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| nusrat fanatic Status: Offline Posts: 6,250 Reputation: 28381 Rep Power: 58 Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: California Way of Life: Agnostic | what choice do you have? fortunately, you have a daughter who needs you.
__________________sometimes when we are in great pain, God seems very far away. this is when we need him the most, but something in us has blocked him. have you lost faith in islam, or have you lost faith in life and in your ability to cope with it? i don't know what you're going through but you are obviously suffering and feeling abandoned by God and everyone. many people have been where you are now. believe it or not, it does pass and things do get better. don't lose hope - you can't afford to as a mother. giving up is not an alternative. i hope you will find help and support while you are going through whatever it is that is happening in your life. each man thinks of his own fleas as gazelles question authority |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 317 Reputation: 1188 Rep Power: 11 Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | The people who suffer the most in this life are the anbiya Prophets alay salaam. Then those after them then those after them. Look and read at Prophet (saw) life and compare it to yours...No comparision at all. When I am distressed I always repeat "With hardship comes many ease, with hardship comes many ease" Then I say life is short and the ease will come sooner than expected. It does make me feel better. Just do what the Prophet (saw) did when he was in major distress he turned to his Creator for help immediate either through dhikr or salaah. That is what brought ease in his life. That should bring ease to all of our lives. Read Sura balaad and get a tafsir of that Sura. In that Surah it says "Indeed we have created humans in toil/distress." What does that mean? Why did Allah (swt) do that?
__________________Read begining of sura Ankabut...we all be tested eventually to see separate the true believers from the liars. If that all does not work look at all the wonderful things Allah (swt) gave you and be grateful for that. Look at people who have less than you and that will really wake you up. Gratitude can change your whole life 180 degrees. True Gratitude is amazing feeling that our Prophet (saw) always experienced. Gratitude is even linked to Kaffar (disbelief) which is what you are falling towards, unfortunately. I could say a lot more but I try to make it short. May Allah (swt) guide you, make your heart firm upon his deen, and increase you in gratitiude...ameen. Ummah Films <----Watch and support Kalamullah ----Excellent website Understand Quran Easy way "' al-Ilm Imamul 'amal" "Knowledge is the Imam of Action" |
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| Member Status: Offline Posts: 84 Reputation: 118 Rep Power: 9 Join Date: May 2007 Location: birmingham Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | ive lost faith in life and i no theres people out there way worse off than me but ryt now im feelin in a wa6y n which i cant even begin 2 sit and think about that,wel i cant control the way im feeling.ive had tears streaming down my face for almost the last 2 hours.its uncontolable. |
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| Lion Status: Offline Posts: 270 Reputation: 1047 Rep Power: 9 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: uk Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
maybe it would help if you told us whats really bothering you? and from there inshallah we can help even more | |
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| Spiritually weak Status: Offline Posts: 4,147 Reputation: 48664 Rep Power: 80 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Change the way you view life. Forget EVERYTHING for a moment. Forget any problem that you are having, forget it all and think. 1400 years ago, a man, claiming to be a prophet came and taught that this world is only temporary and that there is life after death. This is a belief that muslims should hold dear, that everything in this world is not to last. All material, as well as immaterial, intangible stuff, like happiness, sadness, grief, depression, it will all vanish. The only thing that you will take with you to the hereafter are you deeds. Work on that. Live you life according to that. Your MAIN purpose in life is to worship Allah, to prevent yourself from being chucked into hell and to attain paradise. About pain and suffering. I tell you from experience, that the best way to overcome ANYthing, is to forget about it. Adopt a 'don't care' attitude. Don't spend hours and hours worrying yourself into a pit. If you've had a bad life, don't relive it, just forget about it, completely. The trick is, to forget it all and surrender all your troubles to Allah swt. If a person is in so much trouble in life, such that he doesn't know to do, the BEST solution, is to leave everything in the hands of Allah swt and do your obligatory deeds, while hoping that Allah will sort everything out for you. Tawakkul is a major thing in Islam. It means trusting in Allah. We have to realise that we have very very finite understandings of anything, Allah swt knows everything, he knows what's good for us, he knows what troubles us...so then, if you surrender everything to him, are doing what he's asking you and being sincere, why won't he help you? Trust me sister...I've been in a place where everything seemed so dark. There was no light, everything seemed impossible. Believe me on this. I wasn't a practicing muslim at the time. Everything went out of hand, I didn't know what to do. I ended up surrendering all my problems to Allah...I stopped caring about anything. Nothing meant anything. Everything in this world seemed meaningless. I gained more and more trust in Allah, dua increased my trust. Things that seemed impossible, were accomplished. Alhamdulilah. So, what I'm trying to say sis, is that you should FORGET your troubles, ALL of them completely...then, place your FULL trust in Allah swt and live your life. You will, inshaAllah, see the impossible become possible. Some hadith which may help you: Quote:
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 317 Reputation: 1188 Rep Power: 11 Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Uncontrollable tears = stronger sincereity for help from Creator = coming closer to Creator when help does arrive....patience Sister patience. Definitely seek some counsel and help from people and know that in the end is for those who are conscious of thier Lord so keep firm in deen....and be aware of the hereafter after the temporary life.
__________________Your daughter is looking up to you as an example and she needs you to stay strong. The purpose of dhikr and salaah is to make us into better people who set best standard for our offspring. Through this adverse times you will be a better person and gain rather than lose if you remain strong and patient...if you don't your daughter will be lost as well. Ummah Films <----Watch and support Kalamullah ----Excellent website Understand Quran Easy way "' al-Ilm Imamul 'amal" "Knowledge is the Imam of Action" |
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| Spiritually weak Status: Offline Posts: 4,147 Reputation: 48664 Rep Power: 80 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Oh yeah. Trusting in Allah means knowing that he has FULL control over every LITTLE thing and can make the impossible become possible. This is something that you really need to embed into thought process. So, each time you come across a difficult situation, instead of feeling low and pessimistic, your trust in Allah's ability to alleviate you from any problem will and should give you optimism! |
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| Member Status: Offline Posts: 84 Reputation: 118 Rep Power: 9 Join Date: May 2007 Location: birmingham Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | i umderstand wot u r all sayin but ithe fact of forgetin it all,do u think i wud if i cud,i wud luv 2.It carries on and on.Weneva i feel like things r goin ok sumet happens and drags me back down again.Maybe when im feeling a bit better i can do somthing but right now im in such a bad place. |
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| iwannagetmarried.com Status: Offline Posts: 6,562 Reputation: 42444 Rep Power: 81 Join Date: Mar 2005 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Perhaps these threads will make you feel better Insha'Allaah http://www.islamicboard.com/miscella...lace-ease.html (Allah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with ease.) http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...dying-out.html (Advice: The Flame of Emaan that I once had.. is dying out...) http://www.islamicboard.com/miscella...s-sorrows.html (Patience: Solution for Life’s Sorrows...) هَلْ جَزَاء الْإِحْسَانِ إِلَّا الْإِحْسَانُ؟ Is there any reward for good other than good? [ar-Rahman: 60] O Allah, Lord of Jibril, Mika'il and Israfil, Creator of the heavens and the earth, Knower of the unseen and the seen, You will judge between Your servants concerning that wherein they differ. Guide me with regard to that wherein there is dispute concerning the truth by Your leave, for You guide whomsoever You will to the straight path. Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You lest I misguide others, or I am misguided by others, lest I cause others to err or I am caused to err, lest I abuse others or be abused, and lest I behave foolishly or meet with the foolishness of others. |
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| Lion Status: Offline Posts: 270 Reputation: 1047 Rep Power: 9 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: uk Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | sis theres a nice nasheed that might cheer you up
__________________http://beta.muxlim.tv/video/Hfsyp_AWEU7 it kinda relates to how ur feeling |
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| Spiritually weak Status: Offline Posts: 4,147 Reputation: 48664 Rep Power: 80 Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
What I'm trying to say, is that if you're in such a bad place, such that you've been pushed to the edge, and have wanted to commit suicide. It must mean that you've reached the point where you've just stopped caring? What I want you to do, instead of focusing on killing yourself...end your material life. Stop everything and SURRENDER yourself TOTALLY to Allah. Forget about this world, renounce it totally. Live for Allah's sake. Then, any problem you have, will mean nothing. | |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 142 Reputation: 288 Rep Power: 17 Join Date: Jan 2006 Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
Be optimistic sister, for Allah (SWT) is with you, and the angels are praying forgiveness for you, and paradise awaits you. | |
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| Lion Status: Offline Posts: 270 Reputation: 1047 Rep Power: 9 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: uk Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | sis remember Allah loves you more then 70 mothers (someone correct me if im wrong)
__________________and when u take 1 step towards Allah he takes 10 steps towards you (correct me if im wrong) |
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