Thread: What to do if your friend gets 'heart-broken'?

What to do if your friend gets 'heart-broken'?

Remember when you and your friend were always close and you could tell each other anything? You were the closest to each other and nobody else came between you two?

After some time, you noticed that this friend was acting abit strange, and they wasn't giving you the attention you usually had.. wasup with him/her? you asked yourself. This friend gradually started hanging out with you less and you never spoke to each other that much. They started acting abit more 'kool' and they felt that you was oldskool..



What if it's a guy, or a gyal? you thought to yourself.. i've never seen them act this strange before.




Turns out, what you thought was right. They wanted to join the scene too and you was left behind, you're still a kid in their eyes but they've grown up. I'm hangin with the bad boyz now, or the 'thuggetez.'





You either had two options; you could do the same, or you could stay quiet and be a good practisin muslim right? Yeah man, you're bare shareef, thats what they all say... you felt uncomfortable with that, but you was scared about what the rentz [parents] would say, so you decided to stay on the back rowz for abit.



Turns out, this mate that you had - they wasn't interested in knowing you no more, they were with their crew and had their gyal/kuri or their thug with them. Man, why did this have to happen to me for.. you thought to yourself. Deep down inside, you was kinda jealous - how come this person got all the popularity, even though you was the 'good one.'?





A little time passed, a while later.. this friend came back to you. They were sad, but still you saw they was dressed the same way as their crew. Hoodie on, and rockiez.. or was it the big hoops and foundation?



"What's up?" you mumbled..

"Nothin much, u?" they said.



You was still kinda sad, confused and not sure what was goin on. You wanted to talk to them like the times before, but you knew that loads of things had changed now. What if things could get better? You wasn't practisin full time, but you knew that dating was wrong, you knew that because you wasn't allowed to talk to that gyal/guy on parents evenings when your parents came over to check up on your progress at school..



"I got sutin to tell you yeah.."




You was confused, not knowing what to do or how to respond..




"Yeah?" you asked.. not knowing what tone of voice to use.


"It's about this person i got to know a little while back..."






To be continued insha'Allah..

Did you write this bro? It very interesting, it actually kinda happened to me before too!

it happen to me aswell subhanaAllah

wasalaam

bro you and your to be continued, man get on MSN and tell me the rest !!!!

mashaAllah its good. but seriously, i think everyone who practises islam goes through this mashaAllah (well almost everyone).

If my friend was heart broken i'll take him out enjoy ourself not in a bad way...

Maybe i'll whooop his A** 2

Is that wedding story true?! Really nice post mashaallah

Yeah, its true.. the guy one is aswell.

Originally Posted by Maarya

salam

wow! i dnt know wt to say!

For sure the groom's life will be though.

There is a saying that.....

If you want your relationship with others to remain forever you got to compromise....

The first time experience...



The first time is always the most emotional. It's like you're re-born, and you're that baby who got the attention its always wanted. Someone cares for you, and wants to be there for you, they there to help.. they understand, you understand them too. They don't want anything in return except you..


You feel happy, nah its not just happiness - its not even like getting that toy you always wanted when you were small.. but its deeper than that, the whole feeling runs through your body.

Joy, excitement, you smile when you're together, and you just want to shout out to all the world.. your emotions are at an all time high. The first time is the most special, you've never felt this before..




Love is special, its a blessing from Allaah.

“And among His signs is this,
that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts.
Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.”

(Qur’an 30:21)

Anyone who's ever been in love can nod their head to that, that verse has to have the greatest description of love. When in love, you feel a sense of calmness.. a sense of ease in your heart. You even feel a physical change, and you sigh more often, deeper breaths which makes you feel even more calm and tranquil. This breathing gets affected tremendously if this relationship breaks, which we may discuss later inshaa'Allaah.



Ibn Katheer says something really interesting to explain this verse:


Tafsir of Surah al-Rum [30] : 21

If Allah had made all of Adam's progeny male, and created the females from another kind, such as from Jinn or animals, there would never have been harmony between them and their spouses. There would have been revulsion if the spouses had been from a different kind. Out of Allah's perfect mercy He made their wives from their own kind, and created love and kindness between them. For a man stays with a woman because he loves her, or because he feels compassion towards her if they have a child together, or because she needs him to take care of her, etc.

Stay Pure


The best way to enjoy this love is by staying away from dating even if others around you are getting involved in this. The reason for this is because when you're married, you both have agreed on a contract to live with each other and not cheat on each other.


You've agreed that you will work together so you can channel your feelings in a halaal or even rewarding way instead of doing the same in an immoral and haraam (forbidden) way. Islaam doesn't forbid you from all things, rather it forbids the harmful and it balances your desires, so instead of turning to haraam - you have a halaal method instead.


For instance some food is made haraam for you, yet other food is made permissible. Riba (interest) is forbidden, yet business transactions are permitted. The same way having boyfriends/girlfriends is forbidden, but marriage is permitted and can even be rewarded for if the person has the sincere intention of pleasing Allaah in the process.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said "And one will be performing an act of charity when he has sexual intercourse (with his wife)."

The companions said, "O Messenger of Allah! Will one be satisfying his desire and still gain a reward?"


He said, "Do you see that if he satisfies this desire with Haraam (illegal sexual intercourse), will he carry the weight of this evil act?

Likewise, if he satisfies it with Halal (permissible means, with the wife), he will gain a reward."


[Muslim & Ahmad]

When you fall in love, all that was worrying to you before - lifts off your shoulders. You might use these troubles to gain sympathy off your lover and to gain their attention. When you do this, they understand you and that makes the sad feelings go away. Their there for you, thats all that matters..


Remember when we said before that they put a smile on your face? It's because you can't control it, it just comes out. Sometimes your cheeks even get tired because you're smiling soooo much. It even happens if their not there, and can happen if you remember the good memories you had together.




Next time, try seeing a pair of lovers. Maybe not your mom and dad, don't want the shoe hitting your face now do we? lol don't stare at non mahrams either, but if you can see a pair of lovers. Try looking at them, they'll try to play games with each other. One of them will say something, and even though the other one agrees - they'll become 'cheeky' and try to say the exact opposite. Why? Because opposites attract, and you need some playful opposition to keep things alive. If you both were to simply agree on a point, and not disagree on anything whatsoever - where would the fun be?





Advantages of the first experience:



The advantages of the first time include some of the following:

* It happens gradually, so you experience it step by step which makes it more rememberable, this is probably why most people don't forget their first time experience.


* You fall into it whole heartedly, without holding back. You've never experienced it before so you can't control yourself and your emotions. This is why it's of the most powerful experiences within your life.


* You're the most jealous within the first time, because you're in it whole heartedly, you don't want anyone else going close to your lover. You want all the attention, and you don't want anyone to take your place in their eyes, so you do as much as possible to become closer. You're a baby, who wants the attention off the one who cares for you, before their eyes turn towards someone else.

The first experience is the most special.. anyone who's been there knows. Make your first time special, do it for the sake of Allaah, and He will bless you in it more and more inshaa'Allaah. Don't waste your time with other stranger guys or gurlz, because you're just harming yourself - you're harming the innocence of your heart. And the only time you can really experience the love is when your heart is innocent.


Your whole life will change after you experience your first lover - everything you've ever felt in life will seem insignificant uptill that point, let that person be worth it.


Do it the halaal way, Allaah will bless you inshaa'Allaah.

Mashaallah that was nice.

Are you going to finish the story... or was that just to grab out attention? The story was good lol