salam
sis, if he sits on side of the room, then move to the other side of the room where he can't swivel next to you
wasalam

[quote=Rabi'ya;108758]sis, just because they are english boys and you dress modestly does not mean that they will nto become attracted to you. they may find you, astaghfirullah, a challenge and therefore try harder to tempt you. I know from experience sis.

Gud point sis. But I will never get tempted by English boys.....they dont impress me. I know I shoudlnt say this on the forum but.....Im more of a saudi Arab kinda person. Not English!!! No offense.....Im just the way I am.


the best thing you can do is speak to this "brother" and tell him how you feel and that its simply makes you feel uncomfortable. he may just be intrigued as to why you dress like that, or impressed that your iman is so strong. he may be jealous and wanting guidance himself. you shudnt assume he didnt fast just because he wears gold and is a "bad boy".

Thanks sis. But Im NOT going to speak to him :

How do I put it?

'why do u stare at me?'

sis, u seem pretty upset today. I think you need to rethink and just calm down.

maybe the brother has issues. in any case, u shudnt let him affect your studies. Just think about the reason your studying and dont let him put yuo off. If he wants to stare let him stare. wear niqab for that class only if you feel better, but again, that may encourage him to stare again.

just concentrate on your studies, its not long sis.



Rabi'ya:rose:

[quote=Rabi'ya;108768]sis, u seem pretty upset today. I think you need to rethink and just calm down.

I am sis.*sobs*

maybe the brother has issues. in any case, u shudnt let him affect your studies. Just think about the reason your studying and dont let him put yuo off. If he wants to stare let him stare. wear niqab for that class only if you feel better, but again, that may encourage him to stare again.

I promised myself and Allah that Id wear it wen I married. I CANT wear it at college bcuz ALL the ppl here are racist. I swear!!! Its not even esay to walk alone....I take the lift up the stairs in case anyone pulls my jilbabb and I go flying down the staircase!!!

You say that english boys dont interest you, and i understand what your saying, but from what i gather your not interested in this boy either, so why the fuss?is it just coz hes from a Muslim background, u feel like he shud kno better.englihs boys and muslims boys both have the same urges its just that the more islamic a person is the more they focus on harnessing their desires.
this "brother" may just not undertsnad and sees you as a challenge the same as other english boys might. jsut because hes from a Muslim family does not mean he is any different from teh english boys. he still lives in this society!!



Rabi'ya:rose:

[quote=Rabi'ya;108770]You say that english boys dont interest you, and i understand what your saying, but from what i gather your not interested in this boy either, so why the fuss?is it just coz hes from a Muslim background, u feel like he shud kno better.englihs boys and muslims boys both have the same urges its just that the more islamic a person is the more they focus on harnessing their desires.

No sis. Its bcuz....*ashamed to say this*I know he has a soft spot for me (DONT U DARE TEASE ME.....NONE OF YOU)

salam
may allah guide us all and protect us all
wasalam

well, how do you know if hes never spoken to you? the best thing to do it continue to maintain your haya. just think that im with you sis.....



Rabi'ya:rose:

Ameen. Ameen.Ameen.

[quote=Rabi'ya;108775]well, how do you know if hes never spoken to you?

Bcuz of the way he acts around me. He is just so.....obbssesed. Why sont he luk at the other girls....I mean, he chats to the bengali muslim girl in my class. With me.....he is....quite but **** sneeky.

Lets allow the Agony Aunts to give the answers. I hope they get here b4 my lesson!!!
the best thing to do it continue to maintain your haya. just think that im with you sis.....

I luv u sis. I really do!!!

he'll probs give up after a few months i know it may be hard but make duaa and keep focused on ur studies.

love you too sis mwah!:rose:



Rabi'ya:rose:

salam
just keep avoiding him so he gets the hint that you don't want him around you
wasalam

Oooh-kay. This particular problem is better suited to the Cyber Counselling forum.

And that was a picture of a taser by the way. ;)

Fine.

I have a problem Id like brother Muezzin and brother Minaz to try to helpout with.

I think I am addicted to cucumber and mayo sandwiches....

Can you suggest what to do?



Rabi'ya:rose: