Ibn Hazm says:
125. Anyone who is forced to mix with men should on no account tell his companion everything that passes through his mind. When he leaves him, he must always behave as if he were a desperate enemy. When he wakes up each morning he should always expect his friends to betray him and do evil, expect them to behave exactly like his sworn enemies. If nothing of the sort happens, he should praise God; if it does, then at least he will prepared and the shock will be less. For myself, I tell you I had a friend who had sworn friendship, sincere pure friendship, for bad times or good, for richer or poorer, in anger and in satisfaction. This friend changed his attitude towards me, in a most hateful way, after twelve years of perfect friendship, and for an absolutely futile reason which I would never have believed could influence such a man. He has never been reconciled with me since, and this has made me very sad for many years.
However, one should not do bad things and follow the example of wicked men and traitors.
Notes:
- The first thing to note is that, despite these words, contempt for humankind is not what is necessitated. Hatred for humankind is the same as love for them, both being a stark weakness, both exposing oneself to be controlled and altered by the actions of others.
- What is necessary is apathy and indifference. And the perception that more often than not, people will harm you. They will betray you, they will decieve you, they will backbite you, they will disregard your honour. Loyalty in man is one of the rarest characteristics, and in my humble opinion, one of the greatest characteristics in the companions of the Prophet.
- Holding the expectation that people will harm you, and having an indifference towards people will allow you to act in any way you want - an essential disposition Muslims need in these times of strangeness - and at the same time minimize the effect of the inevitable evil humans will throw your way.
- The greatest walked lonely roads.