How do you greet one another?
What are the do's and don't in islam?
When i want to meet a muslim woman, can i approach her and ask her name?
Could someone point to me where i could get info on the practices of islam?
Books movies torrent?

iprofess is a great site that has a lot of the basic information new converts need. Many of your questions can be answered under the Life as a Muslim section. And as for a girl, do NOT worry about that right now. Seriously. Don't rush into marriage. Focus on learning your religion, getting your practices in order, and then when you're comfortable, then think about meeting girls.


However, for 1400 years, the knowledge of the Islam was taught directly from teacher to student. Today, we will often just pick up a book or surf the web and try to figure stuff out for ourselves. That can cause a lot of problems. Best to find a teacher and learn from one who knows. If there isn't one in your area, ICNA Chicago has a free online class on Thursdays

sorry, wrong thread

How do you say hello or thanks?
Thanks Janaan.

I would like to have female muslim friends. Not thinking about marriage yet . I'm very interested in opposite perspective of things. I'm interested with the perspective of the opposite sex about things like faith.

Greet others with Assalamualaikum and return a greeting with wa-allaikum ussalam.

Give thanks by Jazakallah.

As for opposite gender, you can't free-mix with those who are not blood related, without it being a public (i.e. can't be alone talking to eachother). I think others can give more detail on this though as I am too tired .

salam alaikum dear brother and welcome to islam.

Subhana'Allah I pray that Insha'Allah Allah swt makes the staight path easy for you and makes you a firm believer in your heart and gives you true guidance.

the actual way to greet a fellow muslim brother or sister is:
Asalam alaikum wa rahtmatullahi wa barakatuh.
but that is rarely used,
some say:asalam alaikum
some say: salam alaikum
others even say: salam

in most cases the reply to that greeting usually is:
walikum asalam

regards the dos and donts of islam, brother i suggest you get the Qur'an and read it thats where you will find all the answers to that.

when you want to meet a muslim woman? as in get in a relationship with her? or marry her?
well for starters pre marital relatsionships in islam are forbidden so im sorry but you cannot walk to a muslim sister and say "asalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraktuh, so what you saying you wanna be my girlfriend or what?"

as regards marriage brother you just embraced islam i suggest you learn about your new religion 1st then go on the quest for hunting for a wife.
but remember one thing brother when it is written for you only then by Allah swt's will, will it happen. no matter if your desperate to get married or dont want to get married at all. it is all Allah swt's decree.

so rest assured in that aspect insha'Allah when its meant to be it will be.

i suggest that you start off with google, do searches on way to perform salah and start with your salah 1st cos that is one thing that will strengthen your eeman (faith) and in just by doing so as in performing your salah and being steadfast in it you naturally and autmatically abstain from doing wrong.
then make the Qur'an your best friend, read it and try to implement it in your life.

then once you have grasped the above start getting more into it, but i think the above is a good starter and i pray that Insha'Allah Allah swt bestows His mercy and guidance upon you.

Ma salama. (peace)

Just to add, you will find a lot of things to read up on in this forum, info for reverts. We usually get reverts here asking for information, so InshaAllah u can search your way around.

Btw, welcome to Islam and the Ummah MashaAllah

Salaam Alaikum

how about sending friendly text messages using cellphone to a muslim sister, is it allowed? i would like to have muslim friends coz i live in a non-muslim country.

what these words means:

Asalam alaikum wa rahtmatullahi wa barakatuh
asalam alaikum
walikum asalam

what's jazakallah means?
i think i need to learn arabic language

Dear brother,

asalam alaikum

Asalam alaikum wa rahtmatullahi wa barakatuh = may the peace and mercy of Allah swt be with you.
asalam alaikum= peace be upon you
walikum asalam = peace be upon you too

these are the appropriate islamic form of greetings and a islam sister and brother is rewarded for greeting everyone including people they dislike in such manner.

Jazaka'Allah khair = May Allah swt grant you good.

now i'm guessing next you will ask what is "swt"
swt is the abbreviation of Subhanahu wa ta'ala which means praised and exalted is He (Allah)

when you name or say a prophets name e.g. prophet Muhammad then after the name you will see "saw" which stands for sal'Allahu alayhi wa salam which means peace be upon him and in short we use pbuh.

now regards your first question:
how about sending friendly text messages using cellphone to a muslim sister, is it allowed? i would like to have muslim friends coz i live in a non-muslim country.

dear brother, it does not make a difference whether you approach them in person, send them text messages, write them letters or communicate in sign language it is not encouraged nor allowed in islam...
why dont you leave the sisters alone and make friend's with the brothers first learn new things about islam, make islam and the message of Allah swt your number one priority... thoughts like that, im refering to your question are nothing but whispers of the shaytaan. and shaytaan is nothing but your deadliest enemy.

if you live in a non islamic country then find a local mosque and become a regular visitor and member and interact and make friends with other muslim brothers. then once you have the full lowdown on islam then start to make friends with the sisters since at that stage you would know the limits set by Allah swt and only if you have no ba intentions, cos if your intentions are not clean then Allah swt knows about it more than you do, and the last thing you want to be doing as a new brother in islam is commiting sin and wronging yourself again.

i am a sister and you are a brother, i am contacting you via this forum, but there is no sin in me doing so cos i am doing nothing but helping a fellow muslim brother understand our deen (religion) my intentions are to help you and guide you to the path of Allah swt for you to become steadfast in islam and end up in Jannah Insha'Allah.

so this is what i mean by boundaries. and you will only know and be able to differentiate once you know islam fully and understand its meanings, its message and its way of life. and i pray that Insha'Allah very soon you do.

so for now leave the sisters alone please, no texts, no emails, no letters and no sign language

ma salama

Praise be to Allaah.

Allaah has created man in a world of trials and tests, and He has made Paradise the abode of His friends and beloved ones, who preferred His pleasure over their own and preferred obedience to Him over their physical comfort. And He has made Hell the abode of those among His slaves who disobey Him and preferred their own whims and desires to the pleasure of their Lord. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Such is the Paradise which We shall give as an inheritance to those of Our slaves who have been Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”

[Maryam 19:63]

“But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from impure evil desires and lusts.

Verily, Paradise will be his abode”

[al-Naaz’i’aat 79:40-41]

And He says concerning the people of Hell (interpretation of the meaning):

“Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up As-Salaat (the prayers) [i.e. made their Salaat (prayers) to be lost, either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times] and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell”
[Maryam 19:59]

And He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“That shall be their recompense, Hell; because they disbelieved and took My Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and My Messengers by way of jest and mockery”

[al-Kahf 18:106]

“Then for him who transgressed all bounds, (in disbelief, oppression and evil deeds of disobedience to Allaah).

And preferred the life of this world (by following his evil desires and lusts),

Verily, his abode will be Hell-fire”

[al-Naazi’aat 79:37-39]

So the Muslim must strive to worship Allaah and keep away from that which angers Allaah, for Allaah will not cause the reward the one who does good to be lost:

“As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will surely guide them to Our paths (i.e. Allaah’s religion — Islamic Monotheism). And verily, Allaah is with the Muhsinoon (good-doers)”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:69 – interpretation of the meaning]

One of the fitnahs (temptations) with which we are tested is the fitnah of women, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” There follow some of the methods by which we can avoid this temptation. We ask Allaah to set the affairs of the Muslims straight.

1 – Faith in Allaah.

Faith in Allaah and fear of Allaah provide a safety valve and protect a person against committing haraam actions and following his own whims and desires.

If the believer becomes aware that Allaah is always watching and if he ponders the meanings of His names and attributes, such as the All-Knowing, the All-Hearing, the All-Seeing, the Watchful, the Reckoner, the Preserver, the All-Encompassing, that will generate fear of Him in secret and in public, and will put a stop to disobedience towards Allaah, and will reduce the strength of desire that leads many people to commit haraam actions.

2 – Lowering the gaze and avoiding looking at haraam things

The gaze can generate bad thoughts in the heart, which then lead to ideas and then to desires, then to will and resolve, and then inevitably to doing haraam things. Think about the meaning of this verse which makes a connection between the first steps towards haraam and the end result. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do”

[al-Noor 24:30]

Ibn Katheer said: “This is a command from Allaah to His believing slaves, to lower their gaze and avoid looking at that which is forbidden to them so that they only look at that which they are permitted to look at. If it so happens that a person’s gaze accidentally falls upon something haraam, he should turn his gaze away from it quickly.

3 – Warding off evil thoughts

Bad thoughts pose a danger to the heart… If a person dwells on them and does not push them away, they will develop into an idea, then into will and resolve, then this will inevitably lead to haraam actions. Beware of dwelling on passing thoughts; rather what you must do is to ward them off and crowd them out with good thoughts.

The treatment, then, is to ward off these passing thoughts and keep yourself busy with beneficial thoughts.

4 – Marriage

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065.

5 – Fasting for those who cannot afford to get married

– because of the hadeeth quoted above, in which it says, “…and whoever cannot, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5065.

Al-Qurtubi said:

The less a person eats, the weaker his desire becomes, and the weaker his desire is, the less sins he commits.

6 – Keeping away from bad companions.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man will follow the way of his close friends, so let each one of you look at who he takes as a close friend.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 8433; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 4046.

7 – Keeping away from places of temptation.

It is obvious that we are living in a society that is filled with temptation – media of all types, magazines, flirting in the marketplaces, satellite TV, the internet, etc… So you have to flee from all of these in order to keep your religious commitment sound.

8 – Do not make your houses graves.

Make your house a reminder of obedience, not of sin. If a room is connected to sin for example, that will make a person commit sin repeatedly, because every time he enters that room he will remember the sin and may be provoked to commit the sin again. So he should make his room and his house a reminder of obedience to Allaah, so when he enters he sees the Mus-haf which he reads, and he remembers praying qiyaam al-layl for Allaah, and the regular Sunnah prayers that he offers in this room. Doing a lot of acts of worship in your house will make a connection in your mind between the house and doing good deeds, so you will do more and will think less of sin, and the calls of desire will grow less.

9 – Trying to make the most of your time in worshipping and obeying Allaah.

Time is one of the great blessings that Allaah has bestowed upon His slaves, but there are many who are not making the most of it. It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Two blessings which many people do not make the most of: good health and spare time.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6412.

See also question no. 3234.

10 – Remembering the blessings of the Hereafter.

Particularly appropriate in this context is remembering al-hoor al-‘iyn and their attributes, whom Allaah has prepared for those who are patient and steadfast in avoiding sin. This can help the Muslim to look at these transient haraam pleasures which only lead to regret and loss.

We ask Allaah to help us to avoid temptation, both obvious and hidden. Praise be to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds.


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bro u can learn more from ur brothers than sisters.Beause u cn freely interact with them; no barriers watsoeva.
Male-female relationships are not encouraged in Islam, for its the root cause of many evils.

Stick close to ur brothers n stand to benefit.