1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

Yay!!

Of course, this should be mirrored by the wife, but thanks for sharing!

Blessings.

You Go Sister!! Masha'allah, there need to be much much more of these types of posts on the forum. Baarakallahu Feeki

Brothers Pay Attention to it

salam.
ta sis for sharing come on bros read carefully!!!

thx alot sister..very nice post..............every husband should read that...............nice post really appreciatable............may ALLAH give u jaza

aww dtz reali sweet

thanks sis for this post its really great. i wanna show my husband it without it looking as if im hinting. you see we are not living as husband and wife until the ceremony and i'v been getting all these tips from sisters but im sure the brothers are not giving the same kinda advice to him! its starting to look as if marriage is all about pleasing the husband even though he is showing me the opposite mashaAllah. Alhamdulillah your the first sister to speak of a husband pleasing his wife.
may Allah bless us all with successful marriages and that we complete half our deen sucessfully.:sister:

Nice post Mashallah, now if only i had a wife to treat like so. Speaking more generally though one should count his/her blessings and never take for granted what they have, doing so will make it easier to follow these tip for the husband and the wife Inshallah.

juz keep dem in mynd innit bro.. n wen da tym comes u can follo it..

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Really excellent posts that every husband have to pay attention to it. Althought we admit its the wifes who should pay mooooreee attention, but like hadits said "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
So husbands have to do self introspection to them self. And they must realize that its not only them who want to be pleased but also the wifes. MAsha Allah.
I think we should write this posts down and do these in our home, insha Allah manfaat.

Salaam o alaikum,

JazakAllah for the post.
May Allah guide our brothers as well as our sisters. Aameen.

To Allah we all return.

Alaikum Salaam

thank you for the tips, i was happy to see that i already do most of them.

twice, last year....

*coat* emigrated*

just wanted to share an article I read by IBRAR HUSAIN BOLTON

"Nice message to start a campaign for muslim men not to just say 'salallahu alaihi wa sallam' but to actually emulate the greatest man and a great husband- that way we will make his 'ruh' happy more than the lip service will. Here are 10 tips on how to be a successful husband:

1- Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah (saw) would always start with miswaak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2- Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah (saw) had nicknames for his wives- ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings.

3- Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day- which brings no attention from the husband until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognise all the good that she does and focus on that.

4- If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah (saw) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (ra). It's a technique that few muslim men have mastered.

5- Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the muslim ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those ahadith when Rasul Allah (saw) would kiss is wife before leaving for salah, even if he was fasting.

6- Thank her for all that she does for you. Thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the house, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be- thank her!

7- Ask her to write down the last 10 things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognise what gives your wife happiness. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8- Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah (saw) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (ra) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He (saw) wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9- Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah (saw) would race his wife 'Ayesha (ra) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10- Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger (saw): "The best of you are those who treat their families best. And I am the best amongst you to my family."
Try to be the best! In conclusion: never forget to make du'ah to Allah (swt) to make your marriage successful. And Allah (swt) knows best!

(any views or opinions expressed in this message are solely those of the author)