I've noticed that lately a lot of Muslims, (mainly women), have been saying that they would like to marry someone who is a revert. I can understand not discriminating on the basis of whether someone is a revert or has been a Muslim their entire life, but why limit your potential spouses to only reverts? I think that the main reason why some Muslims want to marry reverts is because they won't have to deal with the inlaws. Since the reverts parents are non-Muslim, they won't even have to come in contact with them. What do you guys think is the reason why Muslims want to marry reverts these days?

Asalamu Alaikum

Allah knows best brother and I plan to keep my views within insha Allah. Some may just get offended.

Say your views. Just don't say them in a way which would address a specific person. Make them general.

Asalamu Alaikum

Brother, even when one is generalising, people still get offended. Insha Allah others will contribute.

Expanding on my previous point about the inlaws. Many Muslims who want to marry reverts think that they are gaining freedom and escaping the burden of having to deal with a large family and the other families culture. To me it is better to marry into a larger family because then both your family and your spouses family will become united and you will have many more brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, moms and dads to enjoy your life with. Big family to me means lots of love and support.

salams,

I think I said somewhere that I wanna marry a revert. I donno why I said it though :-/ I'm not against anything or anybody...I am willing to marry anyoneeeeeee(born muslim or reverted muslim) from anywhere but he should have bearddddddddddddddd inshaAllah.

walaikum salaam wr wb.

Thats good sister. Personally I would love to marry a girl who has been a pious Muslim her entire life. She will have more knowledge about Islam, and will already know how to pray, and memorize a good portion of the Quran so that she can teach my kids and be a good example to them.

not everyone thinks like you. I went to the mosque "this lady was telling other lady that "these days guys want someone who is not niqaabi/hijabi" I was wearing niqaab right I felt soo bad. she continued saying "usually people with niqaab/hijab are bad girls..they try to look nice in front of people but inside they are bad...and the guys side wants someone who are not hijabi/niqabi.

I was just staring at her blankly...then salah started...I was gonna give her lecture on that...then I told myself "forget it...its no use."

Not all hijabis/niqaabis are bad...yeah, they might be few...but really nobody can judge them...Allah knows best about their intentions.

gtg college....lates.

walaikum salaaam wr wb.

omg sfj thats what i hear too

it's true.

ACtually its not, maybe those who live in the west and have adopted the western styles maybe, but not those who fear Allah and those who wish to remain pious.

Hmmm .... really? are you telling me in Turkey guys want to marry a girl who wears the hijab? It's not only in North America.

ok let me rephrase myself. Those Who have live in the west and have adopted the culture AND those who live elsewhere and have adopted the western culture by what they have seen but not those who fear Allah and those who wish to remain pious.

Assalamu'Alaykum

dear sisters SFH and amani... dont worry me too i am a niqabi. But let me tell you short story i heard.

"The parables of a covered women is like that of a chocolate"

Once a teacher is Saudi Arabia brought chocolates for her students ( who were all girls) she had 2 trays one tray had chocolates warped and the others were unwrapped. She told them to come up and take one, after they all took one she observed the tray and saw that no one took from the tray of the unwrapped chocolate and when she asked them why, they said." we don’t know where they have been or who touched it and its probably contaminate with germs.... and she told them Same as men, the prefer covered Muslimahs rather then uncover. :rose:


And those men who don’t want a covered muslimah then they must not love Allah and his Messenger.

And let me add turkey has been corrupted after Mustafa Kamal. so might as well consider it as being a westernized country.

mashAllah good example sister 3washey! As for me I would prefer a "covered" muslimah anyday!....and who says that the covered sisters are corrupt? subhanAllah!