all these post are great!!!! I will just have to pray and be a little more patient. But how can one wait when their are so many fish in the sea,(Christian/jewish world). However all is not lost. If Islam is true and Allah is our creator then all I need is a little praying. salam.

thats the motivation brother......all you need is a little praying!

Originally Posted by Belief_is_Power

all these post are great!!!! I will just have to pray and be a little more patient. But how can one wait when their are so many fish in the sea,(Christian/jewish world). However all is not lost. If Islam is true and Allah is our creator then all I need is a little praying. salam.

had I regarded women as "fish", who were there to be caught I would be all alone too, instead of having a family numbering around 12+.

until you look for an equal and like minded person, there is not going to be much success.

If Islam is true and Allah is our creator then all I need is a little praying. salam.

if? nauzobillah! therein lies the rub! uncertainty about one's faith is the the obstacle to one's confidence and many if not all fathers will see it.

Yeah my parent's are the same, but not with different races but with my own race. My mother would actually prefer I marry out of my race as weird as it sounds. Regarding your situation, pray salatul istakhara and ask that Allah grant you a pious wife.

Originally Posted by Abdul-Raouf

I have read that there are 3 things to be noticed upon... and its better if followed..

1.Its good to choose a bride less in status than the bridgroom(economically)
2.Its good to choose a bride who is strong in her faith.. and a good practising muslim.
3.Its good to choose a bride who is beautiful and quite less in height than the bridegroom.

Sorry i dont have the source in web...
I read it in an Tamil islamic book.


So bro ..try accordingly..Insha'allah you will get it.

It's better to choose a bride shorter than you? How come?

As for your situation belief, I agree, it drives me crazy when parents are like this. My parents not only want me to marry a man from my same country, but from my same city. I understand their opinion and where they're coming from, that there will be less culture clash, but still. As long as his deen and manners are good, he's great in my eyes. Unfortunately, my parents disagree. In fact, I'd love to marry a convert, merely because they are muslims for the right reasons. Not to say that born muslims are not (i'm born muslim myself), it's just that I find it easier for born muslims to be less into their deen, and more influenced by their cultures and traditions, so that it takes precedence over their religion, than reverts.

Great advice evryone...
Don't worry, you will find a good Muslim wife, just have faith in Alllah that it will happen when it was meant to happen (i'm not saying u dont try, lol)

I am in the same situation as you but on the other side of the spectrum. I want to marry this great Muslim (i was gna say brother eww! lol) Great deen and Iman, has helped me many times and has helped me to become a better Muslim too. The only problem is that...he is a bengali and i am a pakistani.

This is not a problem in our eyes, but my vain and prideful brothers eyes. He has completely abandoned the Shariah and is "taking his own approach" ...the pakistani approach obviously... But no matter what happens i am NEVER giving up!! This is just too great a thing to let go of...and over what...what people might say or think!! For someones haram pride!!

Sorry, i'lll stop here, lol, i was going to start my own thread on this situation... dont get time though.

So...don't worry bro u will find the right person Insha-Allah...

Originally Posted by Salam4life

Great advice evryone...
Don't worry, you will find a good Muslim wife, just have faith in Alllah that it will happen when it was meant to happen (i'm not saying u dont try, lol)

I am in the same situation as you but on the other side of the spectrum. I want to marry this great Muslim (i was gna say brother eww! lol) Great deen and Iman, has helped me many times and has helped me to become a better Muslim too. The only problem is that...he is a bengali and i am a pakistani.

This is not a problem in our eyes, but my vain and prideful brothers eyes. He has completely abandoned the Shariah and is "taking his own approach" ...the pakistani approach obviously... But no matter what happens i am NEVER giving up!! This is just too great a thing to let go of...and over what...what people might say or think!! For someones haram pride!!

Sorry, i'lll stop here, lol, i was going to start my own thread on this situation... dont get time though.

So...don't worry bro u will find the right person Insha-Allah...

Sis relax . InshAllah your bro will realise he is in the wrong........ InshAllah. But as I've said before. Talk. To. Your. Dad. Your bro shouldn't be the one running the household

He will not realise it, trust me, do u think we havent tried...

And its not that simple telling my dad anymore, my brother has threatened to kill him and me if we take such a step (he myt take this to the poilce, cos it is becoming more serious...) And i dont know how my dad wud react, he may kill me himself. So we have to take things slightly slowly...

Originally Posted by Belief_is_Power

Todays muslims are more worried about preseving their racial blood or nationality, then letting a good muslim marry his/her daughter.

Unfortunately, that is so true, but it does not occur to all Muslims as my cousin she married a Black Revert Muslim and I was so pleased for her!!! But her Father wasn't but his daughter is happy and he is finally accepting it.

Many Muslims choose reputation over religion and the "disgust" that marriage outside of culture may occur. This gets me so angry!!!

I say you should keep looking but if you can't find any Parent or Brother who would let you marry their daughter then marry a Christian or Jew as it is allowed for Muslim men. However, why not look for a revert Muslim Sister? They may be likely to accept your proposal.

Just make Du'a and Insha'Allaah Ta'ala, everything will be alright.

Originally Posted by Belief_is_Power

If Islam is true and Allah is our creator then all I need is a little praying. salam.

Originally Posted by NoName55

if? nazobillah! therein lies the rub! uncertainty about one's faith is the the obstacle to one's confidence and many if not all fathers will see it.

It's true what Brother NoName55 has written, Brother Belief_is_Power, DO NOT DOUBT ISLAM IS TRUE AND ALLAAH TA'ALA IS THE CREATOR BELIEVE IT as you did revert to Islam on the basis of this belief and the Shahadah (read my signature)

& always pray on time and make Du'a to The Almighty.

if you dont marry a muslimah you'll be losing out on something amazing, so have patience and keep looking.


Assalamu Alaikum

So you would rather marry someone who will not be with you in the Hereafter if (Inshaa Allaah) you go to Jannah?

Pride, arrogance, superiority complex, selfishness, ignorance exist within all cultures boundaries and religions brother


I gaurantee you if you go to for example Saudi Arabia you will meet many families that will outright reject you based on the color of your skin and that your an American or other stupid reasons. These will be the same muslim families youll see at the mosque
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But amongst them youll find shining beacons of Islam that would open their arms and their hearts to you so long as your iman and your deen is high. I have had the pleasure of knowing such people and usually youll find they are truly pious men with fear of allah stamped in their hearts and the message of the prophet carried within them. To them faith iman deen is all that matters.

Be patient brother and you will inshallah find the right one. And really try and avoid Christian or jewish wife, youd like to have a new life with hope and happiness and someone who can support and push you in your faith not someone whom youll have strife and hardships and may tempt you into other things.

Originally Posted by Muj4h1d4

So you would rather marry someone who will not be with you in the Hereafter if (Inshaa Allaah) you go to Jannah?

I've never thought of it that way, actually.
And it makes a LOT of sense.

^^^ Lol once a while the brain works