salaam,

hey, i am a revert...of 6 yrs. i dont really like people too much though.
i have started going to jum'ah for the last 4-5 weeks. but i feel kinda like awkward.

can someone please reinforce my reasons why i need to integrate into a community??

please.

just load up the advice on me.... dont ask too many questions about why i feel this way or what has made me this way or what why who.......

just load up the advice.... positive reinforcement of why i have to get in with a community.

jzkhair.

are there any masjid halaqahs that maybe you could join and get to know the people besides from just at salah times?

I am sorry that you feel detached from the mosque. But may I ask if you are a male or female ? Maybe you could make a friend after the Friday prayer and start talking in a group. InshAllah this might help.

i'm a bloke.

c'mon people!!! positive reinforcement!!!!

i need it.

shaitan attacks the lone sheep......... thats a good enough reason to go to the mosque.

but i need more....

70 * more prayer blessings too....

but i am really not wanting to integrate, i dont want to get to know these people. i may be muslim just like them but i feel worlds apart...

just give me reasons to go. i dont care about socializing.

Originally Posted by ghengis

i'm a bloke.

c'mon people!!! positive reinforcement!!!!

i need it.

shaitan attacks the lone sheep......... thats a good enough reason to go to the mosque.

but i need more....

70 * more prayer blessings too....

but i am really not wanting to integrate, i dont want to get to know these people. i may be muslim just like them but i feel worlds apart...

just give me reasons to go. i dont care about socializing.

wr wb

akhi, you can integrate with your bro and srs right here on the forum.. there is nothing etched in stone that mandates that you must love and integrate with people from your mosque, people are people regardless of their religion.. perhaps you are in an area that is none too friendly, or they don't take kindly to reverts or shy or prefer to keep to themselves etc..

the possibilities are endless indeed.. Islam and religiosity is a pact a covenant between you and Allah swt not you and the community..
if you can't change the way these folks view you (and you are not asked to) then change the way you react to their negativity, surely even if they don't appreciate you, then your good intentions will matter to your creator...

God knows the only Muslim kin I have an can relate to are on this forum, over here I find brothers and sisters so warm and agreeable from all countries and all walks of life, here we have Somalians, and Malaysians, Syrians and Egyptians converts and everything far and in between, we all love one another in Allah swt.. and we don't always get along it is human and natural.. I got to tell you I joined a forum of my mother country last night and I can't wait to get my request answered and get out of there, I don't like the members, their thought processes or their topics..

they seem shallow, self-absorbed and superficial.. I am sure, I have a premature first impression, but I am definitely more comfortable here than there, so why should I force myself to be amidst people that I have positively nothing in common with simply because there is one small factoid that makes me one of them?

You are the company you keep, so keep yourself with the best company.. You have a whole umma of 1.8 billion, surely the members of one mosque aren't all there is..

we're your family for now, and insha'Allah in due time you'll find folks who accept you and whom you share some sort of a niche, just don't push for something that isn't there...

no Shaitan is going to get you, so long as you hold on to the unbreakable chain (chapter 2 Quran) Allah swt is the best of friends, and the best to delegate your woes to at all times.. and we on this forum are here for you.. so

aboard, you should try being on this forum during Ramadan as well, I think you'll love it insha'Allah

gossamer skye.

i love u. u have made my day. u have spoke words of truth.

i just wanna go to the mosque look these people in the eye and tell em i love them... they dont even give salaams to people they dont know these days....

dont u ever question.. what happened??? i am a revert. and islam is not supposed to be like i see it outside... wat went wrong???

it hurts.

Originally Posted by ghengis

gossamer skye.

i love u. u have made my day. u have spoke words of truth.

i just wanna go to the mosque look these people in the eye and tell em i love them... they dont even give salaams to people they dont know these days....

dont u ever question.. what happened??? i am a revert. and islam is not supposed to be like i see it outside... wat went wrong???

it hurts.

bro you're from leicester right?

how do u know dude??? u with mi5??? secret service??

i love u too adill..

but no. i am embarassed by my statements on this forum so i cant let u introduce me to your friends and make life easy for me.


i'll make dua for you bro....

Originally Posted by ghengis

how do u know dude??? u with mi5??? secret service??

nah I remember you mentionin it some time ago , but anyway if you want you can link up with me or some other brothers from this forum who live here in leicester, I've got exams so I might me a while but If you 're cool with it I can pm some other leicester brothers if u want to meet em

peace

Originally Posted by ghengis

i love u too adill..

but no. i am embarassed by my statements on this forum so i cant let u introduce me to your friends and make life easy for me.


i'll make dua for you bro....

bro thats fine if you don't want to, I know what you mean

but everyones says stupid things at first as well, so no one is going to judge you

its your choice but if you ever want to later just pm me

I'd love to meet you and go masjid with you I'm in a similar position lol unfortunately I live in Birmingham

Originally Posted by squiggle

I'd love to meet you and go masjid with you I'm in a similar position lol unfortunately I live in Birmingham

Bro I'm willing meet any brother from this forum, its just I need to pass my driving test durin summer then I'll be sorted to go wherever, lol you can probably tell how old I am from that

lol I need to pass my test too in the summer!! I'm so crap at reverse parking and reverse round the bend though

we'll have to link up sometime though defo if you pass before august I know a wicked 2 day conference that's going to be taking place. We could go to it, people like sheikh salem al amry, asim al hakeem, dr bilal phillips, and yahya ibrahim gonna be there if your interested let me know.

You could come 2 ghengis

whatever happened to the ummah... i never thought islamic people would allow stragglers on the edge of society to exist....

what happened to welcome... we are one ummah... we feel pain when you get hurt... yeah right....

i am grateful for all the comments and invitations... but i cant believe people like me exist....

isolated ones... i bet there are actually loads of us...... this is not good. its a social ill.
isolation is a western disease.
that it seems islam has caught..... maybe cos we are living in this west... who knows.

lonely fragmented individuals that have no home. i think i am a refugee.

yeah. thats it. i'm a refugee.