anyway?


I was at my mates house init..


Nah, don't mess about. We phoned your mates house.


oh..


Listen, i dno.. i think you should tell the truth before you get yourself into a deeper mess...


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Both of you! come downstairs.




you sat there, staring hard at the floor.


C'mon.. dad's calling.


You stood up.. everything's happening too quick you thought to yourself.



Both of you, come down! Now!




You walked down the stairs, knowing that you were going to be questioned.. i wish i could run away you thought to yourself.

You were in a daze, everything had happened within one day. No-ones even on my side, you felt alone...



You sat down, not knowing what the response would be..




So, where did you go?


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You felt, scared.. confused. What can i do? You was just getting over what had happened earlier today, and now i had to face this.

These thoughts floated in my mind, i was scared.. yet the room was dead silent.



Well?



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Your eyes were still firmly fixed to the ground, is this really the worst moment i've experienced in my life? It was a feeling of hopelessnes, an empty feeling. Tears were working hard to burst out, but you strived to keep them locked in.. one escaped, it ran down your cheek.


How long was this going to take??



Pass me your phone.


Now go to your room.




You tried opening your mouth, it was dry.. no sound came out, just a choke.. you put the phone on the table.


The eyes were hurting now, you closed them to stop more from rolling out.. as soon as they were closed, you ran upstairs. Fell onto your bed as tears rushed out, like a fountain.. you pushed your face into into the pillow and wiped your eyes.



Hopeless.. nobody to trust..everything was too much.. you.. cried yourself to sleep... you were having a dream.. everything was so special;

hey! where shall we meet up? hahaa, lol. lets go together okay? yeh! safe.
..where are u? stop messin with me.. i'm here.where!?i'm here..ur krazy lol. oii!!...




Oi! Wake up! wake up.. its me, its me. Your eyes were stuck to the pillow.


where! who? i cant see..?


It's me, what happened? What did your parents say?


.. oh it was just a dream... i miss them times..


i'm sorry.. what happened yesterday?


i don't wna talk about it.. my parent's have my phone now though. *you rubbed your eyes*


oh.. does it still have the messages in?


yeah.. dno what they gna say yet.


i'll pray for you..


thanks.. these past few weeks have been kinda tough, especially the past few days.


yeh, i feel your pain. i've known you since we were kids lol.


remember when we used to hate each other?


oh yeah.. lol. time.. changes people..


yeah.. it does.. alot...



You know when i walked in, your parents were lookin at me weird..


i think i know why..


cuz of yesterday?


yeh, because ..i said i were at your place, sorry?


it's k. listen, i've been goin to the masjid lately because i never had too much people to hang out with.. i made some friends there, is it okay if i call them over?


okay, make sure it's not someone from the opposite gender.


lol shurup.. obviously.



"Asalaamu 'alykum, listen - can you come over to my mates house? the one i was talkin about earlier?"


"wa alykum as-Salaam, alright. I was thinking of comin over anyway."



Alhamdulillah, they comin over. I hope your parent's dont get suspicious.


..hm....


doesn't matter, they practisin muslims anyway. your parents might be happy.


yeah, insha'Allaah.


so what happened yesterday then? did it end?


yeh.. kinda. i dno, its mixed messages init.. its not like the same like the beginin, everythin changed.. i dno why.


what if its another person?


.. maybe..



Come downstairs! your friends here.



Can you go down for me?


Oh okay. insha'Allah.




hm.. I wonder what that dream was about? They have been actin strange quite alot lately.



You heard some people running up the stairs.



Asalaamu 'alykum! hey.. how are you.


wasalamz.. am ayt n dat, u?


yeh, me gud thx.


i met them at the masjid init.


lol yeh, we study together.. got a club runnin in the masjid, we go places, travelin and everythin..


oh.. kool.




my mates just abit down today, that's all. lol.


its ok.. no probz. whats up anyway?



nah, its nothin.


no go on..


it's someone i knew...


oh.. is it, someone?


*silence*


ye..


Love's something you don't have much control over, it usually happens before you know you've fallen into it. sometimes, it doesn't work out..



i kno..



it reminds me of a story in the lifetime of the prophet (peace be upon him.)


ye?



i'll try explaining it insha'Allaah:

The Messenger of Allah salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam was telling his uncle Al Abaas the story of Mugheeth and Bareerah, he said: "O Abbas! Isn't it amazing how much Mugheeth loves Bareerah and how much Bareerah loves/hates? Mugheeth?"

Bareerah was a female slave and A'isha was interested in buying her. She was married to Mugheer, and Ai'sha freed her (they were married in slavery); a free woman cannot marry a slave man, so after she became free, she had the choice to keep this marriage or to ask for the dissolvent of the marriage. She said, "Alhamdulillah, I'm tired of this marriage, I'm going to get out." Mugheer loved her so much, sincerely and honestly. After she left him, he couldn't take it, so he went in public weeping, chasing her, asking her "Ya Bareera just look at me or talk to me." He went to sahaba and said, "Please talk to her for me (to Abu Bakr and Umar and at the end, even to the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wassalam) to ask him to intercede. So Prophet (peace be upon him) (as the mercy for mankind) felt sorry for him, and he said he'd do it. When he went to Bareerah, she asked, "Are you commanding me or are you just interceding?" The Prophet said, "I'm interceding." She replied, "If this is the case, then I don't want him", and since all else failed, he spent his life chasing after her and crying for her.


What to gain from the hadith:

Excessive love sometimes causes the forgetfulness of shyness. Just like in his example, he could not hide his love for Bareerah, but the Prophet (peace be upon him) didn't chastise him for it (becuse it wasn't in his hands.) He wouldn't have been chastised for it unless he totally crossed the limits. Imam Ibn Hajr said that it is permissible if it's out of someone's hands.

In the story above, Mugeeth even went to the extent that he asked the Prophet to intercede for him. Mugheeth loved her so much that the Prophet didn't deny that love, and he didn't say, "You can't because she's not your wife anymore."

*Love is a secret and it's an amazing secret from Allah (Subhanaw wa Ta'Ala!)*

oh.. thats shokin. I never knew islaam covered all of dat. i thought it was all about prayin n everythin.


nah, nearly anything that happens in our lives, we can relate it to the life of the Prophet or his companions. That's so kool because atleast we know that other people have been in similar situations to us..


yeh.. thats true u know. i never thought of it that way before.


just remember that Allaah never overburdens you with what you can't bear, Allaah won't test you so much that you feel you can't take it no more.. love feels like that sometimes, but in reality - Allaah is strengthening you, making you a more stronger , patient person.



yeh.. maybe..



We going library tomorrow, wna come with us? We can get some islamic books insha'Allaah?


Aiigh..Alright. Sure, tomorrow insha'Allaah. Tell my parents though, i don't want them being suspicious on me.


No worries, we'll sort it out for you insha'Allah!




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The 3 Steps to the Cure


When getting over a past relationship - theres 3 main steps the person has to go through in order to 'move on.' or move forward in their life.



The 3 Steps are:


1) Recovery.

2) Confusion.

3) Moving Forward.


All the events will differ according to each person. Some people will move from one step to the other quicker than someone else.

Some of the factors which affect this are if it's the persons first love, other reasons might include the persons friends and how these friends may distract them from the past and push them to move on etc.




1) Recovery Period.


In the first step, your friend will try to hold onto the relationship as tight as he/she possibly can. Their desperate to make it work and may even go back to their lover, even if this person cheated on them.

The emotions override the logic and all the person wants is for things to be normal again, but they can't - because they feel that without their lover their nothing, and even though they might want things to be back to normal - it can't because it was a life changing event for them.


You should allow your friend to go through this stage; they might cry, feel depressed, and want someone to talk to about everything. Be there for them and give them some time to recover. If you don't allow them to recover, they may become hard hearted and be forced to keep their past behind them. Which can have negative affects, so allow them to recover and explain how they feel.


Minimum time: 1 Month or a few weeks.




2) Confusion.


This is the stage where the person isn't sure of what to do. They still don't want to move on, but they know that it won't work out. Maybe they havn't had contact with the person for a while,


The person was clinging on in step no.1, but they fell off. Now they don't know where they are. They might still explain how they feel, but by now they've probably let it all out. You should now try to walk foward with them, maybe get more good friends who can influence them in a positive way.

These friends might help them and explain to them similar situations they know of, maybe within the lives of the prophets, the righteous etc.



We know of a famous worshipper called Fudhayl:

HE BROUGHT ME TO THEM SO THAT I CAN REFORM MY CHARACTER..


Al-Fudayl bin Iyaad was famous for his piety and worship, but he was not always a practicing Muslim. In his early years, al-Fudayl was an infamous highway robber; he would prowl in the night for victims on the road from Abiward to Sarakhs. Between these two cities was a small village in which lived a girl that al-Fudayl was in love with. One night, out of desperation to be with her, al-Fudayl climbed the wall of her home. As he was climbing over it, he heard a voice recite:


أَلَمْ يَأْنِ لِلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَنْ تَخْشَعَ قُلُوبُهُمْ لِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ

Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be affected by Allah's Reminder?

[al-Hadeed : 16]


At that moment, al-Fudayl answered, "O my Lord, the time has indeed come." He returned from where he came and sought refuge near a traveling party on the main road. They were busy engaging in a serious discussion. al-Fudayl heard one of them say, "Let us continue our journey now." Another answered, "No, not until the morning, for al-Fudayl is lurking on the road somewhere out there, just waiting to rob us."

Having heard the entire conversation, al-Fudayl thought to himself, "I go around in the night to sin, while a group of Muslims remain here because they fear me. Indeed i feel that Allah has brought me here to them only so that I can reform my character. O Allah, I indeed repent to you.."

http://www.islamicboard.com/599073-post25.html (Stories of Repentance.)

You see that the most pious of people may not have been pious once upon a time, but due to their sincerety and good companions - they came closer to Allaah. How could they imagine they would be known 1000 years later? That is part of Allaah's Mercy and signs for those who are sincere to Him.


The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said:

A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.”

[recorded in Abu Dawud & Tirmidhi]

So you should benefit yourself and your friend with friends who will influence you in a good way.

This is the stage where your friend is confused, they need to move ahead and this can only be done through social interaction. Otherwise the friend who's heart-broken isn't going to move on from the past.


These social friends should be good, and help you guys move forward. Even if you give him/her a little push.




3) Moving Forward.


Moving Forward can only be done once your friend is giving signs of recovery; maybe their interested in what your friends are saying, or maybe their talking about something else besides their previous relationship. Maybe their crying less, and wanting to accept the advice instead of simply nodding their head to please you.


Again, it will differ on how quick your friend recovers. Keep them busy so they don't hold onto the past and don't mention it much either, but keep them moving forward. Keep them busy with other activities, other ideas and thoughts. If you keep giving that extra push - they will have other things on their mind, and have a new social group - and feel accepted, loved and cared for.


That's what you want, and if you're doing it to please Allaah - you will be rewarded for it and Allaah will help make things easier for you. Just keep remembering, dua' (prayer) and patience are of the best weapons of the believer.

whoah.... thats all i gotta say man

Alhamdulillaah

lol

I've got into this thread VERY late but InshaAllah will keep coming back! Respect bro Fi-Sabilillah!

If my frend woz heart-broken..I'll take dem out sumwhere nice...get sumfin good 2 eat...chat and tlk wit dem..and try 2 make them 4get!!!
But if I say dat evryfin is gonna b alright..it shud do de trick!!!
I tell dem dat wotevr happens I'l b dere 4 dem...nomata wot

Masha'Allah! Amazing info, and so true too.

JazakAllah khair brother Fi_Sabilillah!

am waiting for the next bit. . .

i think its finished ukhtee

lol nah, i'm just doing it whenever i get the time. insha'Allaah i'll work on some more.

Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah

lol nah, i'm just doing it whenever i get the time. insha'Allaah i'll work on some more.

oh

Nice stuff. I feel sorry that Mugheer guy, the slave.